Row with neighbour about parking

Row with neighbour about parking

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CasuallyDressed

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73 posts

133 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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xjay1337 said:
A little bit of civility goes a long way. To park your car outside of someone elses house, IN ANOTHER STREET (?) when you don't even actually live on that street (you claim it's your girlfriends property, so you stay there some / most nights?) is selfish.

Park your car where it will not annoy anyone, do you seriously fking stand there looking at it all night?
I remember when I was that protective about my car, now while I take reasonable steps once it's parked, it's parked and I go about my business.

You need to find property that is suitable for you. Mrs and I very recently got tenancy on a new property to rent.
Ok, a couple of points to set you straight.

1. Civility does go a long way, yes. He discarded civility at the earliest possible moment.
2. I don't park on another street. I park on the same street. I said this in my OP.
3. I do live on this street.
4. It is not my girlfriend's property. It is OUR property. Not sure where in my OP I claimed that I was visiting. The second line even says "My partner and I live...".
5. No I do not seriously f*cking stand there looking at it all night. Please see a previous post as to why I like to see my vehicle from the flat.
6. We have found a property that is suitable for us, thanks. One allocated space with additional on road parking. Much like how he has found a property with a driveway and additional on road parking.

Seriously, your post was so inaccurate I wonder why you bothered posting at all :-/

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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Not really. I got one point wrong. Joint house. I must have muddled up in my head where you said she parks in the allocated parking spot.

The point says "One allocated parking spot".

Now I have not seen the Google Map link to your property and where you park. Maybe you can provide this.
But I would also be pretty pissed off if I lived in a house, you lived in a block of flats, and then parked your car outside my house.

Would I vandalise your car? No.
Would I say something to your face? Probably not.
Would I complain to my Mrs and dog about you? Absofkinlutley.

What you are doing is exactly the same as what the van man is doing except, in your case, you are parking outside his home.
I can absolutely understand where he is coming from.

And to run to the police saying "he threatened to hurt me daddy!" oh how funny.

If i were you I'd either move to somewhere with either 2 allocated parking spaces, a proper house, or, maybe, park somewhere else that's not going to cause problems.

If you are that precious about your car then park your car in the allocated bay and have your Mrs park her car somewhere else.
The most valuable car gets the space.

blueg33

35,580 posts

223 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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xjay1337 said:
Not really. I got one point wrong. Joint house. I must have muddled up in my head where you said she parks in the allocated parking spot.

The point says "One allocated parking spot".

Now I have not seen the Google Map link to your property and where you park. Maybe you can provide this.
But I would also be pretty pissed off if I lived in a house, you lived in a block of flats, and then parked your car outside my house.

Would I vandalise your car? No.
Would I say something to your face? Probably not.
Would I complain to my Mrs and dog about you? Absofkinlutley.

What you are doing is exactly the same as what the van man is doing except, in your case, you are parking outside his home.
I can absolutely understand where he is coming from.

And to run to the police saying "he threatened to hurt me daddy!" oh how funny.

If i were you I'd either move to somewhere with either 2 allocated parking spaces, a proper house, or, maybe, park somewhere else that's not going to cause problems.

If you are that precious about your car then park your car in the allocated bay and have your Mrs park her car somewhere else.
The most valuable car gets the space.
I don't get your "anger" on this. Its public highway, anyone car park there, if the op gets there first then so be it. The property he currently lives in is totally irrelevant. People's circumstances change, you cant just move instantly when that happens

I think he was right to mention the threats to the police, just in case his car was damaged, for all you know the bloke making the threats may have form.

Are you saying that you never park on the road anywhere that someone lives? Because if you have ever parked outside someone's house, then aren't you being a bit hypocritical?



CasuallyDressed

Original Poster:

73 posts

133 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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xjay1337 said:
Not really. I got one point wrong. Joint house. I must have muddled up in my head where you said she parks in the allocated parking spot.

The point says "One allocated parking spot".

Now I have not seen the Google Map link to your property and where you park. Maybe you can provide this.
But I would also be pretty pissed off if I lived in a house, you lived in a block of flats, and then parked your car outside my house.

Would I vandalise your car? No.
Would I say something to your face? Probably not.
Would I complain to my Mrs and dog about you? Absofkinlutley.

What you are doing is exactly the same as what the van man is doing except, in your case, you are parking outside his home.
I can absolutely understand where he is coming from.

And to run to the police saying "he threatened to hurt me daddy!" oh how funny.

If i were you I'd either move to somewhere with either 2 allocated parking spaces, a proper house, or, maybe, park somewhere else that's not going to cause problems.

If you are that precious about your car then park your car in the allocated bay and have your Mrs park her car somewhere else.
The most valuable car gets the space.
Ok, let's do this again so maybe you'll be quiet. Count 'em up...

1. You also got where I park wrong (another street? Even though I said in my OP "across the road". Not down the road, not the next road over. ACROSS the road. Would you like a dictionary?) and I'd already stated in another post that I don't seriously f*cking stand there looking at it all night. A little reading will go a long way for you.
2. He has his allocated parking, we have ours. We both have excess vehicles. He has no more right to that spot than I do.
3. I'm not giving you a Google Map link to where I live. Weirdos on the internet and all that.
4. I can assure you that I didn't say "He threatened to hurt me daddy". Apart from anything else my father isn't even a police officer. Nice condescension though. Very mature. Also, he threatened to hurt the car; not me. Another incorrect point for you.
5. We're not moving. Happened to like it here other than a ratty neighbour.
6. What is a "proper house"? You seem to have a problem with flats. What is your problem with flats?
7. I've already stated that I've decided to park a few houses down to avoid further conflict. But, we all know how you struggle with reading by this point.
8. Where is this assumption coming from that my car is more valuable? At no point have I said what my partner drives. She could have a f*ckin' Lambo for all you know.

Edited by CasuallyDressed on Monday 24th October 12:07


Edited by CasuallyDressed on Monday 24th October 12:07

Seesure

1,187 posts

238 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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bitwrx said:
Pretty much the first words he said were "you dirty slag".

Deeply unpleasant chap.
Trying watching it again....

He didn't call her that until after she spat at him....

His first words were: "Excuse me this is a private driveway"

She got annoyed because he was filming her as she said he had to have her permission to film her...to which he said he didn't, she then spat at him and it was then he lowered himself to her level...

IMHO - a deeply unpleasant woman who seems to think she is entitled ....

Devil2575

13,400 posts

187 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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CAPP0 said:
Ilovejapcrap said:
Society is fked
Sadly, that statement is correct on SO many levels. Society in general really is completely fkd up. I can't for the life of me see how/where it will go long-term.
People have been making statements like this since records began.

There will always be idiots.

PAULJ5555

3,554 posts

175 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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If they put anything on the highway to save "their" space in fromt of the house post them this.



Dear homeowner

It has been observed recently that the offence of obstructing a public highway has occurred on numerous occasions at your address.

Items such as Traffic Cones, Refuse Bins, Wood, ladders, Bricks, not authorised by the Local Authority are classed as unlawful.


Highways Act 1980 Section 148 ©
if without lawful authority or excuse—
© a person, deposits anything whatsoever on a highway to the interruption of any user of the highway he is guilty of an offence.

Highways Act 1980 Section 137
if without lawful authority or excuse—
a person, in any way wilfully obstructs the free passage along a highway he is guilty of an offence.


This matter has been reported to the local Police and Highways Agency for further investigation and prosecution.


Edited by PAULJ5555 on Monday 24th October 13:48

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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blueg33 said:
I don't get your "anger" on this. Its public highway, anyone car park there, if the op gets there first then so be it. The property he currently lives in is totally irrelevant. People's circumstances change, you cant just move instantly when that happens

I think he was right to mention the threats to the police, just in case his car was damaged, for all you know the bloke making the threats may have form.

Are you saying that you never park on the road anywhere that someone lives? Because if you have ever parked outside someone's house, then aren't you being a bit hypocritical?
I'm not angry smile
sorry if it came across like this.
I have said that I accept that is the legal standpoint, but we are looking at it from how people can invariably see things.

FWIW no I don't park in spaces used by other people.
On my street it's a well to do cul-de-sac, everyone has driveway parking. Our house has 4 cars, 2 car driveway. I know where the other cars park on the street (only a few do on the road) and as such I do not park in places that they park.
I have an excellent relationship with my neighbours (all of whom are considerably older than me) which goes to show quite a lot.





CasuallyDressed said:
Ok, let's do this again so maybe you'll be quiet. Count 'em up...

1. You also got where I park wrong (another street? Even though I said in my OP "across the road". Not down the road, not the next road over. ACROSS the road. Would you like a dictionary?) and I'd already stated in another post that I don't seriously f*cking stand there looking at it all night. A little reading will go a long way for you.
2. He has his allocated parking, we have ours. We both have excess vehicles. He has no more right to that spot than I do.
3. I'm not giving you a Google Map link to where I live. Weirdos on the internet and all that.
4. I can assure you that I didn't say "He threatened to hurt me daddy". Apart from anything else my father isn't even a police officer. Nice condescension though. Very mature. Also, he threatened to hurt the car; not me. Another incorrect point for you.
5. We're not moving. Happened to like it here other than a ratty neighbour.
6. What is a "proper house"? You seem to have a problem with flats. What is your problem with flats?
7. I've already stated that I've decided to park a few houses down to avoid further conflict. But, we all know how you struggle with reading by this point.
8. Where is this assumption coming from that my car is more valuable? At no point have I said what my partner drives. She could have a f*ckin' Lambo for all you know.

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Edited by CasuallyDressed on Monday 24th October 12:07
I'm sorry, you're angry I disagree with you? You shouldn't have posted up on PH! laugh

I don't think you deal with sarcasm very well.

I have no problem with flats. It's just easier for me to refer to a terraced, semi or detached property by saying "proper house" instead of "house" and having it confused with another flat.

I doubt your Mrs drives a Lambo. I would guess a Peugeot of some description. You probably have a 12 year old Saab or BMW.

You seem to be very sensitive hence why you calling the police came at no surprise to me.

I hope your car is OK after this ordeal.

I wonder how you would take to him parking outside your house, when your Son needs to park there?
You weren't very happy with some kid who got your contracted job back in Feb, same thing both have equal rights to the job and all that... smile

CasuallyDressed

Original Poster:

73 posts

133 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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xjay1337 said:
I'm sorry, you're angry I disagree with you? You shouldn't have posted up on PH! laugh

I don't think you deal with sarcasm very well.

I have no problem with flats. It's just easier for me to refer to a terraced, semi or detached property by saying "proper house" instead of "house" and having it confused with another flat.

I doubt your Mrs drives a Lambo. I would guess a Peugeot of some description. You probably have a 12 year old Saab or BMW.

You seem to be very sensitive hence why you calling the police came at no surprise to me.

I hope your car is OK after this ordeal.

I wonder how you would take to him parking outside your house, when your Son needs to park there?
You weren't very happy with some kid who got your contracted job back in Feb, same thing both have equal rights to the job and all that... smile
Ahh, post mining! The last resort when you're losing an argument. My condolences, but please try to stay on topic. So, let's do this one last time:

1. I'm not angry that you disagree with me. I'm ruffled because you keep posting inaccuracies.
2. I'm fine with sarcasm. You're not being sarcastic. You're failing to be funny I think?
3. In what world does someone say "See that house?" and another person say "Oh, you mean that flat? Sorry, I got confused because it's actually a terraced house so clearly you meant a flat"? I'm not entirely sure what you're trying to say here :-/
4. She doesn't drive a Peugeot of some description and I don't drive a 12 year old Saab or BMW. You're doing well here smile
5. I called the police because an incident occurred and I wished to report it. Nothing to do with being sensitive. If you makes you feel any better, it was a call made to the non-emergency line.
6. I would tell this hypothetical son that wishes to park outside of my hypothetical house to stop being a hypothetical baby and park somewhere else.

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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I asked you how you would take the situation if you were in the other blokes position actually.
That you lived there and your son parked his van outside your HOUSE.

Then you find someone who lives in a block of FLATS (again I am guessing because I haven't seen your road!) decides that they park outside your house, because it's under a streetlight and they can see their car from their window.

As I have said I am not excusing the blokes behaviour but can easily see why it would irriate them.
If you can't then no wonder it all kicked off! laugh

Hol

8,359 posts

199 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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WOW! SEVEN Pages!! just to confirm that the guy over the road from the OP DOES NOT own the roadway outside their house.


But, neither does the OP or his other neighbours, or anyone else on here.






















Edited by Hol on Monday 24th October 13:47

PhillipM

6,515 posts

188 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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Do you lot whining about parking near your house have an issue with people walking on 'your' bit of pavement too?

The Mad Monk

10,474 posts

116 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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Hol said:
WOW! SEVEN Pages!! just to confirm that the guy over the road from the OP DOES NOT own the roadway outside their house.


But, neither does the OP or his other neighbours, or anyone else on here.

Seven pages?

Where do you get seven pages from?

Or are you reading this on a micro handbag mirror?






















Edited by Hol on Monday 24th October 13:47

Mr Snrub

24,942 posts

226 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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Erm, the default page length is 20 posts. His was the 140th, so that would make it 7 pages

Catatafish

1,361 posts

144 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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PhillipM said:
Do you lot whining about parking near your house have an issue with people walking on 'your' bit of pavement too?
Since this thread is about losing your mind and posting preposterous rubbish. What about the oxygen molecules floating around your gaff; surely it is massively inconsiderate to take a lungful within 50 feet of your neighbour's house?

spookly

4,011 posts

94 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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I can't see how a rational person would convince themselves they have any cause to be upset over something that is not theirs.

Just because some other people get weird about it should not reinforce your view that it is acceptable. It isn't your piece of road or anyone else's regardless of proximity to your house. Look at your title deeds.... if the parking space you complain of is not included on your deeds, then guess what - it isn't yours to be precious about. If you have to walk a few metres further then suck it up and get some exercise.

I park one car on my drive and one on the road. If I come home and can't park across my drive or next to it then I park in whatever space on the public road is closest. Sometimes I've had to park 100m or more away.... so? No need to get annoyed. Nobody was on 'MY' spot, they were parked on the public road.

There's a bloke near my kids school that had a habit of coning off two spaces outside his house. Unfortunately I seemed to repeatedly not notice them when parking my beat up old Jeep and flattening his cones. He stopped putting them out after a while. I don't know if he ran out of cones or finally figured out that he doesn't own the roads and people didn't care for him trying to enforce parking on public roads, but he doesn't do it any more. I wasn't the only one to flatten his cones either.

Hol

8,359 posts

199 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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Is this only a problem in terraced roads, or where generally parking is limited?

Because so many people seem to park as close as possible to their own front doors every day and you never hear about it.








blueg33

35,580 posts

223 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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spookly said:
I can't see how a rational person would convince themselves they have any cause to be upset over something that is not theirs.

Just because some other people get weird about it should not reinforce your view that it is acceptable. It isn't your piece of road or anyone else's regardless of proximity to your house. Look at your title deeds.... if the parking space you complain of is not included on your deeds, then guess what - it isn't yours to be precious about. If you have to walk a few metres further then suck it up and get some exercise.

I park one car on my drive and one on the road. If I come home and can't park across my drive or next to it then I park in whatever space on the public road is closest. Sometimes I've had to park 100m or more away.... so? No need to get annoyed. Nobody was on 'MY' spot, they were parked on the public road.
Exactly

The Surveyor

7,576 posts

236 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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blueg33 said:
spookly said:
I can't see how a rational person would convince themselves they have any cause to be upset over something that is not theirs.

Just because some other people get weird about it should not reinforce your view that it is acceptable. It isn't your piece of road or anyone else's regardless of proximity to your house. Look at your title deeds.... if the parking space you complain of is not included on your deeds, then guess what - it isn't yours to be precious about. If you have to walk a few metres further then suck it up and get some exercise.

I park one car on my drive and one on the road. If I come home and can't park across my drive or next to it then I park in whatever space on the public road is closest. Sometimes I've had to park 100m or more away.... so? No need to get annoyed. Nobody was on 'MY' spot, they were parked on the public road.
Exactly
Exactly indeed, but since when have you been able to rely upon the general public behaving rationally?

HTP99

22,443 posts

139 months

Monday 24th October 2016
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blueg33 said:
spookly said:
I can't see how a rational person would convince themselves they have any cause to be upset over something that is not theirs.

Just because some other people get weird about it should not reinforce your view that it is acceptable. It isn't your piece of road or anyone else's regardless of proximity to your house. Look at your title deeds.... if the parking space you complain of is not included on your deeds, then guess what - it isn't yours to be precious about. If you have to walk a few metres further then suck it up and get some exercise.

I park one car on my drive and one on the road. If I come home and can't park across my drive or next to it then I park in whatever space on the public road is closest. Sometimes I've had to park 100m or more away.... so? No need to get annoyed. Nobody was on 'MY' spot, they were parked on the public road.
Exactly
+1, I don't even have 1 drive, both myself and the wife park on the road, it is annoying when I have to park further up because either a)my neighbour is being a prick about "his spot" and is parking strategically but not illegally, or b)the neighbours have guests round so therefore there are more cars parked up on the road than normal, however it is just one of those things and we both accept that it is perfectly legal and acceptable to do so.