Absolutely seething - advice required
Discussion
If you go down the getting the school involved route and "doing it properly", your daughter will still get bullied at some point in her life because bullies like people that can't or won't stand up for themselves and the bully will still bully people.
It would be handy in the short to medium term to get her into a martial arts class then either give the girl a shoein', or, more importantly, it will give her the confidence that she will know that should the need arise she could give the girl a shoein'.
Then once this little episode is over she needs to work on her confidence and self esteem, and sport will help this, so she is ends up a confident woman that doesn't get bullied rather than a door mat than runs for help.
If she walks into school tomorrow and smacks the girl in the teeth the bullying will be over by lunch time. Probably for ever.
It would be handy in the short to medium term to get her into a martial arts class then either give the girl a shoein', or, more importantly, it will give her the confidence that she will know that should the need arise she could give the girl a shoein'.
Then once this little episode is over she needs to work on her confidence and self esteem, and sport will help this, so she is ends up a confident woman that doesn't get bullied rather than a door mat than runs for help.
If she walks into school tomorrow and smacks the girl in the teeth the bullying will be over by lunch time. Probably for ever.
Its quite a jungle solution Willy but yes I guess it would work. Is that really the solution though and to call normal girls 'weak' as they wont get physically violent? Its suggesting the victim has an issue rather than the bully - not everyone is born aggressive and that is probably a good thing! Its lowering a level not dealing with the low life.
Maybe I'm being hypocritical as if it was a lad I'd have a different attitude, but teaching your daughter to purposelly physically fight other girls seems off?
Maybe I'm being hypocritical as if it was a lad I'd have a different attitude, but teaching your daughter to purposelly physically fight other girls seems off?
Any update on the situation at all, OP? Have you bypassed the useless PCSOs and gone over their heads? Did you get any feedback from the Chair of Governors or LEA?
Keep on at them all. Carry on being a thorn in their side. It seems the majority of schools want to just sweep this sort of thing under the carpet.
Keep on at them all. Carry on being a thorn in their side. It seems the majority of schools want to just sweep this sort of thing under the carpet.
Vroom101 said:
Any update on the situation at all, OP? Have you bypassed the useless PCSOs and gone over their heads? Did you get any feedback from the Chair of Governors or LEA?
Keep on at them all. Carry on being a thorn in their side. It seems the majority of schools want to just sweep this sort of thing under the carpet.
PCSO's should have seen the girl & her mother today, will hopefully get an update tomorrow. Keep on at them all. Carry on being a thorn in their side. It seems the majority of schools want to just sweep this sort of thing under the carpet.
Neighbour has offered to help draft an email to them stating our concerns & desire to reserve the right to prosecute, he says this will mean a copper will be appointed & a criminal investigation undertaken, it will also send a strong message to the school. Hopefully this will finally make the girl and/or her parents realise just how serious her actions are & make her change her ways, they may also shock us & decide to go down the restorative justice route...
After all the help & advice the least I can do is offer an update, and hopefully closure on this situation.
The girl was visited by the PCSO and a Police officer, both parents were present. The parents had been through her phone & were not happy with her, the mother once again tried pulling the 'our daughter has also been bullied' line, nobody believes it as she has NOTHING to support it.
It has been recorded as a crime, the girl has not been charged but this will apparently remain on her record, the consequences of this have been fully explained to her.
The PCSO is confident this will have shocked her and her parents into toeing the line. Our daughter said yesterday she had received some comments from said girl relating to a Facebook post, they have blocked each other but the 'clique' is nigh on impossible to eliminate without alienating our daughter completely.
It's a big school, our daughter can hopefully avoid her, they only have until summer then they'll probably never cross paths again, our daughter has her college interview today (on her birthday, she's thrilled!). The downside is we have 10-12 teenagers invading our house on Saturday - wish us luck!
I'm glad we did things the right way, it has taught all the kids involved a valuable lesson & it has (hopefully) resulted in the desired outcome. If anybody else is ever in the same position, fight your corner with the Police and the school, they'll only do so much unless you push them, they have a big work load.
The girl was visited by the PCSO and a Police officer, both parents were present. The parents had been through her phone & were not happy with her, the mother once again tried pulling the 'our daughter has also been bullied' line, nobody believes it as she has NOTHING to support it.
It has been recorded as a crime, the girl has not been charged but this will apparently remain on her record, the consequences of this have been fully explained to her.
The PCSO is confident this will have shocked her and her parents into toeing the line. Our daughter said yesterday she had received some comments from said girl relating to a Facebook post, they have blocked each other but the 'clique' is nigh on impossible to eliminate without alienating our daughter completely.
It's a big school, our daughter can hopefully avoid her, they only have until summer then they'll probably never cross paths again, our daughter has her college interview today (on her birthday, she's thrilled!). The downside is we have 10-12 teenagers invading our house on Saturday - wish us luck!
I'm glad we did things the right way, it has taught all the kids involved a valuable lesson & it has (hopefully) resulted in the desired outcome. If anybody else is ever in the same position, fight your corner with the Police and the school, they'll only do so much unless you push them, they have a big work load.
OP, well done for persisting with this and getting the right result. Let's hope the school have learned something from it as well.
LordHaveMurci said:
It has been recorded as a crime, the girl has not been charged but this will apparently remain on her record, the consequences of this have been fully explained to her.
Not done herself any favours has she? Will this show up on a standard DBS check or only on the enhanced version?Gassing Station | Speed, Plod & the Law | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff