Absolutely seething - advice required

Absolutely seething - advice required

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LordHaveMurci

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170 months

Thursday 24th November 2016
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Had an interesting chat with our neighbour earlier, 30yrs a copper, finished off his career in chil protection. He agrees with above comments & has suggested what our next steps should be.

School Deputy Head also rang, girl has been given a ONE day exclusion, that's right, 1 day!

School & PCSO are more interested in passing the buck onto each other than getting it dealt with, did get irate with her which really wasn't difficult.

LordHaveMurci

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170 months

Friday 25th November 2016
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I've taught her how to DEFEND herself, the PCSO's have been told this, it has never turned physical so it was more giving our daughter confidence & a feeling of control than anything else.

LordHaveMurci

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Sunday 27th November 2016
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Vroom101 said:
Any update on the situation at all, OP? Have you bypassed the useless PCSOs and gone over their heads? Did you get any feedback from the Chair of Governors or LEA?

Keep on at them all. Carry on being a thorn in their side. It seems the majority of schools want to just sweep this sort of thing under the carpet.
PCSO's should have seen the girl & her mother today, will hopefully get an update tomorrow.

Neighbour has offered to help draft an email to them stating our concerns & desire to reserve the right to prosecute, he says this will mean a copper will be appointed & a criminal investigation undertaken, it will also send a strong message to the school. Hopefully this will finally make the girl and/or her parents realise just how serious her actions are & make her change her ways, they may also shock us & decide to go down the restorative justice route...

LordHaveMurci

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Tuesday 6th December 2016
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After all the help & advice the least I can do is offer an update, and hopefully closure on this situation.

The girl was visited by the PCSO and a Police officer, both parents were present. The parents had been through her phone & were not happy with her, the mother once again tried pulling the 'our daughter has also been bullied' line, nobody believes it as she has NOTHING to support it.

It has been recorded as a crime, the girl has not been charged but this will apparently remain on her record, the consequences of this have been fully explained to her.

The PCSO is confident this will have shocked her and her parents into toeing the line. Our daughter said yesterday she had received some comments from said girl relating to a Facebook post, they have blocked each other but the 'clique' is nigh on impossible to eliminate without alienating our daughter completely.

It's a big school, our daughter can hopefully avoid her, they only have until summer then they'll probably never cross paths again, our daughter has her college interview today (on her birthday, she's thrilled!). The downside is we have 10-12 teenagers invading our house on Saturday - wish us luck!

I'm glad we did things the right way, it has taught all the kids involved a valuable lesson & it has (hopefully) resulted in the desired outcome. If anybody else is ever in the same position, fight your corner with the Police and the school, they'll only do so much unless you push them, they have a big work load.