Non-molestation order
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mjb1 said:
Sick_fish said:
MrJingles705 said:
SickFish said:
And to top it off, my mother has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer and starts chemo next week. After pleading with the exes solicitor and explaining the situation, access to her granddaughter has been denied, my mum is terrified she will not see her granddaughter again... I've even said I will not interfere/ be present! 
Cruelty knows no bounds You have my deepest sympathies - I'm sure you have already looked into it, but I've been told that grandparents can apply for leave to make a contact order and then a further application for the order itself. As this is seperate from yours, they make expedite based on the circumstances and possibly even legal aid.
(again, based on my friends case - different circumstances entirely, but possibly some overlap).
I'd really like to hope that a judge wouldn't refuse an application for a child to see their terminally ill grandmother. Reminds me of this thread: https://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&... which still brings a tear to me eye whenever I start reading it again.
Thank you
spookly said:
Sorry to hear all this OP. I know quite a few blokes who have been through this mill.
I'm on the other side of it, I'm divorced but now a single dad with full custody of my two boys. Still having to deal with their deadbeat mother who is yet to pay a single penny in maintenance, and still makes completely false accusations. Been dragged through court twice since getting divorced, both times she came away with more restrictions... I suspect we'll be back there again soon.
Been divorced for 3+ years now and I've still have 30+ crazy texts today. When I first moved out the only thing I was worried about was seeing my kids. I'd echo the advice of the people who've said record everything. Keep all texts, record all calls, keep all emails, keep a diary of everything. Good luck.
Thankfully I'm not getting any grief now since the restraining order... blessings in disguise and all that...I'm on the other side of it, I'm divorced but now a single dad with full custody of my two boys. Still having to deal with their deadbeat mother who is yet to pay a single penny in maintenance, and still makes completely false accusations. Been dragged through court twice since getting divorced, both times she came away with more restrictions... I suspect we'll be back there again soon.
Been divorced for 3+ years now and I've still have 30+ crazy texts today. When I first moved out the only thing I was worried about was seeing my kids. I'd echo the advice of the people who've said record everything. Keep all texts, record all calls, keep all emails, keep a diary of everything. Good luck.
Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah said:
Sick_fish said:
Just had the latest bill from Solicitor, I need to find the best part of £1,800 to continue, how I'm going to do that I don't know...
I will find it though, somehow!!!
I know the current administration have clamped down on legal aid some what, but have you looked at eligibility as an option?I will find it though, somehow!!!
The yougov page states the following, bold which may apply to you?
1. Overview
Legal aid can help meet the costs of legal advice, family mediation and representation in a court or tribunal.
You’ll usually need to show that:
your case is eligible for legal aid
the problem is serious
you can’t afford to pay for legal costs
You could for example get legal aid if:
you or your family are at risk of abuse or serious harm, eg domestic violence or forced marriage
you’re at risk of homelessness or losing your home
you’ve been accused of a crime, face prison or detention
you’re being discriminated against
you need family mediation
you’re adding legal arguments or bringing a case under the Human Rights Act
You’ll usually need to show that you can’t afford to pay for this help. You may have to pay some money towards the legal costs of your case or pay costs back later.
On a side note... if anyone wants to buy a nice watch... lol
Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah said:
Sick_fish said:
Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah said:
Sick_fish said:
Just had the latest bill from Solicitor, I need to find the best part of £1,800 to continue, how I'm going to do that I don't know...
I will find it though, somehow!!!
I know the current administration have clamped down on legal aid some what, but have you looked at eligibility as an option?I will find it though, somehow!!!
The yougov page states the following, bold which may apply to you?
1. Overview
Legal aid can help meet the costs of legal advice, family mediation and representation in a court or tribunal.
You’ll usually need to show that:
your case is eligible for legal aid
the problem is serious
you can’t afford to pay for legal costs
You could for example get legal aid if:
you or your family are at risk of abuse or serious harm, eg domestic violence or forced marriage
you’re at risk of homelessness or losing your home
you’ve been accused of a crime, face prison or detention
you’re being discriminated against
you need family mediation
you’re adding legal arguments or bringing a case under the Human Rights Act
You’ll usually need to show that you can’t afford to pay for this help. You may have to pay some money towards the legal costs of your case or pay costs back later.
On a side note... if anyone wants to buy a nice watch... lol
Again, not a sales ad, but feel free to have a look over in the classified section where it is listed
Thought I’d update this....
I’ve still not seen my little girl, I wasn’t allowed to see her on her birthday (November) and it’s pretty certain I won’t be seeing by her over Christmas... it’s now been over 9 months, it’s utterly heartbreaking :-(
Currently I have a court order in place for supervised contact at a contact centre for purpose of reintroducing me to my daughter in a non-distressing environment. I was meant to be seeing her on the 9th... that never happened.
The ex has been using countless delaying tactics to draw the process out more and more...
She’s even accused CAFCASS of bullying her now they have cottoned onto her ways and are telling her she needs to do “what’s right” after I told them that if things don’t move along I’ll be going back to Court for a penal notice... FWIW CAFCASS have been brilliant now they have seen the ex in her true light.
However, I’ve been drinking too much lately (which needs to stop!) and have all but lost hope :-(
I’ve still not seen my little girl, I wasn’t allowed to see her on her birthday (November) and it’s pretty certain I won’t be seeing by her over Christmas... it’s now been over 9 months, it’s utterly heartbreaking :-(
Currently I have a court order in place for supervised contact at a contact centre for purpose of reintroducing me to my daughter in a non-distressing environment. I was meant to be seeing her on the 9th... that never happened.
The ex has been using countless delaying tactics to draw the process out more and more...
She’s even accused CAFCASS of bullying her now they have cottoned onto her ways and are telling her she needs to do “what’s right” after I told them that if things don’t move along I’ll be going back to Court for a penal notice... FWIW CAFCASS have been brilliant now they have seen the ex in her true light.
However, I’ve been drinking too much lately (which needs to stop!) and have all but lost hope :-(
Gargamel said:
Sick_fish said:
Thought I’d update this....
I’ve still not seen my little girl, I wasn’t allowed to see her on her birthday (November) and it’s pretty certain I won’t be seeing by her over Christmas... it’s now been over 9 months, it’s utterly heartbreaking :-(
Currently I have a court order in place for supervised contact at a contact centre for purpose of reintroducing me to my daughter in a non-distressing environment. I was meant to be seeing her on the 9th... that never happened.
The ex has been using countless delaying tactics to draw the process out more and more...
She’s even accused CAFCASS of bullying her now they have cottoned onto her ways and are telling her she needs to do “what’s right” after I told them that if things don’t move along I’ll be going back to Court for a penal notice... FWIW CAFCASS have been brilliant now they have seen the ex in her true light.
However, I’ve been drinking too much lately (which needs to stop!) and have all but lost hope :-(
Tough times. Sorry (but not surprised) the contact centre timing didn't happen. I’ve still not seen my little girl, I wasn’t allowed to see her on her birthday (November) and it’s pretty certain I won’t be seeing by her over Christmas... it’s now been over 9 months, it’s utterly heartbreaking :-(
Currently I have a court order in place for supervised contact at a contact centre for purpose of reintroducing me to my daughter in a non-distressing environment. I was meant to be seeing her on the 9th... that never happened.
The ex has been using countless delaying tactics to draw the process out more and more...
She’s even accused CAFCASS of bullying her now they have cottoned onto her ways and are telling her she needs to do “what’s right” after I told them that if things don’t move along I’ll be going back to Court for a penal notice... FWIW CAFCASS have been brilliant now they have seen the ex in her true light.
However, I’ve been drinking too much lately (which needs to stop!) and have all but lost hope :-(
First though, sort yourself out. Great that you recognise you are drinking too much. So focus on yourself for a while and get straightened out.
Keep pushing CAFCASS for a new date/time for contact, and save the money you don't spend on booze for a court date for enforcement of the contact order.
I hope your Mum is OK. Don't let your ex grind you down.
The ONLY revenge is to live well !
I think the ex has submitted her side of paperwork now (three weeks late), after CAFCASS warned her she’d be in breach of the order and could be subject of a penal notice.
The ex then accused them of bullying her...
seems to be a running trend here...MB140 said:
Just read this from start to finish and taking you at your word I am so sorry it has turned out like this.
This is one of those days I wish I was a millionaire, I would cover the legal costs if I had money burnin a hole in my pocket.
Boils my piss when I see women do this.
My step dad (of 10 years) is in court in February for allegedly raping his ex wife (wife at the time of the supposed incident) in 1977. I didn’t think it was possible to tape your wife in 1977 (legally).
Strange how she nobbed of to turkey for 20 odd years, split up with her new fella and came back to the uk. She then decided she wanted half his house and after 2 years of legal battles she got 10%. Walked straight out of court (for the housing decision)to the cop shop to report him for rape.
He has been waiting for 16 months for his court date to start on the rape allegations.
He is the nicest man you will ever meet. About 5ft2” tall and 50kg soaking wet. She is probably twice his weight. Nobody believes it but it’s driven him to very dark places worrying about going to prison and has practically bankrupted him and my mum
Anyway sorry to derail your thread. I wish I could help but can only wish you a happy and positive outcome.
Women can be so evil sometimes This is one of those days I wish I was a millionaire, I would cover the legal costs if I had money burnin a hole in my pocket.
Boils my piss when I see women do this.
My step dad (of 10 years) is in court in February for allegedly raping his ex wife (wife at the time of the supposed incident) in 1977. I didn’t think it was possible to tape your wife in 1977 (legally).
Strange how she nobbed of to turkey for 20 odd years, split up with her new fella and came back to the uk. She then decided she wanted half his house and after 2 years of legal battles she got 10%. Walked straight out of court (for the housing decision)to the cop shop to report him for rape.
He has been waiting for 16 months for his court date to start on the rape allegations.
He is the nicest man you will ever meet. About 5ft2” tall and 50kg soaking wet. She is probably twice his weight. Nobody believes it but it’s driven him to very dark places worrying about going to prison and has practically bankrupted him and my mum
Anyway sorry to derail your thread. I wish I could help but can only wish you a happy and positive outcome.
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