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That year went by quickly, didn't it? Another update but not really that much to mention really.....
Boys are still thriving at school, gaining good marks and well mannered and popular too. Recently went to a parents evening and teachers seem really content with how they are and how they behave which has always been important to me.
They are 14 years old now, they had just turned eleven when they arrived on my doorstep, so to speak. Life hasn't changed that much over the past year for them; we still live in the same house, same friends, steady routine etc but I believe they need stability and not more upheaval at this time of their lives. Still playing football for their little team, still coming to watch Yeovil every week and of course getting excited for the big FA Cup tie against Manchester United in a couple of weeks.
Their sister turned 18 in July and left home to work in Spain as an au pair for three months, coming back two weeks ago. She's all grown up now and deals with everything throws at her well. Not sure what she is going to do with her life but she's picked up a marketing job in the meantime while she decides.
Probably the biggest change is that the boys see less and less of their Mum. In the last two months, I'd say she has seen them on average less than once a week instead of the three times a week. She is still drinking heavily and to top things off, she has now resorted to prostitution and escort work for money. I didn't believe it at first but having checked out a website after a tip off, she has a profile on there that states she is a returning member, so obviously she's done it before. Quite sad really but nowadays, I have washed my hands of her completely.
As for me, I'm fine. Put a lot of weight back on this year which I must get back off again as my little men need me. Still heavily involved in football, business is building up quite nicely and there isn't a Mrs Mart on the scene, which I'm happy with really. No time for having a partner, they'd take something away from my life at present which I don't want. Maybe in a couple of years when the boys are older, I might consider it but there's no hurry.
Thanks for all your kind thoughts and wishes. We are all doing fine and the three of us would like to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Oops, sorry, I mean
Boys are still thriving at school, gaining good marks and well mannered and popular too. Recently went to a parents evening and teachers seem really content with how they are and how they behave which has always been important to me.
They are 14 years old now, they had just turned eleven when they arrived on my doorstep, so to speak. Life hasn't changed that much over the past year for them; we still live in the same house, same friends, steady routine etc but I believe they need stability and not more upheaval at this time of their lives. Still playing football for their little team, still coming to watch Yeovil every week and of course getting excited for the big FA Cup tie against Manchester United in a couple of weeks.
Their sister turned 18 in July and left home to work in Spain as an au pair for three months, coming back two weeks ago. She's all grown up now and deals with everything throws at her well. Not sure what she is going to do with her life but she's picked up a marketing job in the meantime while she decides.
Probably the biggest change is that the boys see less and less of their Mum. In the last two months, I'd say she has seen them on average less than once a week instead of the three times a week. She is still drinking heavily and to top things off, she has now resorted to prostitution and escort work for money. I didn't believe it at first but having checked out a website after a tip off, she has a profile on there that states she is a returning member, so obviously she's done it before. Quite sad really but nowadays, I have washed my hands of her completely.
As for me, I'm fine. Put a lot of weight back on this year which I must get back off again as my little men need me. Still heavily involved in football, business is building up quite nicely and there isn't a Mrs Mart on the scene, which I'm happy with really. No time for having a partner, they'd take something away from my life at present which I don't want. Maybe in a couple of years when the boys are older, I might consider it but there's no hurry.
Thanks for all your kind thoughts and wishes. We are all doing fine and the three of us would like to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Oops, sorry, I mean
Thanks for update.
get that weight off :-) makes a huge difference in how you feel in yourself but sounds like you are contented.
Great news about kids all doing well.
Re. women, meeting someone or dating again doesn't have to mean settling down etc..
If you meet someone then just go with it.
get that weight off :-) makes a huge difference in how you feel in yourself but sounds like you are contented.
Great news about kids all doing well.
Re. women, meeting someone or dating again doesn't have to mean settling down etc..
If you meet someone then just go with it.
Not sure if anyone is still out there so I'll keep the message as brief as possible.
Five years last week when the whole thing blew up. It's been hard at times but it is worth it when I get up in the morning and go in to wake up two lazy teenagers for school. Not that I will be for much longer as amazingly, they finish secondary school in five months time!!
Things haven't gone too bad this year really. The twins had work experience at the football club I work at in June and loved every minute of it. They now work there on matchdays, earning themselves a few quid for their trouble which I set aside in an account for them; includes their Christmas and birthday presents too so they have nearly £200 in there by now.
They still play football on a Sunday afternoon for my under-16's team. We have our off days, we have arguments and we have problems but no more so than any other family. Their Mum is still about although she didn't see them for a month recently. Had a great Christmas where they met up with my older two children at my ex-wife's house and we stayed there till 1.30am opening presents....
Their older sister (not mine) is now studying at Swansea Uni and sees the boys now and again. She's come out of all this quite well considering although she lost her grandad last March and was obviously really upset about it (was only 63).
Just really hoping for another quiet year. We are off around the 92 Premier and Football League grounds in April during the Easter holidays to raise money for two charities and the boys will start at a local college in September studying sports journalism (probably) so things are going well.
Can't believe it's been more than two years since the last update.
Five years last week when the whole thing blew up. It's been hard at times but it is worth it when I get up in the morning and go in to wake up two lazy teenagers for school. Not that I will be for much longer as amazingly, they finish secondary school in five months time!!
Things haven't gone too bad this year really. The twins had work experience at the football club I work at in June and loved every minute of it. They now work there on matchdays, earning themselves a few quid for their trouble which I set aside in an account for them; includes their Christmas and birthday presents too so they have nearly £200 in there by now.
They still play football on a Sunday afternoon for my under-16's team. We have our off days, we have arguments and we have problems but no more so than any other family. Their Mum is still about although she didn't see them for a month recently. Had a great Christmas where they met up with my older two children at my ex-wife's house and we stayed there till 1.30am opening presents....
Their older sister (not mine) is now studying at Swansea Uni and sees the boys now and again. She's come out of all this quite well considering although she lost her grandad last March and was obviously really upset about it (was only 63).
Just really hoping for another quiet year. We are off around the 92 Premier and Football League grounds in April during the Easter holidays to raise money for two charities and the boys will start at a local college in September studying sports journalism (probably) so things are going well.
Can't believe it's been more than two years since the last update.
I seldom post on PH nowadays, but (as a contributor to this thread in the early days) I'm more-than-glad to write here that I have occasionally wondered how you (and the boys and the daughter) were getting on and I'm pleased that all is good 
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Please do keep the updates coming
- although I might have posted this before as well 
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Best wishes to all of you, and for the daughter as well .
.Please do keep the updates coming
- although I might have posted this before as well .Best wishes to all of you, and for the daughter as well
.Thank you all. In the beginning, people's advice and good wishes were absolutely invaluable as if no one had replied, I'd have known I was on my own. Thankfully, that didn't happen and there are some great folk on this thread and all three of us are very, very grateful for every single piece of advice offered.
So pleased to hear it all mate, gives the rest of us with 'delicate' situations with ex's & children some hope! Really pleased things have settled down for you! Also a big thank you for keeping us updated - definitely lost an hour of work re-reading the whole thread to catch up on it all... 
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