Meeting a fellow PH video gamer, thetrash
Discussion
blindswelledrat said:
thetrash said:
Why should I have to comment? Is calling ten times and countless text normal? I told you not to contact me but you did the opposite.
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DO you consider that normal behaviour? Do you honestly think that texting someone "Don't contact me again" with no previous communication on your dissatisfaction is going to automatically make them not contact you again. Are you mental?.
What goes on in your head when you believe that a 5 word text sort out a problem like that.
You just come across as autistic sitting their utterly confused. "B-b-b-ut I don't understand it. I texted him not to call me and yet he is still calling. It doesn't make sense. THE TEXT. I SENT THE TEXT. LEAVE ME ALOOOOONE"
This reminds me of a time met up with an ex for a drink.... She'd moved to Oz after we broke up and, years later, decided to visit home.
We'd had some contact, a few 'I miss you's' and fairly regular but nothing huge.
Anyways, when we eventually meet up she told me she had no money. That was fine, I'll cover drinks and taxis.
Some way into the evening and it wasn't going brilliantly so we called it a night; she went off to meet other friends and I met mine. We parted on good terms, we just weren't the same people we were back when we were together. When I'd decided to head home, knowing she had no money, I gave her a text to say if she wants to share a taxi... No reply. Phone call... No answer... One last phone call... No answer.
Hard lines, love. And home I go.
Next day - text asking if she got home OK?
No answer.
Week later - day before she's due to leave for Oz - I text asking if everything was OK... No answer.
And so she mails me, weeks later and over Facebook (which she'd since deleted me) saying that my crazy number of text and phone calls made me look desperate and crazy. And that I was 'emotionally needy'.
So, from my perspective, I was acting out of politeness and nothing more. From here perspective, I came across as a stalker...
Whatever. I wasn't bothered (I'm borderline a sociopath - autistic as f
k. Which, to me, when called 'emotionally needy' proves her head wasn't on tight enough) I just found the situation quite bizarre.
People are weird.
We'd had some contact, a few 'I miss you's' and fairly regular but nothing huge.
Anyways, when we eventually meet up she told me she had no money. That was fine, I'll cover drinks and taxis.
Some way into the evening and it wasn't going brilliantly so we called it a night; she went off to meet other friends and I met mine. We parted on good terms, we just weren't the same people we were back when we were together. When I'd decided to head home, knowing she had no money, I gave her a text to say if she wants to share a taxi... No reply. Phone call... No answer... One last phone call... No answer.
Hard lines, love. And home I go.
Next day - text asking if she got home OK?
No answer.
Week later - day before she's due to leave for Oz - I text asking if everything was OK... No answer.
And so she mails me, weeks later and over Facebook (which she'd since deleted me) saying that my crazy number of text and phone calls made me look desperate and crazy. And that I was 'emotionally needy'.
So, from my perspective, I was acting out of politeness and nothing more. From here perspective, I came across as a stalker...
Whatever. I wasn't bothered (I'm borderline a sociopath - autistic as f
k. Which, to me, when called 'emotionally needy' proves her head wasn't on tight enough) I just found the situation quite bizarre.People are weird.
blindswelledrat said:
thetrash said:
Why should I have to comment? Is calling ten times and countless text normal? I told you not to contact me but you did the opposite.
.
DO you consider that normal behaviour? Do you honestly think that texting someone "Don't contact me again" with no previous communication on your dissatisfaction is going to automatically make them not contact you again. Are you mental?.
What goes on in your head when you believe that a 5 word text sort out a problem like that.
You just come across as autistic sitting their utterly confused. "B-b-b-ut I don't understand it. I texted him not to call me and yet he is still calling. It doesn't make sense. THE TEXT. I SENT THE TEXT. LEAVE ME ALOOOOONE"
Anyway for what it's worth, in the same circumstances, I'd have reacted pretty much the same as Polarbert has done. So let's say I met someone, and we got on great, I enjoyed their company and thought things were going well. Then out the blue, the other guy does what the trash did - ie communicate really badly and simply tell me not to contact him anymore.
The question mark over the whole thing would drive me nuts, that's just the kind of person I am. I'm sensitive like that, and I'd want some form of explanation or closure.
So yeah, as the story stands, I'm firmly in Polarbert's corner.
THX said:
This reminds me of a time met up with an ex for a drink.... She'd moved to Oz after we broke up and, years later, decided to visit home.
We'd had some contact, a few 'I miss you's' and fairly regular but nothing huge.
Anyways, when we eventually meet up she told me she had no money. That was fine, I'll cover drinks and taxis.
Some way into the evening and it wasn't going brilliantly so we called it a night; she went off to meet other friends and I met mine. We parted on good terms, we just weren't the same people we were back when we were together. When I'd decided to head home, knowing she had no money, I gave her a text to say if she wants to share a taxi... No reply. Phone call... No answer... One last phone call... No answer.
Hard lines, love. And home I go.
Next day - text asking if she got home OK?
No answer.
Week later - day before she's due to leave for Oz - I text asking if everything was OK... No answer.
And so she mails me, weeks later and over Facebook (which she'd since deleted me) saying that my crazy number of text and phone calls made me look desperate and crazy. And that I was 'emotionally needy'.
So, from my perspective, I was acting out of politeness and nothing more. From here perspective, I came across as a stalker...
Whatever. I wasn't bothered (I'm borderline a sociopath - autistic as fk. Which, to me, when called 'emotionally needy' proves her head wasn't on tight enough) I just found the situation quite bizarre.
People are weird.
I think that night went differently in your head to how it actually went.We'd had some contact, a few 'I miss you's' and fairly regular but nothing huge.
Anyways, when we eventually meet up she told me she had no money. That was fine, I'll cover drinks and taxis.
Some way into the evening and it wasn't going brilliantly so we called it a night; she went off to meet other friends and I met mine. We parted on good terms, we just weren't the same people we were back when we were together. When I'd decided to head home, knowing she had no money, I gave her a text to say if she wants to share a taxi... No reply. Phone call... No answer... One last phone call... No answer.
Hard lines, love. And home I go.
Next day - text asking if she got home OK?
No answer.
Week later - day before she's due to leave for Oz - I text asking if everything was OK... No answer.
And so she mails me, weeks later and over Facebook (which she'd since deleted me) saying that my crazy number of text and phone calls made me look desperate and crazy. And that I was 'emotionally needy'.
So, from my perspective, I was acting out of politeness and nothing more. From here perspective, I came across as a stalker...
Whatever. I wasn't bothered (I'm borderline a sociopath - autistic as f
k. Which, to me, when called 'emotionally needy' proves her head wasn't on tight enough) I just found the situation quite bizarre.People are weird.
blindswelledrat said:
DO you consider that normal behaviour? Do you honestly think that texting someone "Don't contact me again" with no previous communication on your dissatisfaction is going to automatically make them not contact you again. Are you mental?
What goes on in your head when you believe that a 5 word text sort out a problem like that.
You just come across as autistic sitting their utterly confused. "B-b-b-ut I don't understand it. I texted him not to call me and yet he is still calling. It doesn't make sense. THE TEXT. I SENT THE TEXT. LEAVE ME ALOOOOONE"
What goes on in your head when you believe that a 5 word text sort out a problem like that.
You just come across as autistic sitting their utterly confused. "B-b-b-ut I don't understand it. I texted him not to call me and yet he is still calling. It doesn't make sense. THE TEXT. I SENT THE TEXT. LEAVE ME ALOOOOONE"
Any normal person would have just ridden the day out and then gone their separate ways without being an abusive cockface towards someone who had no reason to think anything was amiss. It's not as if OP didn't give him a heads up he didn't have much money.
I've had similar happen to me. Best friends with a guy for years. He was in our social group and we all went on holiday together, spoke regularly etc. One day he rings me as normal, and I was a bit busy, so I said I'd call him back in 10 mins. Tried to call back, but no answer. Haven't spoken to him since! This was approaching 4 years ago now. Tried texting, e-mailing etc.
It gets even stranger though, as he deleted his Facebook, changed his number etc. It was driving me crazy not knowing what had happened. So I messaged a few of our mutual friends through Facebook. And it turns out they were going through the same thing! He as good as vanished off the face of the earth! Nobody has spoken to him, and it still confuses me to this day!
It gets even stranger though, as he deleted his Facebook, changed his number etc. It was driving me crazy not knowing what had happened. So I messaged a few of our mutual friends through Facebook. And it turns out they were going through the same thing! He as good as vanished off the face of the earth! Nobody has spoken to him, and it still confuses me to this day!
Polarbert said:
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Do you think your lack of face to face social skills and knowledge of how to cope in real life is due to you spending too much time in front of a screen, or were you like this before being a hermit?Do you think that switching off your electric devices for long periods of time and getting out into the real world would benefit you or would you prefer not to and are happier doing what you do now?
226bhp said:
Do you think your lack of face to face social skills and knowledge of how to cope in real life is due to you spending too much time in front of a screen, or were you like this before being a hermit?
Do you think that switching off your electric devices for long periods of time and getting out into the real world would benefit you or would you prefer not to and are happier doing what you do now?
That applies to both of them I think.Do you think that switching off your electric devices for long periods of time and getting out into the real world would benefit you or would you prefer not to and are happier doing what you do now?
nick s said:
I've had similar happen to me. Best friends with a guy for years. He was in our social group and we all went on holiday together, spoke regularly etc. One day he rings me as normal, and I was a bit busy, so I said I'd call him back in 10 mins. Tried to call back, but no answer. Haven't spoken to him since! This was approaching 4 years ago now. Tried texting, e-mailing etc.
It gets even stranger though, as he deleted his Facebook, changed his number etc. It was driving me crazy not knowing what had happened. So I messaged a few of our mutual friends through Facebook. And it turns out they were going through the same thing! He as good as vanished off the face of the earth! Nobody has spoken to him, and it still confuses me to this day!
His missus told him to cease all contact or she'd leave him. HTH. It gets even stranger though, as he deleted his Facebook, changed his number etc. It was driving me crazy not knowing what had happened. So I messaged a few of our mutual friends through Facebook. And it turns out they were going through the same thing! He as good as vanished off the face of the earth! Nobody has spoken to him, and it still confuses me to this day!
Lynchie999 said:
Some people don't like people continually trying to contact them over and over again... I see Trashs point, I would be annoyed if someone kept calling / texting me.. doesn't Polar have anything better to do ? but then trash should've given a reason...
Fascinating insightnick s said:
I've had similar happen to me. Best friends with a guy for years. He was in our social group and we all went on holiday together, spoke regularly etc. One day he rings me as normal, and I was a bit busy, so I said I'd call him back in 10 mins. Tried to call back, but no answer. Haven't spoken to him since! This was approaching 4 years ago now. Tried texting, e-mailing etc.
It gets even stranger though, as he deleted his Facebook, changed his number etc. It was driving me crazy not knowing what had happened. So I messaged a few of our mutual friends through Facebook. And it turns out they were going through the same thing! He as good as vanished off the face of the earth! Nobody has spoken to him, and it still confuses me to this day!
You were his last ditch effort to save him before the murder. Unfortunately you were too busy.It gets even stranger though, as he deleted his Facebook, changed his number etc. It was driving me crazy not knowing what had happened. So I messaged a few of our mutual friends through Facebook. And it turns out they were going through the same thing! He as good as vanished off the face of the earth! Nobody has spoken to him, and it still confuses me to this day!
226bhp said:
Do you think your lack of face to face social skills and knowledge of how to cope in real life is due to you spending too much time in front of a screen, or were you like this before being a hermit?
Do you think that switching off your electric devices for long periods of time and getting out into the real world would benefit you or would you prefer not to and are happier doing what you do now?
To stick up for Bert, he worked for the emergency services answering 999 calls last time we spoke.Do you think that switching off your electric devices for long periods of time and getting out into the real world would benefit you or would you prefer not to and are happier doing what you do now?
So I guess letting off steam playing xbox after listening to those calls all day isn't such a bad thing.
But I guess those who have never met him are better qualified to offer advice.
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