Swinging - good for a relationship? Advice needed.

[Mahatma Bag]

A friend of Mrs Bag asked her for confidential advice on this. She chose to confide in Mrs Bag as she knew Mrs B is the very soul of discretion. Mrs Bag confided in me in order to get a male perspective, and now I am confiding in you.

Mrs Bag's friend (call her Mel) is a fitness instructor at a gym. She has left her husband and kids to pursue an affair with another fitness instructor (let's call him Ken).

Mel was hoping Ken would set us house with her, etc, etc.

Ken hasn't done so.

What Ken is suggesting is that they go to a swinging club, where Ken's aim is to see Mel entertain two blokes at the same time, while he provides the icing on the cake, as it were.

Mel is in two minds over whether she should go along with this or not, and if so, will it be good for the relationship and lead to happy families.

What do you think? If there is a PH consensus I will pass this on to Mrs Bag as my carefully thought-out advice, which will in turn inform her advice to Mel.

[Nick P]

one thought immediately sprung to mind.

can we call her 'Barbie' instead of Mel?

[Lois]

That's one mad ass relationship in my view if she feels she'd have to do something like that just to keep him...

[Nick P]

also, why have i just had a horrific 'Bukkake' flashback?

[robinhood21]

Mel has left her husband and kids, for Ken, who will not even commit himself to the relationship?
I think Mel should give Ken the elbow as soon as possible. Going to a freak-show will not help at all.

[Graeme H]

Hahaha. Why not. She's already left behind her marriage and kids, it can't hurt. Well it could, depends where the gents want to entertain themselves, but the point is, if she's even considering it she's already sunk pretty low, might as well.

[tinman0]

so, shes been led astray and is now being asked to turn tricks?

[sheetstabuer]

Why not give them a copy of "sheetstabuers self loving volume II"

I'm sure that would help

[puggit]

Nick P said:

also, why have i just had a horrific 'Bukkake' flashback?

That's something you need to confide with your shrink - not air on PH!

[GingerNinja]

Sounds like being spitroasted into humiliation by complete strangers is just the sort of treatment the little cheater needs.

[remal]

Oh dear Oh dear. how did you know what the wife said.

but really as long as no others get hurt and both parties are happy then I say "gangbang away"

[Gruffy]

I thought the generally accepted rule was that something like that should never be used to 'strengthen' a relationship. You'd need a fairly strong relationship before you try something like that.

apologies for the serious post

[Nick P]

puggit said:

Nick P said:

also, why have i just had a horrific 'Bukkake' flashback?

That's something you need to confide with your shrink - not air on PH!

PH is my therapy. and it's free.

anyway, what sort of woman leave hers kids so she can end up looking like an iced donut?

what a pathetic cow.

where did you say she worked?

[srebbe64]

Just one question MB?

Could your missus have posed the question to you from this "third party down the gym" in order to see your reaction (if you know what I mean)?

[mahatma bag]

Newsflash....

Mel and Ken have apparently visited the planned venue. A bar with various rooms leading off. The deed was not done, they were merely windowshopping.

Mel is reported to be a bit reluctant to go through with it, but she loves Ken (yeah, crap name, sorry) so much she will do anything to please him.

[UpTheIron]

Mahatma Bag said:

What Ken is suggesting is that they go to a swinging club, where Ken's aim is to see Mel entertain two blokes at the same time, while he provides the icing on the cake, as it were.

And if that is what "Mel" wants to do then good for her...but if she is "doing it for him" then don't bother...

[mahatma bag]

srebbe64 said:

Just one question MB?

Could your missus have posed the question to you from this "third party down the gym" in order to see your reaction (if you know what I mean)?

[nicecupoftea]

This has to be a wind up!!

Throws away a marriage/family for a fling, and thinks she'll get the geezer who's happy to break up a family to play housey by getting spit roasted by a couple of strangers while he throws his throat yoghurt over all and sundry

Alarm call for Mel!

[scooby_snax]

Can never understand why guys get their rocks off seeing their partner entertaining other chaps.....maybe I am just old fashioned.
Anyway if she is asking the question of Mrs B then to my mind she really doesnt want to do it and is seeking afirmation. Slippery slope methinks after she does that what else will it lead to?

[nicecupoftea]

mahatma bag said:

Newsflash....

Mel and Ken have apparently visited the planned venue. A bar with various rooms leading off. The deed was not done, they were merely windowshopping.

Mel is reported to be a bit reluctant to go through with it, but she loves Ken (yeah, crap name, sorry) so much she will do anything to please him.

Serious mode: Tell her to run. Run as fast as she can and keep running. Sorry but any bloke who is up for this sort of shit is not looking for a serious monogamous relationship. If she wants to keep a shred of dignity or self respect tell him to shag the two blokes himself and go off and sort her head out...