Skeletons emerging from closet...

[risotto]

And you never know - the big news might be something completely unrelated to you. Unlikely, but who knows?!

[dougc]

I got to the end of the second line and thought 'he's boffed her hasn't he'

The sensible option is to get the truth out in the open and then just hope that doing the deed with C is what she wants to talk to your OH about. Could go catasrophically wrong if the news is 'I bought some new Jimmy Choos' though.

Alternatively, gamble and hope that you being there shames C into keeping her gob shut or that the matter won't even come up. Do you want to take the chance?

[graham@edinburgh]

Fidgits said:

beccaviola said:

Get your oar in first. Tell OH before C has a chance to twist it all.

Good luck...

or better still, twist it to your way...

"I think C is going to tell you that I slept with her last year before we started dating, however the truth is..

a. She seduced me while i was drunk and i was so ashamed i couldnt tell you
b. It was a pitty shag as she was so depressed, i hated it and was physcially sick afterwards, which is why i couldnt tell you
c. I was single, she was single, we were consenting adults, deal with it.

"

Gets my vote now that it transpires damage limitation options have been nuked.

[scotal]

Harry Flashman said:

OH is at school

Oh IS a teacher right?

ETA, sorry saw your disclaimer

Edited by scotal on Tuesday 9th January 16:33

[nervous]

graham@edinburgh said:

You do, of course, run the slight risk that this isn't what this meeting's about and causing a shitstorm for no reason

exactly. grahams obviously met you resh.

whatever, im guessing this is for our delictation only? cos saying 'well we werent together then' pretty much covers it.

if shes going to be upset that youve slept with other birds shes likely to die of dehydration before the week is out.

[Lucas]

Maybe OH already knows and has asked you to be present to see if you squirm.

[esselte]

Harry Flashman said:

OH is a teacher, before any of you start with your amusing comments, by the way.

Never thought anything else

[mechsympathy]

Harry Flashman said:

beccaviola said:

Get your oar in first. Tell OH before C has a chance to twist it all.

Good luck...

Can’t discuss with OH. OH is at school so I cannot reach her (voicemail or text only, which seems like a bad way of disclosing). Meeting C straight after classes – I am to join when I get out of work.

You need to start practicing your wide-eyed innocent look (might be tricky) and "But I thought you knew."

[andy28]

Bit of a dilema you are in! Why do you think this mate is going to spill the beans? She could be about to tell her something different. I would say though that if she doesn't tell your g/f, there will always be another time that you are sh**ting yourself that she will do. I reckon you should do 1 of the following;
a. Tell your g/f that in the past you and her mate did the deed, but it was BEFORE either of you had thought about getting together.
OR
b. Go along to see the mate with your g/f, and if this girl confesses all, look dumbfounded and say "what? Why are you saying this? I know you are jealous of ...... and me, but to lie like this is the lowest of the low"!

Just another thought...do you think your g/f already knows, and that's why she wants you to go with her???!!

[Flat in Fifth]

Sounds to me you just have to take vixpy along for the ride, then you'll seem like a shy and reserved gentleman despite ogling boobies for the entire evening.

Alternatively when confronted by OH you could just point at aforementioned boobies, and any sane woman, if she is honest with herself knows that when confronted with a splendid pair, as men we are biologicaly programmed that our brains turn to mush.

[-JUT-]

Do you have C's number? Could always tell her OH has asked you to come along, and leave it at that...

[nervous]

Harry Flashman said:

This is what instinct is telling me. Still need a plan though.

a plan you say? well, thats me out.

[anonymous-user]

What time do you expect an 'outcome'.

Perhaps the 'PH rebound squad' could have the two single girls phone numbers to offer 'comfort' to.

[graham@edinburgh]

C : "I thought you should know that he shagged me last year" (or whenever it was)
OH : steely gaze at HF
HF : shrugs "Meh...she was crap. Now...whose round is it?"

Edited by graham@edinburgh on Tuesday 9th January 16:35

[beccaviola]

Well, in that case, you're screwed.

Metaphorically.

Good luck...

[swilly]

You wimp.

Firstly do nothing, as you have done nothing which warrants you do anything.

Then if the situation gets out of hand, make a big joke of it, tell them both hilarious stories of how good it was slipping her a length and then drink lots of beer.

Seriously!!

[justayellowbadge]

Deny everything.
Claim that she is clearly deranged and unstable, and that you have no idea what she is babbling on about, but that it is clear she needs help.

Hope there is no video evidence. (There isn't, is there? It's just, if there is, it might help a few on here to formulate better responses, were you to post it)

[-JUT-]

graham@edinburgh said:

C : "I thought you should know that he shagged me last year" (or whenever it was)
OH : steely gaze at HF
HF : shrugs "Meh...she was crap. Now...whose round is it?"

Edited by graham@edinburgh on Tuesday 9th January 16:35

love it

[Harry Flashman]

Lucas said:

Maybe OH already knows and has asked you to be present to see if you squirm.

She wouldn't do that to me. She loves me.

Oh God...

[Harry Flashman]

andy28 said:

b. Go along to see the mate with your g/f, and if this girl confesses all, look dumbfounded and say "what? Why are you saying this? I know you are jealous of ...... and me, but to lie like this is the lowest of the low"!

This is good. Underhand, but good.