This girl at work...
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Don't know why I'm posting this here but anyway.
Me and a girl at work have been e-mailing each other for a good few months, more than anything to keep each other entertained during tedious days in the office. We've spent a few lunch times together doing things like supermarket shopping, nothing exciting.
Recently I felt like my work has been suffering because of our emails so yesterday I decided that I'd tell her, in a polite way, to ease off, with the hope that soon she will stop.
She's quite shy in person, doesn't talk to many people, shes good looking but has a live in boyfriend and I'm married. I have no intention of taking it any further as I don't see her that way.
Anyway, since yesterday when I said to calm down with the emails, shes started sending me really b
hy emails and ignoring me face to face.
Shes become quite a good mate over the last few months, but this isn't reasonable behaviour is it? What do you suggest to do?
Me and a girl at work have been e-mailing each other for a good few months, more than anything to keep each other entertained during tedious days in the office. We've spent a few lunch times together doing things like supermarket shopping, nothing exciting.
Recently I felt like my work has been suffering because of our emails so yesterday I decided that I'd tell her, in a polite way, to ease off, with the hope that soon she will stop.
She's quite shy in person, doesn't talk to many people, shes good looking but has a live in boyfriend and I'm married. I have no intention of taking it any further as I don't see her that way.
Anyway, since yesterday when I said to calm down with the emails, shes started sending me really b
hy emails and ignoring me face to face.Shes become quite a good mate over the last few months, but this isn't reasonable behaviour is it? What do you suggest to do?
PaulPT7 said:
Don't know why I'm posting this here but anyway.
Me and a girl at work have been e-mailing each other for a good few months, more than anything to keep each other entertained during tedious days in the office. We've spent a few lunch times together doing things like supermarket shopping, nothing exciting.
Recently I felt like my work has been suffering because of our emails so yesterday I decided that I'd tell her, in a polite way, to ease off, with the hope that soon she will stop.
She's quite shy in person, doesn't talk to many people, shes good looking but has a live in boyfriend and I'm married. I have no intention of taking it any further as I don't see her that way.
Anyway, since yesterday when I said to calm down with the emails, shes started sending me really bhy emails and ignoring me face to face.
Shes become quite a good mate over the last few months, but this isn't reasonable behaviour is it? What do you suggest to do?
How old is she?Me and a girl at work have been e-mailing each other for a good few months, more than anything to keep each other entertained during tedious days in the office. We've spent a few lunch times together doing things like supermarket shopping, nothing exciting.
Recently I felt like my work has been suffering because of our emails so yesterday I decided that I'd tell her, in a polite way, to ease off, with the hope that soon she will stop.
She's quite shy in person, doesn't talk to many people, shes good looking but has a live in boyfriend and I'm married. I have no intention of taking it any further as I don't see her that way.
Anyway, since yesterday when I said to calm down with the emails, shes started sending me really b
hy emails and ignoring me face to face.Shes become quite a good mate over the last few months, but this isn't reasonable behaviour is it? What do you suggest to do?
Give her a day or two; she has been totally reactionary to your "calming down" email - she will be fine.
I'd guess you just need to explain your initial intentions and that you never had any intention to turn it into some sort of office affair, and re-state that you're cutting contact because your work performance is slipping.
I'd also tell her that her suddenly bhy e-mails are probably an indication that she wanted it to lead to something, which you didn't, and that if she's just going to send you bhy e-mails, she's not really going to accomplish anything, and it's in both of your work interests to just resume normal work ethos.
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This, I never get with women; how is being spiteful and bhy going to accomplish anything after being let down about something?
Their OH breaks up with them and finds someone else, so they go attack that someone else... You think he'll take you back? All you do is prove you're crazy and insecure.
I'd also tell her that her suddenly b
hy e-mails are probably an indication that she wanted it to lead to something, which you didn't, and that if she's just going to send you bhy e-mails, she's not really going to accomplish anything, and it's in both of your work interests to just resume normal work ethos.---
This, I never get with women; how is being spiteful and b
hy going to accomplish anything after being let down about something?Their OH breaks up with them and finds someone else, so they go attack that someone else... You think he'll take you back? All you do is prove you're crazy and insecure.
Edited by Heskey on Tuesday 10th June 16:04
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