What to do with daughter who has lost confidence to drive?
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Curiously enough, but at 21 it's her choice not yours.
You've done the best for her, probably paid for (or helped her pay for) lessons, helped her choose a car, advised her about maintenance etc.
She's probably not just doing it as a hissy-fit to piss you off or kick over the traces, but if you start to make a big deal out of it, that's what it will become.
Let her get on with it, let her sit with the plebs, waste money on a daily cab etc. In years to come, if whe ever does come back to cars then at least you did the right thing for her when you could.
I'm currently having to endure my (almost) 25 year old daughter whingeing about not being able to find a driving instructor who can fit her in quickly, do evening lessons, pick her up from work, drop her off at home etc etc.
Funnily enough, when she was a bratty 17 year old with all the time in the world to do lessons and sit her test she just wasn't interested...
You've done the best for her, probably paid for (or helped her pay for) lessons, helped her choose a car, advised her about maintenance etc.
She's probably not just doing it as a hissy-fit to piss you off or kick over the traces, but if you start to make a big deal out of it, that's what it will become.
Let her get on with it, let her sit with the plebs, waste money on a daily cab etc. In years to come, if whe ever does come back to cars then at least you did the right thing for her when you could.
I'm currently having to endure my (almost) 25 year old daughter whingeing about not being able to find a driving instructor who can fit her in quickly, do evening lessons, pick her up from work, drop her off at home etc etc.
Funnily enough, when she was a bratty 17 year old with all the time in the world to do lessons and sit her test she just wasn't interested...
If she's either scared or uninterested in driving then she's most likely no good at it and probably best off the roads. I wouldn't try pressuring her into it, just let her do what she wants but don't offer lifts anywhere. She'll either realise what a ball ache not driving is and start driving or not care in which case good luck to her.
Leave her to it. She's not scared, not put-off by anything; has she lost her confidence or just doesn't much enjoy it?
I hardly drive much these days - simply put, living in Central London means that bicycles and tubes are easier. If she's found another way of getting around which she prefers then good for her.
I hardly drive much these days - simply put, living in Central London means that bicycles and tubes are easier. If she's found another way of getting around which she prefers then good for her.
OP, as above.
Is she able to stream her music to car radio? What's the visibility like when manoeuvring and parking? How quickly does the car interior warm up, or is it a cold, draughty and noisy place to be? Entry and exit, how easy is it? What shoes does she want to wear verses the ones she has to wear to drive the MGTF?
A taxi would be instantly warm and allow full attention on the iPhone, shoes also not a problem and probably far more lady like entry and exit.
Just a different perspective perhaps.
Is she able to stream her music to car radio? What's the visibility like when manoeuvring and parking? How quickly does the car interior warm up, or is it a cold, draughty and noisy place to be? Entry and exit, how easy is it? What shoes does she want to wear verses the ones she has to wear to drive the MGTF?
A taxi would be instantly warm and allow full attention on the iPhone, shoes also not a problem and probably far more lady like entry and exit.
Just a different perspective perhaps.
olds_cool said:
Change the car. To be honest if I had an MGTF I'd lose all interest in driving too
MrFox123 said:
OP, as above.
Is she able to stream her music to car radio? What's the visibility like when manoeuvring and parking? How quickly does the car interior warm up, or is it a cold, draughty and noisy place to be? Entry and exit, how easy is it? What shoes does she want to wear verses the ones she has to wear to drive the MGTF?
A taxi would be instantly warm and allow full attention on the iPhone, shoes also not a problem and probably far more lady like entry and exit.
Just a different perspective perhaps.
She's an adult. If she wanted to change her car, she could change her car.Is she able to stream her music to car radio? What's the visibility like when manoeuvring and parking? How quickly does the car interior warm up, or is it a cold, draughty and noisy place to be? Entry and exit, how easy is it? What shoes does she want to wear verses the ones she has to wear to drive the MGTF?
A taxi would be instantly warm and allow full attention on the iPhone, shoes also not a problem and probably far more lady like entry and exit.
Just a different perspective perhaps.
We have exactly this problem with a young girl who works for us. She simply seems to have lost confidence even though there has not been an accident or anything.
So we have offered to pay for a session of lessons as we would ideally like her to drive in her job. Also would be good for her to understand why she has lost confidence for no apparent reason.
Anyway, she has lessons booked so we will see how it goes.
So we have offered to pay for a session of lessons as we would ideally like her to drive in her job. Also would be good for her to understand why she has lost confidence for no apparent reason.
Anyway, she has lessons booked so we will see how it goes.
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