Moving 250 miles for a new job
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Why would you have doubts?
I am 26. If I had to move to somewhere new I wouldn't mind. You'll meet people presuming you have hobbies like Golf or Lifting tons of weight in the gym. Or Drinking. Plus you get to move up north where houses dont cost as much and theres room to enjoy yourself on the roads.
2 years ago I left Hull and moved to Surrey after getting 3 job offers in London, Oxford and Guildford. I chose Guildford based on the pay but it was also near Woking where I was thinking of buying a flat with my missus, she had a job in London after she finished uni, I met her in Hull at uni there but was from Essex originally. Moved in about 18 months ago and have met new people etc and have some okay friends now.
Friends are disposable you'll meet new ones is what I am trying to say....... i think you need to man up assuming the pay is better or the same, so your quality of life will only improve moving away from this end of the country.
Oh and my entire family are 250 miles away. I see them at most 6 times a year.
I am 26. If I had to move to somewhere new I wouldn't mind. You'll meet people presuming you have hobbies like Golf or Lifting tons of weight in the gym. Or Drinking. Plus you get to move up north where houses dont cost as much and theres room to enjoy yourself on the roads.
2 years ago I left Hull and moved to Surrey after getting 3 job offers in London, Oxford and Guildford. I chose Guildford based on the pay but it was also near Woking where I was thinking of buying a flat with my missus, she had a job in London after she finished uni, I met her in Hull at uni there but was from Essex originally. Moved in about 18 months ago and have met new people etc and have some okay friends now.
Friends are disposable you'll meet new ones is what I am trying to say....... i think you need to man up assuming the pay is better or the same, so your quality of life will only improve moving away from this end of the country.
Oh and my entire family are 250 miles away. I see them at most 6 times a year.
Okay. YOU have NO kids yet? Do it. You have nothing to loose.
I moved my wife and 1 year old child from Birmingham, where all her friends were, and my parents were (17 miles from us), to the Yorkshire Dales, and within 4 years we'd moved to Merseyside (now with a second child) to live in the same street as her brother, round the corner from her sister and a mile from her parents. (the town I grew up in and said I'd never ever live in)
The Countryside was great, BUT in winter, we were fairly isolated, my wife found the neighbours especially hard to like, and felt very alone, and the schools were a bit mediocre (especially the local primary with 25 kids in 2 classes). I'm glad we lived there as I had rose tints about the Yorkshire dales having spent many teenage years rambling and camping there.
Now I'm trying to get her to move to Shropshire or Hereford-shire or Worcestershire, but she thinks her parents are too old to move too far away from.
So do it now whilst you can.
I moved my wife and 1 year old child from Birmingham, where all her friends were, and my parents were (17 miles from us), to the Yorkshire Dales, and within 4 years we'd moved to Merseyside (now with a second child) to live in the same street as her brother, round the corner from her sister and a mile from her parents. (the town I grew up in and said I'd never ever live in)
The Countryside was great, BUT in winter, we were fairly isolated, my wife found the neighbours especially hard to like, and felt very alone, and the schools were a bit mediocre (especially the local primary with 25 kids in 2 classes). I'm glad we lived there as I had rose tints about the Yorkshire dales having spent many teenage years rambling and camping there.
Now I'm trying to get her to move to Shropshire or Hereford-shire or Worcestershire, but she thinks her parents are too old to move too far away from.
So do it now whilst you can.
Some good advice on here. I would suggest, go to the interview and check out the area with a view to living there rather than just holidaying. I have been to some wonderful holiday destinations, however, the prospect of living there all year round would make me look at them in a whole new light.
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I'd think twice but I'm saying that with hindsight. In my 20s I moved down South because I couldnt find a job that paid what I wanted to earn, went to Alton, then Surbiton, then moved up to Leamington, then Mansfield. These were all for jobs. Eventually I moved back to Lancaster to be nearer my family
Moving away is nice in one way as you get to see new areas, make a new social circle.
Moving away is nasty in one way as you're unfamiliar with surroundings, puts a lot of pressure on a relationships, and you can feel the distance and loneliness will creep in.
THe other part is what happens after that job? Job for life would be great, but sometimes things dont work out and you're left there with a place in the Lakes that you cant commute from.
The West Coast Main Line is OK, Glasgow/Carlisle/Oxenholme/Lancaster/Preston/Wigan/Warrington/Euston so there's options for commuting if you're near any of those. But if you can take the upheaval of going, maybe coming back, and your O/H isnt going to be isolated from her friends and family, then crack on. Hopefully the people you'll be working with arent nobs. The Lakes seems to have it's own microclimate in both weather and personality type of the people who're local. For a place that's so reliant on tourism I've never seen as much disdain for tourists
Moving away is nice in one way as you get to see new areas, make a new social circle.
Moving away is nasty in one way as you're unfamiliar with surroundings, puts a lot of pressure on a relationships, and you can feel the distance and loneliness will creep in.
THe other part is what happens after that job? Job for life would be great, but sometimes things dont work out and you're left there with a place in the Lakes that you cant commute from.
The West Coast Main Line is OK, Glasgow/Carlisle/Oxenholme/Lancaster/Preston/Wigan/Warrington/Euston so there's options for commuting if you're near any of those. But if you can take the upheaval of going, maybe coming back, and your O/H isnt going to be isolated from her friends and family, then crack on. Hopefully the people you'll be working with arent nobs. The Lakes seems to have it's own microclimate in both weather and personality type of the people who're local. For a place that's so reliant on tourism I've never seen as much disdain for tourists
I am also based in the south east and as somebody else has already mentioned you have to think about your longer term career and what you may do if the job turns sour. For me, I choose to remain here as I feel the likelihood of finding another similar or next role up is much increased. I have been approached for roles which would require relocation in the past but then have the hassle of selling and then renting/buying and also the new local job market would likely not offer as many opportunities as where I am now without the need to move again.
It may be worth considering discussing with your company taking this role on some sort of long-term assignment basis of say 6 to 18 months. This could be done with a temp back-fillng you, giving you the option to go back, or if things go well to stay on. You could also do it whilst training somebody else up.
It may be worth considering discussing with your company taking this role on some sort of long-term assignment basis of say 6 to 18 months. This could be done with a temp back-fillng you, giving you the option to go back, or if things go well to stay on. You could also do it whilst training somebody else up.
We have done it twice.
About 13 years ago we up sticks from Manchester and moved to Hertfordshire because my wife got offered a job in the south east. I gave up a job to move with her - but managed to secure a job during the move and actually started a week before she did.
6 Year later we did the reverse move and went back to the NW to be close to family.
More recently we did the move again - but this time left our roots down in the NW and instead bought a small flat in the south east to work out of in the week - travelling back to the NW at weekends.
It all went belly up around 4 weeks ago - so we are moving back to the NW (hopefully permanently this time) and putting the flat in the SE up for rent until we decide what to do with it.
About 13 years ago we up sticks from Manchester and moved to Hertfordshire because my wife got offered a job in the south east. I gave up a job to move with her - but managed to secure a job during the move and actually started a week before she did.
6 Year later we did the reverse move and went back to the NW to be close to family.
More recently we did the move again - but this time left our roots down in the NW and instead bought a small flat in the south east to work out of in the week - travelling back to the NW at weekends.
It all went belly up around 4 weeks ago - so we are moving back to the NW (hopefully permanently this time) and putting the flat in the SE up for rent until we decide what to do with it.
Some good replies here. Just to clear a bit up though I would not be moving for the job, but the job basically makes the area available for us to move up to. The job I am applying for is actually exactly what I am doing at the moment, in the same company but just the different location.
AceOfHearts said:
Some good replies here. Just to clear a bit up though I would not be moving for the job, but the job basically makes the area available for us to move up to. The job I am applying for is actually exactly what I am doing at the moment, in the same company but just the different location.
So it's a new job, just like the old one. You have to apply for it, but it's the same company. I'd still treat it as a new job, personally. The company is the same, but the people around you in the office (I'm guessing you'll be working in an office, because remote working in a new area is hard) will be new to you, there'll be a first day, there'll be a figuring out the best commute home, and where you're going to go for dinner. BTW, it's dinner at lunchtime, tea comes later and isnt always a drink
I'd also say try and make the move cleanly. We just moved to the sticks, and my wife works in town. She's commuting and parking near our old house, which isnt helping her get settled in the new one. I know you wont be able to do that, but a thought of 'we can just nip back down South at the weekend' means you're not in a settling mindset, which can be a bit of a wall to communication, and feeling like you're OK to live there.
Whichever you do, though, check how your OH is thinking. If you're like me, sometimes you can charge headlong into things with someone alongside you who wants to support you, and can sometimes forget that they have thoughts, feelings, jobs, family, friends that they're going to be uprooted from.
250 miles in your 20s? Lightweight: I'm about to move 475 miles and I'm *cough* twice your age.
I live there once, over by Penrith, very nice. It did rain a bit
Good luck.
AceOfHearts said:
I am probably getting ahead of myself, but like you say if it goes tits up I can always come back.
Please don't go into it thinking it might fail/with an escape plan. Go for it with 100% commitment and it will work,otherwise you are setting yourself up for a fall.I live there once, over by Penrith, very nice. It did rain a bit
Good luck.
I moved from a job in Sheffield (lived in Leeds) to a job in London with the same company... that was 2006... best thing I ever did, yes I did miss my friends, etc... but I wanted to see the big smoke and its not let me down.
Next step is to blag a job in Europe and have my company put me up in one of their apartments for 6 months.
Next step is to blag a job in Europe and have my company put me up in one of their apartments for 6 months.
Du1point8 said:
I moved from a job in Sheffield (lived in Leeds) to a job in London with the same company... that was 2006... best thing I ever did, yes I did miss my friends, etc... but I wanted to see the big smoke and its not let me down.
Next step is to blag a job in Europe and have my company put me up in one of their apartments for 6 months.
My son is in his final year at university, and his long term girlfriend moved around alot with her Polish, Norwegian, British Parents (I can't get my head around it but one is polish, the other is Norwegian, but both with British passports). Her dad currently works in Chad. (and not the one in Derby) Next step is to blag a job in Europe and have my company put me up in one of their apartments for 6 months.
He was talking about them looking to move to Austrialia after a couple of years post grad experience.
My (as yet to be voiced) feelings as a parent, are "please don't put your mother through that kind of heart ache"
Anywhere in Europe I could cope with, but if I couldn't get there on an easyjet flight in half a day, I'd kind of miss him myself.
Pit Pony said:
Du1point8 said:
I moved from a job in Sheffield (lived in Leeds) to a job in London with the same company... that was 2006... best thing I ever did, yes I did miss my friends, etc... but I wanted to see the big smoke and its not let me down.
Next step is to blag a job in Europe and have my company put me up in one of their apartments for 6 months.
My son is in his final year at university, and his long term girlfriend moved around alot with her Polish, Norwegian, British Parents (I can't get my head around it but one is polish, the other is Norwegian, but both with British passports). Her dad currently works in Chad. (and not the one in Derby) Next step is to blag a job in Europe and have my company put me up in one of their apartments for 6 months.
He was talking about them looking to move to Austrialia after a couple of years post grad experience.
My (as yet to be voiced) feelings as a parent, are "please don't put your mother through that kind of heart ache"
Anywhere in Europe I could cope with, but if I couldn't get there on an easyjet flight in half a day, I'd kind of miss him myself.
Once retired they are moving to France for the simple life, I can't wait, as I will see them more than I do now... I f
king hate Hull and don't know why they still live there.I moved a plane/ferry ride away at 23 after a telephone interview on the Thu, quit job Fri, everything in the car and moved Sat, Started work Mon! Still living away after 15 years. Left the girlfriend behind too. The only thing I would have thought twice about was meeting a local/marriage/having kids. My parents and I really miss being able to drive down the road on a whim and see each other. Skype helps a bit though.
hidetheelephants said:
mike9009 said:
A job came up on the Isle of Wight
My parents were a little shocked when I told them we were moving overseas.....
Becoming a caulkhead isn't travelling overseas, it's travelling back in time...My parents were a little shocked when I told them we were moving overseas.....
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