Left behind in the job market...
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Hi there, I am 26 and I have never had a full time job in my whole life and still live at home. Let's start with a little bit of background about me:
Went to a special needs school from the ages of 5-16 even though I don't have special needs
Had a gap year due to my mum (who I hate) trying to get me to go to another special needs facility (I refused)
Enrolled at local college two months before 18th birthday, did ICT course, hated it, asked to switch to mechanics but got pigeon holed because I would have to do another level 2 before going on to the level 3 and they wouldn't pay for me to do another level 2
As a result of the above my only option was to do another 2 year course in ICT which was a follow on from the first 1 year course I took
Then (MY BIGGEST) mistake, going to uni for two years that I hated. Did ICT, nothing like college at all, wanted to murder everybody. Only 14 students on the course and no fit girls, didn't get shagged NOT ONCE!!! And that was one of my main reasons for going to uni. Now saddled with 9.5k debt (already paid off 4k).
After uni I job a job with Royal Mail but it was only a 5 hour per week contract, they kept me in because as soon as I thought "f
k this, gonna quit" they gave me a few weeks of 20 hours and then back to normal.
Eventually quit late last year and then got a 3 month temporary part time job at Sainsbury's over Christmas working night shift. 20 hours per week, the most I have ever had in a contract! Thankfully that ended before I murdered somebody because I hated the night work and shelf filling in general.
Trouble is, in my area (further south east than London, think white cliffs and you aren't far off) there is hardly any work. It is all for either specialist roles (excavator driver, teacher, registered general nurse, etc, etc) or when the odd thing does come up it is part time minimum wage (like a job in Halfords for example).
I was planning to go on from Sainsbury's shelf filling to van driving but thes let me down on that one, said they had vacancies but all of a sudden they didn't.
So yeah, I am really angry about how my life turned out especially when I read about early 20s high flyers living playboy lifestyles.
Went to a special needs school from the ages of 5-16 even though I don't have special needs
Had a gap year due to my mum (who I hate) trying to get me to go to another special needs facility (I refused)
Enrolled at local college two months before 18th birthday, did ICT course, hated it, asked to switch to mechanics but got pigeon holed because I would have to do another level 2 before going on to the level 3 and they wouldn't pay for me to do another level 2
As a result of the above my only option was to do another 2 year course in ICT which was a follow on from the first 1 year course I took
Then (MY BIGGEST) mistake, going to uni for two years that I hated. Did ICT, nothing like college at all, wanted to murder everybody. Only 14 students on the course and no fit girls, didn't get shagged NOT ONCE!!! And that was one of my main reasons for going to uni. Now saddled with 9.5k debt (already paid off 4k).
After uni I job a job with Royal Mail but it was only a 5 hour per week contract, they kept me in because as soon as I thought "f
k this, gonna quit" they gave me a few weeks of 20 hours and then back to normal.Eventually quit late last year and then got a 3 month temporary part time job at Sainsbury's over Christmas working night shift. 20 hours per week, the most I have ever had in a contract! Thankfully that ended before I murdered somebody because I hated the night work and shelf filling in general.
Trouble is, in my area (further south east than London, think white cliffs and you aren't far off) there is hardly any work. It is all for either specialist roles (excavator driver, teacher, registered general nurse, etc, etc) or when the odd thing does come up it is part time minimum wage (like a job in Halfords for example).
I was planning to go on from Sainsbury's shelf filling to van driving but the
s let me down on that one, said they had vacancies but all of a sudden they didn't. So yeah, I am really angry about how my life turned out especially when I read about early 20s high flyers living playboy lifestyles.
Edited by Imprezaboi555 on Tuesday 26th January 15:48
Should of waited it out at royal mail, eventually you would of been moved up to a full time 39 hour contract.
There are other ways to get full time such as look for a full time job in a depot which they can't fill, if your the only one who applies and your p/t then you'll be moved to f/t.
There are other ways to get full time such as look for a full time job in a depot which they can't fill, if your the only one who applies and your p/t then you'll be moved to f/t.
Imprezaboi555 said:
Hi there, I am 26 and I have never had a full time job in my whole life and still live at home. Let's start with a little bit of background about me:
...
Thankfully that ended before I murdered somebody because I hated the night work and shelf filling in general.
Trouble is, in my area (further south east than London, think white cliffs and you aren't far off) there is hardly any work.
So yeah, I am really angry about how my life turned out especially when I read about early 20s high flyers living playboy lifestyles.
First off, don't murder anyone - it can seriously muck up your life....
Thankfully that ended before I murdered somebody because I hated the night work and shelf filling in general.
Trouble is, in my area (further south east than London, think white cliffs and you aren't far off) there is hardly any work.
So yeah, I am really angry about how my life turned out especially when I read about early 20s high flyers living playboy lifestyles.
Second, if the area you live in has poor job prospects, why not move to where
the jobs are ? Millions of folks have had to do this.
Plenty of manual blue collar workers needed in and around airports, for example
Heathrow / Gatwick / Luton / Stanstead.
Plenty of folks do work they don't like - but the money comes in handy.
An attitude transplant might prove useful. Either that or growing up a bit, eh ;->
To put your plight into perspective, a friend of mine was 36 years old before he
got his first proper job - and his first proper girlfriend the same year, so you've
got very little to complain about so far, AFAIK.
egor110 said:
Should of waited it out at royal mail, eventually you would of been moved up to a full time 39 hour contract.
There are other ways to get full time such as look for a full time job in a depot which they can't fill, if your the only one who applies and your p/t then you'll be moved to f/t.
I was there for 2 and a quarter years, why does the full time contract start!?There are other ways to get full time such as look for a full time job in a depot which they can't fill, if your the only one who applies and your p/t then you'll be moved to f/t.
dcb said:
First off, don't murder anyone - it can seriously muck up your life.
Second, if the area you live in has poor job prospects, why not move to where
the jobs are ? Millions of folks have had to do this.
Plenty of manual blue collar workers needed in and around airports, for example
Heathrow / Gatwick / Luton / Stanstead.
Plenty of folks do work they don't like - but the money comes in handy.
An attitude transplant might prove useful. Either that or growing up a bit, eh ;->
To put your plight into perspective, a friend of mine was 36 years old before he
got his first proper job - and his first proper girlfriend the same year, so you've
got very little to complain about so far, AFAIK.
Can't argue with that, I sympathise with him. It is so unfair how most people's lives work out and some people just fall through the cracks, like I did. I can only get to jobs within 10 miles of my area on public tranny. Also how does someone move without any capital? Gotta pay a huge deposit before even paying rent. There are too many obstacles to work where I live, most choose not to bother and just go on the dole, I can see why because it's hopeless.Second, if the area you live in has poor job prospects, why not move to where
the jobs are ? Millions of folks have had to do this.
Plenty of manual blue collar workers needed in and around airports, for example
Heathrow / Gatwick / Luton / Stanstead.
Plenty of folks do work they don't like - but the money comes in handy.
An attitude transplant might prove useful. Either that or growing up a bit, eh ;->
To put your plight into perspective, a friend of mine was 36 years old before he
got his first proper job - and his first proper girlfriend the same year, so you've
got very little to complain about so far, AFAIK.
On the girlfriend front I have given up waiting, popped my cherry in a knocking shop last year, wish I had done it sooner. Since then banged four other slags, expensive yes, but been horny since 14 and waited 11 years, never again. The teen girls never used to look at me a few years back, f
king slags. Why did they just ignore me!? They'll get their comeuppance.One day I'll show everyone, one day, one day.
Imprezaboi555 said:
dcb said:
First off, don't murder anyone - it can seriously muck up your life.
Second, if the area you live in has poor job prospects, why not move to where
the jobs are ? Millions of folks have had to do this.
Plenty of manual blue collar workers needed in and around airports, for example
Heathrow / Gatwick / Luton / Stanstead.
Plenty of folks do work they don't like - but the money comes in handy.
An attitude transplant might prove useful. Either that or growing up a bit, eh ;->
To put your plight into perspective, a friend of mine was 36 years old before he
got his first proper job - and his first proper girlfriend the same year, so you've
got very little to complain about so far, AFAIK.
Can't argue with that, I sympathise with him. It is so unfair how most people's lives work out and some people just fall through the cracks, like I did. I can only get to jobs within 10 miles of my area on public tranny. Also how does someone move without any capital? Gotta pay a huge deposit before even paying rent. There are too many obstacles to work where I live, most choose not to bother and just go on the dole, I can see why because it's hopeless.Second, if the area you live in has poor job prospects, why not move to where
the jobs are ? Millions of folks have had to do this.
Plenty of manual blue collar workers needed in and around airports, for example
Heathrow / Gatwick / Luton / Stanstead.
Plenty of folks do work they don't like - but the money comes in handy.
An attitude transplant might prove useful. Either that or growing up a bit, eh ;->
To put your plight into perspective, a friend of mine was 36 years old before he
got his first proper job - and his first proper girlfriend the same year, so you've
got very little to complain about so far, AFAIK.
On the girlfriend front I have given up waiting, popped my cherry in a knocking shop last year, wish I had done it sooner. Since then banged four other slags, expensive yes, but been horny since 14 and waited 11 years, never again. The teen girls never used to look at me a few years back, f
king slags. Why did they just ignore me!? They'll get their comeuppance.One day I'll show everyone, one day, one day.
Personally I think you're trolling but at the same time you need some help, across your posting history (of 12 posts) you've pretended to be from 2 different countries and have experience of multiple industries, not all of these can be true.
Imprezaboi555 said:
egor110 said:
Should of waited it out at royal mail, eventually you would of been moved up to a full time 39 hour contract.
There are other ways to get full time such as look for a full time job in a depot which they can't fill, if your the only one who applies and your p/t then you'll be moved to f/t.
I was there for 2 and a quarter years, why does the full time contract start!?There are other ways to get full time such as look for a full time job in a depot which they can't fill, if your the only one who applies and your p/t then you'll be moved to f/t.
Reading your post re popping your cherry , you do sound a mentalist and i don't think you'd last too long down here.
Edited by egor110 on Tuesday 26th January 19:18
Imprezaboi555 said:
[There are too many obstacles to work where I live, most choose not to bother and just go on the dole, I can see why because it's hopeless.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SaeLKhRnkhQThese two videos will change your life, they did mine.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=2F3n80V_sb0
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0
https://youtube.com/watch?v=2F3n80V_sb0
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0
Just incase this is genuine;
Although I haven't ever felt like killing anyone, I can relate to this a little...
I felt very hard done by when I was 17, I'd quit sixth form college and did a few st jobs I had no interest in. Mostly part time. I was feeling rather sorry for myself although not as angry and socially awkward as you appear to be. I couldn't drive which really was irritating and I couldn't afford anything, living with my mum who had no money so what little wages I had usually went to helping out at home. Getting a decent job seemed impossible especially as I was unwilling to stick it out anywhere long enough to get promoted or whatever.
The only person who can change your situation is yourself, and while you don't think you do, you've got just as much opportunity as most people in this country to make a success of your life.
I found a job I wanted after nearly a year of being depressed and miserable, moved 120 miles from home by myself, worked hard and never looked back. It wasn't easy, especially living in a house share with an insane Russian alcoholic and several other lunatics, not driving and living 3 miles from the shops, and usually working too late to make it to the shop for dinner in the evening, but well worth it in the end. 7 years later things are very different.
I'm only giving you my boring story because people giving advice behind the keyboard may have ever been in that situation before and may be one of the people you've been ranting about who have had it handed to them on a plate but in reality, most people aren't like that at all, and success comes through hard work.
Stop worrying about everyone else and find out what it is you want from life, be it job you enjoy or a job that pays you enough to do the things you enjoy. Don't be one of life's victims.
If this isn't genuine then it's quite perculiar to say the least!
Although I haven't ever felt like killing anyone, I can relate to this a little...
I felt very hard done by when I was 17, I'd quit sixth form college and did a few s
t jobs I had no interest in. Mostly part time. I was feeling rather sorry for myself although not as angry and socially awkward as you appear to be. I couldn't drive which really was irritating and I couldn't afford anything, living with my mum who had no money so what little wages I had usually went to helping out at home. Getting a decent job seemed impossible especially as I was unwilling to stick it out anywhere long enough to get promoted or whatever.The only person who can change your situation is yourself, and while you don't think you do, you've got just as much opportunity as most people in this country to make a success of your life.
I found a job I wanted after nearly a year of being depressed and miserable, moved 120 miles from home by myself, worked hard and never looked back. It wasn't easy, especially living in a house share with an insane Russian alcoholic and several other lunatics, not driving and living 3 miles from the shops, and usually working too late to make it to the shop for dinner in the evening, but well worth it in the end. 7 years later things are very different.
I'm only giving you my boring story because people giving advice behind the keyboard may have ever been in that situation before and may be one of the people you've been ranting about who have had it handed to them on a plate but in reality, most people aren't like that at all, and success comes through hard work.
Stop worrying about everyone else and find out what it is you want from life, be it job you enjoy or a job that pays you enough to do the things you enjoy. Don't be one of life's victims.
If this isn't genuine then it's quite perculiar to say the least!
CX53 said:
Just incase this is genuine;
Although I haven't ever felt like killing anyone, I can relate to this a little...
I felt very hard done by when I was 17, I'd quit sixth form college and did a few st jobs I had no interest in. Mostly part time. I was feeling rather sorry for myself although not as angry and socially awkward as you appear to be. I couldn't drive which really was irritating and I couldn't afford anything, living with my mum who had no money so what little wages I had usually went to helping out at home. Getting a decent job seemed impossible especially as I was unwilling to stick it out anywhere long enough to get promoted or whatever.
The only person who can change your situation is yourself, and while you don't think you do, you've got just as much opportunity as most people in this country to make a success of your life.
I found a job I wanted after nearly a year of being depressed and miserable, moved 120 miles from home by myself, worked hard and never looked back. It wasn't easy, especially living in a house share with an insane Russian alcoholic and several other lunatics, not driving and living 3 miles from the shops, and usually working too late to make it to the shop for dinner in the evening, but well worth it in the end. 7 years later things are very different.
I'm only giving you my boring story because people giving advice behind the keyboard may have ever been in that situation before and may be one of the people you've been ranting about who have had it handed to them on a plate but in reality, most people aren't like that at all, and success comes through hard work.
Stop worrying about everyone else and find out what it is you want from life, be it job you enjoy or a job that pays you enough to do the things you enjoy. Don't be one of life's victims.
If this isn't genuine then it's quite perculiar to say the least!
I appreciate what you are saying, the one glaring difference that you leave out though is that you were 17 with your whole life ahead when all that happened to you, I am 26 now, no life experience for my age. Although I haven't ever felt like killing anyone, I can relate to this a little...
I felt very hard done by when I was 17, I'd quit sixth form college and did a few s
t jobs I had no interest in. Mostly part time. I was feeling rather sorry for myself although not as angry and socially awkward as you appear to be. I couldn't drive which really was irritating and I couldn't afford anything, living with my mum who had no money so what little wages I had usually went to helping out at home. Getting a decent job seemed impossible especially as I was unwilling to stick it out anywhere long enough to get promoted or whatever.The only person who can change your situation is yourself, and while you don't think you do, you've got just as much opportunity as most people in this country to make a success of your life.
I found a job I wanted after nearly a year of being depressed and miserable, moved 120 miles from home by myself, worked hard and never looked back. It wasn't easy, especially living in a house share with an insane Russian alcoholic and several other lunatics, not driving and living 3 miles from the shops, and usually working too late to make it to the shop for dinner in the evening, but well worth it in the end. 7 years later things are very different.
I'm only giving you my boring story because people giving advice behind the keyboard may have ever been in that situation before and may be one of the people you've been ranting about who have had it handed to them on a plate but in reality, most people aren't like that at all, and success comes through hard work.
Stop worrying about everyone else and find out what it is you want from life, be it job you enjoy or a job that pays you enough to do the things you enjoy. Don't be one of life's victims.
If this isn't genuine then it's quite perculiar to say the least!
I read on PH (due to being free to browse even without an account) about people my age having had their "wild youth" behind them at my age and are thinking about settling down with a partner and buying a house. I still want to live like an 18 year old. I want 18 year old girls fighting over my cock FFS!
When I was 18 I was stuck in my bedroom on the computer due to unemployment whilst I was at college. Now I am 26 I am still stuck in my bedroom on the computer due to unemployment, after wasting time and money on uni.I know I can't go back in time to change things, it just feels like no one can relate to my frustrations of how it all seems to stem from attending a "special" school which made me shy. I was desperately shy when I came out of there and that held me back. I tried going to the youth club for teen girls (I was desperately horny) but it was never going to work since I was such an outsider and they mostly just whispered and giggled whilst pointing and gossiping. There was even this one girl I was in love with but she never knew me. I know I was in love with her because I used to have dreams about her over a period of about five years, even when I was at uni I had a couple of dreams about her, a couple years after I had last seen her. Of course, I never plucked up the courage to approach her, she would have ran screaming.
It wasn't until I went to uni when I was nearly 21 (delayed due to aforementioned special school) and realised that no one knew me from Adam that it wasn't necessary to be shy since no one knew or cared about my background. Five years after being released into society I was starting to lose my paranoia about what people thought of me. That was the only good thing about going to uni. Although getting a job instead would have done the same thing and allowed me to earn money. I did actually come home on weekends to work the cleaning job for two hours per week, not really worth it but I wanted to keep it going, turns out that was a waste of time because the company never gave me more hours and just let me go when they lost the contract after all.
If I had been lucky enough to a job in my late teens that didn't involve being shut in a library in some village back water after hours and instead involved customer service and working with others (preferably young women
) I think I would have turned out more confident.JagerT said:
You were put into special needs on your mums say so without any form of assessment ?
I believe I was diagnosed with ADHD, although this school was full of kids dribbling on themselves and taking a st with the door wide open. It was a different world to the outside world, I boarded there during the week too, so it was basically my life. End of the day I am frustrated because I think going to a special school caused me problems rather than addressed them. I didn't get my first job until 2 months before my 20th birthday, a part time cleaning job in a library. Everything feels like it has happened years later for me than everyone else.dudleybloke said:
Have you thought about taking the Queen's shilling?
That could be a thread on it's own, but yes, I tried but didn't make the cut, mostly due to aforementioned issues on quietness that were picked up on. Strangely, I attended two "insight" courses, one generic and one for the corps I was looking to join and got on fine with the lads on it, didn't stand out like a sore thumb or anything (despite how I may come across on here, I don't really take the internet too seriously). The other lads weren't exactly extroverts either, wonder if any of them made it. Anyway, at selection I think they just got the impression that I lacked "grit" which isn't really true, I am mild mannered, I get things done with little fuss. I was hoping I would get in, get knocked about a little bit and then come out more confident and less stuck inside my own head, that was the plan anyway.But really I think my problems started way before now, if I got a lucky break when I was 18 with a decent job working with some fit young things I think I would have been so much more confident than I am now. I even tried Kleeneze when I was 18 FFS! I was that desperate for work.
This thread doesn't really have a solution so don't worry about trying to find one, I am just having a moan. Soon I will make a thread about dating as well
all the best! dudleybloke said:
These two videos will change your life, they did mine.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=2F3n80V_sb0
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0
https://youtube.com/watch?v=2F3n80V_sb0
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0
Assuming this is real, why do you believe 26 is so old that you life is finished, many people have achieved nothing by 26 years of age disregarding most the bull stting dicks on here who all made a million by their 21st birthday, for example;
http://www.businessinsider.com/people-who-became-s...
Stop being so fking negative, make a plan and get out there.
tting dicks on here who all made a million by their 21st birthday, for example;http://www.businessinsider.com/people-who-became-s...
Stop being so f
king negative, make a plan and get out there.Gassing Station | Jobs & Employment Matters | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff