Easily reduced to tears?

[toasty]

paulguitar said:

toasty said:

Adele's 'Someone like you.' gets me every time.

That gets me too.

It makes me to want to throw the radio out of the window!

can't say I blame you. I feel the same way about Beyonce.

[HD Adam]

Happens to me too these days.

I was brought up with full strength Toxic Masculinity.
Both Grandfathers served in WWII.
My father fought in Kenya during the late 50's during the Mau Mau Rebellion.

If you scratched your knee & made a fuss, I'd get the "What the fk are you crying for? I saw a man with both his legs blown off & he wasn't making as much noise as you. Stop being a Poof.
Men don't cry"

Hmmm, learned behavior. You didn't cry on your own, let alone in front of other people. What are you? A Frenchman or something?

I don't think I cried after the age of 4 until I was an adult & was present at the birth of my first daughter. Pretty overwhelming.

No more till 2016 when Mrs HD died. Very emotional. I cried a lot.
Not for me but for her because she loved life & for my girls who would be missing out on having their Mother there for their weddings & when they had kids.
I wanted to do the stiff upper lip thing & say "Well that's a bit of a bugger, anyway......." but the emotions came out.

So now it seems the floodgates are open. I'm very happily remarried to a wonderful woman & certainly not depressed.

Music, films, whatever. If it makes me cry, so be it.
I don't care anymore.

[Jazzy Jag]

I can't watch this without becoming a blubbering wreck

https://youtu.be/Y4PWdOoOQjI?si=3D5Et7-TiLCl_fcs

And the song at the end of Man On Fire is moving.

[Chubbyross]

OP, I'm the same as you. It's not only some pieces of music but certain scenes in films or TV shows too. They don't have to be particularly sad either. Sometimes uplifting scenes will do it to me as well. I used to be really embarrassed about it and try to hide the tears but I've learned to embrace it and laugh about it. My teenage kids will now glance over at me if we're watching something sad/happy/moving to check if it's set me off. There I will be, smiling and nodding to them with tears streaming down my cheeks. For me it's great that I can listen to a piece of music or watch something that moves me so much that it makes me cry. I'd much rather be like this than never being moved by anythng.

Off the top if my head this is a quick list:

Rousing speeches in films (the pre-battle speech the president gives in Independence Day, for examples - utterly cheesy but gets me every time)
Hey Jude by the Beatles - reminds me of one of my school friends who died in a bike accident 40 years ago
The Jeremy Clarkson review of the V12 Vantage on Top Gear with Eno's music playing in the background
Brass band music - it's a reminder of times gone by and my Yorkshire roots
Anything in a movie with a dog where the dog or owner dies - if you're moved to tears by these films then do/don't watch Hachi, released in 2009. It will take you days to recover!

I say embrace those tears!

[lornemalvo]

Chubbyross said:

OP, I'm the same as you. It's not only some pieces of music but certain scenes in films or TV shows too. They don't have to be particularly sad either. Sometimes uplifting scenes will do it to me as well. I used to be really embarrassed about it and try to hide the tears but I've learned to embrace it and laugh about it. My teenage kids will now glance over at me if we're watching something sad/happy/moving to check if it's set me off. There I will be, smiling and nodding to them with tears streaming down my cheeks. For me it's great that I can listen to a piece of music or watch something that moves me so much that it makes me cry. I'd much rather be like this than never being moved by anythng.

Off the top if my head this is a quick list:

Rousing speeches in films (the pre-battle speech the president gives in Independence Day, for examples - utterly cheesy but gets me every time)
Hey Jude by the Beatles - reminds me of one of my school friends who died in a bike accident 40 years ago
The Jeremy Clarkson review of the V12 Vantage on Top Gear with Eno's music playing in the background
Brass band music - it's a reminder of times gone by and my Yorkshire roots
Anything in a movie with a dog where the dog or owner dies - if you're moved to tears by these films then do/don't watch Hachi, released in 2009. It will take you days to recover!

I say embrace those tears!

I agree, anything in which animals get hurt or die for me is out, even though I know it's not real. I will never be able to watch Warhorse, for example. It's not uncommon and there is a website called "does the dog die" where you can check movies for this kind of content before watching them.

[Chubbyross]

lornemalvo said:

Chubbyross said:

OP, I'm the same as you. It's not only some pieces of music but certain scenes in films or TV shows too. They don't have to be particularly sad either. Sometimes uplifting scenes will do it to me as well. I used to be really embarrassed about it and try to hide the tears but I've learned to embrace it and laugh about it. My teenage kids will now glance over at me if we're watching something sad/happy/moving to check if it's set me off. There I will be, smiling and nodding to them with tears streaming down my cheeks. For me it's great that I can listen to a piece of music or watch something that moves me so much that it makes me cry. I'd much rather be like this than never being moved by anythng.

Off the top if my head this is a quick list:

Rousing speeches in films (the pre-battle speech the president gives in Independence Day, for examples - utterly cheesy but gets me every time)
Hey Jude by the Beatles - reminds me of one of my school friends who died in a bike accident 40 years ago
The Jeremy Clarkson review of the V12 Vantage on Top Gear with Eno's music playing in the background
Brass band music - it's a reminder of times gone by and my Yorkshire roots
Anything in a movie with a dog where the dog or owner dies - if you're moved to tears by these films then do/don't watch Hachi, released in 2009. It will take you days to recover!

I say embrace those tears!

I agree, anything in which animals get hurt or die for me is out, even though I know it's not real. I will never be able to watch Warhorse, for example. It's not uncommon and there is a website called "does the dog die" where you can check movies for this kind of content before watching them.

Definitely give Hachi a miss then. We watched it as a family when the children were younger and we were all reduced to tears! The end is so relentlessly sad we were almost laughing at how miserable it was making us feel. It's like Greyfriars Bobby but even sadder.

[williamp]

Levellers: Julie has alwasy got to me

alwasy has, likely always will...

[DickyC]

Tracy Chapman's Fast Car

[paulguitar]

DickyC said:

Tracy Chapman's Fast Car

What a great, great song that is.

[dxg]

Ezra said:

Happens to me regularly. Doesn't have to be sad or melancholy either. I'm 60 and I think it's more prevalent when I hear music that triggers a memory of when I was much younger. Maybe its a subconscious way of recognising that time is passing and feeling a little nostalgic (perhaps wishing also of a simpler time, no responsibilities etc).

Kathryn Joseph is an entire artist that I can no longer listen to due to the number of times I saw her live with someone who is no longer in my life.

Really sucks - I love her stuff...

[paulguitar]

[DickyC]

paulguitar said:

DickyC said:

Tracy Chapman's Fast Car

What a great, great song that is.

Gets me every time.

[cherryowen]

paulguitar said:

In a similar vein:-



For vocal ensembles, Tenebrae under Nigel Short and The Sixteen under Harry Christophers set the bar.

Then again, courtesy of the male voice choir from my home town:-

[lornemalvo]

Myfanwy is stunningly beautiful, but I'm also Welsh and it gets me every time.

Edited by lornemalvo on Sunday 11th February 13:08

[Scabutz]

Mont Blanc said:

Yes and yes.

Yes, it happens to me, and yes it can be a sign of depression. The music provides the excuse that your emotional state needs to let it all out. I have occasionally had an absolutely massive mental breakdown and uncontrollable crying fit for seemingly absolutely no reason whatsoever, and it is usually brought about by a certain piece of music.

Try 'Aria' by Lisa Gerrard. You will recognise it as the operatic soundtrack from Layer Cake:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GfNamZmzPc0

Lisa Gerrard has composed some amazing pieces of music. She worked with Hans Zimmer on the Gliadator soundtrack and wrote Now we are free. She also did a lot on the soundtrack to The Insider. Her song Sanvean was used in an episode of The West Wing.

All very similar styles of slightly haunting music but with strong vocals.

[Driver101]

The song and video together are powerful.

https://youtu.be/IdcN4BRpmGI?feature=shared

[Jazzy Jag]

Just watching Car SOS, Lancia Delta integrale episode and the room has gotten very dusty.

[ninepoint2]

Low testosterone can be a cause to well up a lot too, I was on HT for 3 years and I was a blubbering wreck for most of it

[Cotty]

15 Year Old Emma Kok Sings Voilà – André Rieu, Maastricht 2023
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KdIhq1tb8Co&li...

[gmaz]

This one is the most miserable video I have seen. There's various reaction videos on YT with people sobbing after watching it.