Difficult relationship advice.

Difficult relationship advice.

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Bedford Rascal

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29,469 posts

243 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Advice for a close family friend please.

My friend Inga has been with her bloke Scott for as long as either of them can remember.

They've had their ups and downs. She's always been the major breadwinner. He's had one or two periods of contributing decent cash, but generally is a "taker" from the relationship in financial terms.

Scott has children at university from a previous relationship (which Inga pays for), whereas she pays full fees for her own kids doing the same. There are numerous other instances of this nature.

Still, Inga loves him despite of all his faults. He's rugged, manly (in spite of having a massive drinking problem). They complement each other well.

Scott has started talking about how he wanted out of the relationship, felt she was holding him back, etc. Seems to have been something of a midlife crisis and now after months of prevarication he's decided he's going to stay. Close call though. He's made all sorts of demands about wanting more freedom, more of the family money to spend on himself, perhaps even seeing other people. He has offered Inga no choice in this.

My darling Inga is pretty pissed off. The resentment is building and I think Scot is unaware of the backlash he is going to suffer.

What should she do?

northwest monkey

6,370 posts

188 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Kick him out. He sounds like a piss-taker to be honest.

cobra kid

4,906 posts

239 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Ditch him.

grumbledoak

31,499 posts

232 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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These (his) are not the sort of thoughts that go away. She should save herself some heartache and sling him out now!

randlemarcus

13,507 posts

230 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Do you think it likely that even though Scott has decided to stay, hs internal conflicts will mean that the little fat devil on his shoulder will refuse to accept the "wrong answer" from his conscience, and will press for a further referendum, sorry, marital discussion in the near future?

krisdelta

4,566 posts

200 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Edited as you're mean spirited wink

Edited by krisdelta on Friday 19th September 09:11

anonymous-user

53 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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hehe very good

toasty

7,441 posts

219 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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clap Nicely done.

cobra kid

4,906 posts

239 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Penny.......dropped.............hook line and sinker.

Justin Cyder

12,624 posts

148 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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hehe Very good work.

STW2010

5,714 posts

161 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Took me a while! Very good

Nezquick

1,453 posts

125 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Well done.....well done.
You got me there!

Now though, I think Inga just needs to slap Scott around the head, tell him not to be so silly again and tie him up in the cellar to live on bread and water and to be called upon as and when necessary.

Torquey

1,888 posts

227 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Fantastic. laugh

Office_Monkey

1,967 posts

208 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Lots of parrots about today!

woody2846

1,367 posts

149 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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hehe very good!!

slinky

15,704 posts

248 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Very good, and plenty of parrots flying around this morning...

julian64

14,317 posts

253 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Picked up about three wooshes there

scorp

8,783 posts

228 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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hehe

hajaba123

1,302 posts

174 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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Brilliant, reposted on facebook as a social experiment

THX

2,348 posts

121 months

Friday 19th September 2014
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From now on, Inga should never offer Scott a coffee again. He can get his own.

Inga shouldn't ask if he wants anything putting in the bin, if she's already going.

No more invites on nights out, just assume he'll arrive anyways.

Inga shouldnt even save his number in her phone... just remember the last three digits, should he text her (she shouldn't text him)


Also, if they have a flag together, perhaps fade the colours Scott chose to represent his aspect of the relationship. Like, really fade them. So that they're practically invisible from a distance.


Edited by THX on Friday 19th September 09:13