Cancer sufferer labeled 'sick freak'

[vixen1700]

Read this letter in the local paper that came through my door last night and it sickened and saddened me in equal measure.

Didn't know what a 'booby hat' was so Googled it and saw the story had hit The Independent.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/bre...

What the fk is wrong with some people?

[Hoofy]

Hm. There are two separate issues here, I think. Wearing a hat that some may consider offensive is one (yes, it's just a breast but some people may consider it offensive even if it is completely natural so you have to expect a negative reaction). Cancer awareness is the other. There are better ways of raising awareness of cancer eg making the wearing of headscarves normal (I do wear a buff tied like a headscarf if it's not too cold as some of my students wear a headscarf due to chemo side effects).

Edit: obviously, the woman who called the cancer patient a sick freak is a tool.

Edited by Hoofy on Saturday 31st January 13:31

[davepoth]

Hoofy said:

Hm. There are two separate issues here, I think. Wearing a hat that some may consider offensive is one (yes, it's just a breast but some people may consider it offensive even if it is completely natural so you have to expect a negative reaction). Cancer awareness is the other. There are better ways of raising awareness of cancer eg making the wearing of headscarves normal (I do wear a buff tied like a headscarf if it's not too cold as some of my students wear a headscarf due to chemo side effects).

Edit: obviously, the woman who called the cancer patient a sick freak is a tool.

Edited by Hoofy on Saturday 31st January 13:31

It's not even a particularly realistic breast - just a bobble hat with a very small bobble. I would have to have been told what it was. If someone has that much of a problem with nipples they have substantially more serious issues than people wearing novelty hats.

[Hoofy]

Nevertheless...

[pork911]

Attention seeker (by her own admission) doesn't get quite the reaction she was hoping for (if it happened) and then posts her story for more attention?

[greygoose]

I cannot see how a woolly breast can be offensive to anyone, half the tabloids have real breasts across their front pages.

[JensenA]

pork911 said:

Attention seeker (by her own admission) doesn't get quite the reaction she was hoping for (if it happened) and then posts her story for more attention?

Are you for real? I've just responded to two of your posts - no I'm not picking on you - you come across as a real knob making comments like that. The poor woman has cancer, and someone tells her she should stay indoors until she stops looking like a sick freak! It brings tears of hurt to the woman, and she writes a letter explaining how she feels, and you call her an attention seeker!!
Mind you, I would guess that it's just the sort of thing you would say.

[Hoofy]

greygoose said:

I cannot see how a woolly breast can be offensive to anyone, half the tabloids have real breasts across their front pages.

Well, apparently it annoyed someone!

[Pesty]

I wouldn't have even noticed it was supposed to be a breast. I'd have just thought it was a white and pink hat.

Some strange people about. Even if you did know what it was supposed to be why would it offend you at all let alone enough to abuse somebody.

[pork911]

JensenA said:

pork911 said:

Attention seeker (by her own admission) doesn't get quite the reaction she was hoping for (if it happened) and then posts her story for more attention?

Are you for real? I've just responded to two of your posts - no I'm not picking on you - you come across as a real knob making comments like that. The poor woman has cancer, and someone tells her she should stay indoors until she stops looking like a sick freak! It brings tears of hurt to the woman, and she writes a letter explaining how she feels, and you call her an attention seeker!!
Mind you, I would guess that it's just the sort of thing you would say.

She says she wore the hat hoping people would talk to her and writes a letter explains how she feels.

The irony is strong in you name calling;)

The poor woman having cancer doesn't stop her being a person with foibles and quirks like all of us.

[longshot]

How have you managed to interpret 'I was hoping the hat would encourage people to talk to me, so I could explain and raise awareness of the importance of knowing and checking your own breasts' as attention seeking?

[pork911]

longshot said:

How have you managed to interpret 'I was hoping the hat would encourage people to talk to me, so I could explain and raise awareness of the importance of knowing and checking your own breasts' as attention seeking?

How is it not?

[JensenA]

pork911 said:

longshot said:

How have you managed to interpret 'I was hoping the hat would encourage people to talk to me, so I could explain and raise awareness of the importance of knowing and checking your own breasts' as attention seeking?

How is it not?

You really are a knob aren't you. A sad pathetic little man who either enjoys posting provocative comments, or a sad pathetic man who actually believes what he writes. Do you have a wife? Do you let her see what you have posted on this subject?

[Corpulent Tosser]

pork911 said:

longshot said:

How have you managed to interpret 'I was hoping the hat would encourage people to talk to me, so I could explain and raise awareness of the importance of knowing and checking your own breasts' as attention seeking?

How is it not?

Of course it is attention seeking, possibly to raise awareness, possibly because she craves attention.
When my daughter lost her hair she wore a wig, she chose the style of wig then got her hair cut to a similar style so that when her hair fell out and she stated wearing the wig fewer people would notice. Many who knew her didn't notice at all.

It was of course her choice, just like this woman chose to wear the tit hat.

But her choice certainly indicates to me that she wanted attention.

BTW I think it is a made up or at least vastly exaggerated story.

[JensenA]

Well at least you have the decency to explain your reasoning as to why you consider the wearing of a 'tit' hat to be attention seeking. Describing someone as an 'Attention seeker' is regarded as a derogatory term, and in the context of this story, is a pretty insensitive thing to say isn't it?
If someone had discovered you're daughter was wearing a wig, and had told her to stay at home until she stopped looking like a 'sick freak', I reckon you and your daughter would be pretty upset, and If you described the event on here, and someone said "well she's a vain bh for wearing a wig", and other people supported that view, I think you would have something to say them wouldn't you? The issue here is that some nasty person felt it was OK to tell a cancer sufferer to stay at home until she stopped looking like a 'sick freak'.
Cancer is a nasty thing, and I hope you're daughter has fully recovered.

[pork911]

JensenA said:

pork911 said:

longshot said:

How have you managed to interpret 'I was hoping the hat would encourage people to talk to me, so I could explain and raise awareness of the importance of knowing and checking your own breasts' as attention seeking?

How is it not?

You really are a knob aren't you. A sad pathetic little man who either enjoys posting provocative comments, or a sad pathetic man who actually believes what he writes. Do you have a wife? Do you let her see what you have posted on this subject?

The strong irony of you name calling continues while you cannot express how it isn't attention seeking.

Reducing her to merely her cancer and just an object of sympathy is pathetic.

[longshot]

pork911 said:

longshot said:

How have you managed to interpret 'I was hoping the hat would encourage people to talk to me, so I could explain and raise awareness of the importance of knowing and checking your own breasts' as attention seeking?

How is it not?

I see attention seeking and trying to attract peoples' attention as 2 completely different things.
You don't.
That's fine.

[vixen1700]

Corpulent Tosser said:

BTW I think it is a made up or at least vastly exaggerated story.

Really?

The paper she wrote to was the least circulated local free paper, why would she make it up or exaggerate?

Edited by vixen1700 on Sunday 1st February 12:13

[Godalmighty83]

At this point I'm not sure of the point of 'raising awareness' of breast cancer, everybody everywhere is already very aware of it to the detriment of other cancer charities and causes.

[Hoofy]

Godalmighty83 said:

At this point I'm not sure of the point of 'raising awareness' of breast cancer, everybody everywhere is already very aware of it to the detriment of other cancer charities and causes.

Yeah, do wonder that. Who ISN'T aware of breast cancer?