Police investigate after woman complains re whistling
Discussion
Watchman said:
Technically the former, yes. I'm not really sure how the latter has anything to do with this.
However, it's all about perception, reception, intent and the capability of someone to "deal with it". In the case of a group of large men intimidating a woman over the course of a month who clearly isn't comfortable with it, it's just bullying. In the case of a group of girls engaging with with a group of men, well in this case there is a "group" of men on the receiving end and, like it or not, men and women's equality isn't equal. I bet the men loved it. It's right to stop the behaviour but the telling point is that no-one complained about it.
Now we're opening a can of worms. 'I bet the men loved it' therefore it's ok?However, it's all about perception, reception, intent and the capability of someone to "deal with it". In the case of a group of large men intimidating a woman over the course of a month who clearly isn't comfortable with it, it's just bullying. In the case of a group of girls engaging with with a group of men, well in this case there is a "group" of men on the receiving end and, like it or not, men and women's equality isn't equal. I bet the men loved it. It's right to stop the behaviour but the telling point is that no-one complained about it.
In domestic abuse against men, many would fail to report abuse because of the shame and stigma.
Imagine if a bloke had felt intimidated, you could ask how far he would have got with a complaint?
But as you can see, it did go somewhere as did the the subject of the OP.
In most cases this type of thing is harmless and a bit of fun on both sides.
Let's not try to ban all of it just because sometimes it isn't. Deal with those few as in the OP. No need to go OTT.
Oakey said:
What I don't understand is, if she didn't want unwanted attention from people, why would she have her mug plastered all over the press and open herself up to even more unwanted attention from a far larger audience?
It baffles my mind that people do this.
women are a mystery aren't they.It baffles my mind that people do this.
saaby93 said:
Watchman said:
Technically the former, yes. I'm not really sure how the latter has anything to do with this.
However, it's all about perception, reception, intent and the capability of someone to "deal with it". In the case of a group of large men intimidating a woman over the course of a month who clearly isn't comfortable with it, it's just bullying. In the case of a group of girls engaging with with a group of men, well in this case there is a "group" of men on the receiving end and, like it or not, men and women's equality isn't equal. I bet the men loved it. It's right to stop the behaviour but the telling point is that no-one complained about it.
Now we're opening a can of worms. 'I bet the men loved it' therefore it's ok?However, it's all about perception, reception, intent and the capability of someone to "deal with it". In the case of a group of large men intimidating a woman over the course of a month who clearly isn't comfortable with it, it's just bullying. In the case of a group of girls engaging with with a group of men, well in this case there is a "group" of men on the receiving end and, like it or not, men and women's equality isn't equal. I bet the men loved it. It's right to stop the behaviour but the telling point is that no-one complained about it.
saaby93 said:
In domestic abuse against men, many would fail to report abuse because of the shame and stigma.
Imagine if a bloke had felt intimidated, you could ask how far he would have got with a complaint?
But as you can see, it did go somewhere as did the the subject of the OP.
What went somewhere? Have we drifted off course a bit?Imagine if a bloke had felt intimidated, you could ask how far he would have got with a complaint?
But as you can see, it did go somewhere as did the the subject of the OP.
Regardless, you're talking about bullying again. Doesn't matter who is the recipient, there's no "good" bullying.
saaby93 said:
In most cases this type of thing is harmless and a bit of fun on both sides.
Although I don't agree with your assessment that this type of behaviour is harmless "in most cases", I do acknowledge that it can be from time to time. But clearly a single woman being on the receiving end of this for a month isn't one of those harmless occasions. Can you see this?saaby93 said:
Let's not try to ban all of it just because sometimes it isn't. Deal with those few as in the OP. No need to go OTT.
I doubt anyone has measured the incidences of "harmless vs harmful" to assess whether most are one or the other. And I never called for further banning of anything (although Scotland may consider including wolf whistling in their forthcoming legislation - I think one of those links to the Mirror quoted that). I simply sought to challenge the first 3 pages of people calling the woman names and questioning whether her approaching the Police was right in the face of consistent bullying. That's what it is - bullying.Oakey said:
What I don't understand is, if she didn't want unwanted attention from people, why would she have her mug plastered all over the press and open herself up to even more unwanted attention from a far larger audience?
It baffles my mind that people do this.
Did any of you read the article?It baffles my mind that people do this.
The Telegraph said:
But she decided to pursue the matter through official channels in the hope that her story would prompt others to speak out
rb5er said:
ash73 said:
Seems fair enough to me if she had to endure a load of abuse every day for a month
You think "hello darling" and wolf whistling is abuse?Still, this thread has gone pretty much the way I expected it would have when I popped in to have a look. Although that could be Confirmation Bias I guess.
Richyboy said:
Surely we need to see what she was wearing when she walked past the building site. Why walk around with tits bulging out, ass tight clothes, hair done, face painted and not expect blokes to look.
apparently we as men are not supposed to react in such a way as Whistling at them. However it appears its ok to have "thoughts" as long as you dont act on them?.johnxjsc1985 said:
Oakey said:
What I don't understand is, if she didn't want unwanted attention from people, why would she have her mug plastered all over the press and open herself up to even more unwanted attention from a far larger audience?
It baffles my mind that people do this.
women are a mystery aren't they.It baffles my mind that people do this.
I can't believe this story made the front of the Daily Mail besides them digging into Ed Miliband. She's made the front cover besides our next Prime Minister?
I'm not sure what that says about Britain and the British press.
Is she a Milifandomette?
rb5er said:
ash73 said:
Seems fair enough to me if she had to endure a load of abuse every day for a month
You think "hello darling" and wolf whistling is abuse?T5XARV said:
She could have crossed the street ?
why should she have to? anonymous said:
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I don't know, I wasn't there. And neither were you. Context is everything - if someone stepped in front of you and blocked your way, stuck their face right in yours, sneered, and said "Orright, pal? Nice tie" and then did the the 'coffee beans' sign, then *surely* he was just complementing your tie? No? Is "Nice tie" really threatening behaviour? Really?
Devil's advocate there, obviously. But you get my point.
Edited by JonRB on Tuesday 28th April 20:26
Surely that should be Poppy's Vain?
Even mumsnet recognise wolf whistles as a complement.
I think this story is probably about cynically 'digitally marketing' herself than because of any real offence.
Martin4x4 said:
Surely that should be Poppy's Vain?
Even mumsnet recognise wolf whistles as a complement.
I think this story is probably about cynically 'digitally marketing' herself than because of any real offence.
A few people on here with a huge great pole stuck up their backside think the lads should be hung drawn and quartered.Even mumsnet recognise wolf whistles as a complement.
I think this story is probably about cynically 'digitally marketing' herself than because of any real offence.
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