How to Die: Simon's Choice

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MJK 24

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5,648 posts

236 months

Wednesday 10th February 2016
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BBC2 now.

A chap with a diagnosis of Motor Neurone disease shares his last months and trip to Dignitas.

Anyone else watching?

Halb

53,012 posts

183 months

Wednesday 10th February 2016
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powerful powerful stuff

MJK 24

Original Poster:

5,648 posts

236 months

Wednesday 10th February 2016
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I'm never going to complain about anything ever again.

MentalSarcasm

6,083 posts

211 months

Wednesday 10th February 2016
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Didn't watch this as my grandfather died from MND, watching it happen once was enough.

Anyone who is interested in the work of the MND Association can find out more here - http://www.mndassociation.org/

kev1974

4,029 posts

129 months

Wednesday 10th February 2016
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Most moving thing I have seen on TV for years.

Thank you Simon for having the foresight from the start to allow this film to be made.

VX Foxy

3,962 posts

243 months

Wednesday 10th February 2016
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kev1974 said:
Most moving thing I have seen on TV for years.

Thank you Simon for having the foresight from the start to allow this film to be made.
^this.

Extremely dignified.

I was holding back the tears.

Halb

53,012 posts

183 months

Wednesday 10th February 2016
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Reminds me of Terry's documentary.

There's no humanity in stretching life out to existence and what we do to people. I hope MPs in their palace realise that one day.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Terry_Pratchett:_Cho...

Jasandjules

69,884 posts

229 months

Thursday 11th February 2016
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I will say it again, if our dogs or cats are suffering terribly we can allow them to leave this body with dignity.

But our human loved ones? No, we must watch them suffer and go through any indignity..

Challo

10,124 posts

155 months

Thursday 11th February 2016
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Very powerful program to watch brought a tear to my eye on several occasions.

I have mixed emotions about assisted deaths, but to see how he changed in less than a year and to understand how he felt in terms of wanting to end his life then you should certainly have the right to do it in this country.

An incredibly brave man and family.

S11Steve

6,374 posts

184 months

Thursday 11th February 2016
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I watched this last night in stunned silence with the other half. I had to bite my fist a few times, and it was emotionally a very powerful documentary.

I've been undecided on assisted suicide for a long time - I could confidently argue for either side of the case, but last night put into a very personal perspective, and showed both his decision and also his wife's anguish fairly and balanced.
Even the Dr at the clinic was very balanced when talking to both of them - discussing both sides and making sure that both knew how the other felt.

What I did have issue with was the fact that he made the call very early on, and picked a date months in advance. I almost felt that he willed himself downhill to meet that date, rather than maybe work with the medical teams to prolong the life he had until it became intolerable. The fact he didn't discuss it in advance with his wife didn't sit well with me, and the last words of his mother was incredibly telling of her thoughts.

"Some of my friends have said I have been brave, others say that Simon was the brave one. I think the brave ones are those who live with the condition to the very end"...

I'm still undecided on Assisted Suicide, I just hope I'm never in a position that I'm affected personally by it.

But it was a compelling piece of TV, regardless of how difficult it was to watch and assimilate thoughts afterwards.


CrutyRammers

13,735 posts

198 months

Thursday 11th February 2016
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MentalSarcasm said:
Didn't watch this as my grandfather died from MND, watching it happen once was enough.

Anyone who is interested in the work of the MND Association can find out more here - http://www.mndassociation.org/
Similar. fking godawful disease, and leaves me in no doubt that the choice should be up to the person concerned.

johnxjsc1985

15,948 posts

164 months

Thursday 11th February 2016
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Watched this last night on my own it was really emotional which is daft when you don't have any connection .
The whole family and friends seemed so genuine and although the last moments of his life were incredibly emotional the last few seconds of him dancing around and then with his Dog explained in vivid detail about just how much of his life he had lost . Very well produced programme.
The one thing that truly angered me was the Woman calmly explaining how they might or might not prosecute people as if she was discussing a parking ticket and as others have said you would be done for cruelty if you kept an animal alive in circumstances where it couldn't function as an animal

Frrair

1,369 posts

134 months

Thursday 11th February 2016
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I watched this last night and oh my what an eye opener as to the stuff couples supported by their friends and family go through.

Last ten minutes had me more than a bit choked.


johnxjsc1985

15,948 posts

164 months

Thursday 11th February 2016
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His wife had also lost her 18 year old daughter just two years before...she must be an incredibly strong woman just to get out of bed in the morning life really is not fair is it

Mojooo

12,719 posts

180 months

Thursday 11th February 2016
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johnxjsc1985 said:
The one thing that truly angered me was the Woman calmly explaining how they might or might not prosecute people as if she was discussing a parking ticket and as others have said you would be done for cruelty if you kept an animal alive in circumstances where it couldn't function as an animal
TBF they have obviously interviewed the woman from the CPS and asked her a legal quetsio nto which she has provided a very generic answer.

I think the chances of anyone being prosecuted for what happened on the show are very slim - as she alluded to.



coopedup

3,741 posts

139 months

Friday 12th February 2016
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Watched it on my own last night and by Christ the room was duckin fusty! Very sad but what a great bunch of friends to have...

PDP76

2,571 posts

150 months

Friday 12th February 2016
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Really well done programme. Hard watching towards the end, very sad.
Discussed it afterwards with my missus and we both agreed it was the right decision to make.
Whilst it would have been hard on his family, his quality of life was rapidly deterioating.
It's unfair to make people who can't afford to travel to these clinics suffer.
It's definetly something I would think about doing if i had a terminal Illness, or in great pain with an illness.
Shoving morphine into someone and sitting them in a chair in a hospice is wrong, it's no quality of life at all, even more so if you had an illness that leaves you unable to communicate with anyone. What kind of life is that ?

Edited by PDP76 on Friday 12th February 15:45

Jasandjules

69,884 posts

229 months

Friday 12th February 2016
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I get very annoyed at the arrogance of people who think they should be able to dictate to another when their quality of life has deteriorated to the extent they wish to leave this life.

I wonder how many of those people have ever seen a loved one in this position, I suspect very few.

Davel

8,982 posts

258 months

Friday 12th February 2016
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Thought it was well balanced, very moving and also very dignified.

His friends and family were amazing - as was Simon.

Glad to have watched it.

This should be an option here, without the need to spend £7,000 and travel abroad to see it through.

Mojooo

12,719 posts

180 months

Friday 12th February 2016
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Jasandjules said:
I get very annoyed at the arrogance of people who think they should be able to dictate to another when their quality of life has deteriorated to the extent they wish to leave this life.

I wonder how many of those people have ever seen a loved one in this position, I suspect very few.
I don't think that is the point - its more the fact that people may feel pressured into having it done if it was here - this pressure can be from varying degrees of being self inflicted to the mroe dodgy ones of relatives wanting to off you.

What if it became the norm that peopel started offing themselves as soon as they thought they became a burden.

Overall I think people should have a choice but legalising it could have unexpected effects so I can see why an MP would be cautious about voting for it.

The wife gave the best example with her daughter I suppose - although I suspect any legal method would be drawn out like it was in the swiss place.