When do you know it's 'that' time?

When do you know it's 'that' time?

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CAPP0

19,582 posts

203 months

Wednesday 29th October 2014
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Ah no Gary, really sorry to hear this. Even though you knew it was on the horizon, it doesn't make it any easier, does it. But as everyone always says, you have absolutely done the right thing. Maybe amidst the sadness is a small comfort in knowing that Jaz hasn't got any aches or pains or scares or discomfort any more.

Take it easy, give yourself time to come to terms with your loss. Great pic to sign her off with, if that helps at all.

anonymous-user

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54 months

Wednesday 29th October 2014
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CAPP0 said:
Ah no Gary, really sorry to hear this. Even though you knew it was on the horizon, it doesn't make it any easier, does it. But as everyone always says, you have absolutely done the right thing. Maybe amidst the sadness is a small comfort in knowing that Jaz hasn't got any aches or pains or scares or discomfort any more.

Take it easy, give yourself time to come to terms with your loss. Great pic to sign her off with, if that helps at all.
Thanks Cappo - that really means a lot!


ali_kat

31,989 posts

221 months

Wednesday 29th October 2014
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Oh Gary, I've been thinking of you & Jaz all week, but was too scared to bump the thread again frown. My heart was in my mouth as I opened it, praying that someone other than you had bumped it.

My deepest condolences frown

But you know that you have done the very best thing you could for Jaz after 17 years of devotion, it is the greatest gift you can give to your best friend.

I posted this on FB yesterday for a friend, it was his Mum's funeral & she left this planet in the same place my Mum did frown It applies to pets as well as human loved ones, I hope it helps

Ax

The immediate personal and most agonising grief begins about three days after the death of a loved one and holds hard from 4 to 6 weeks most cases.
Time then welds one state of human feeling into another until they become something like a rainbow; strong grief becomes a softer more mellow grief; mellow grief becomes mourning; mourning at last becomes remembrance - a process that may take from six months to 3 years and still be considered normal.
Stephen King - Pet Sematary

moorx

3,513 posts

114 months

Wednesday 29th October 2014
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I'm really sorry for your loss frown

Run free Jaz, young and well again now.

LordHaveMurci

12,043 posts

169 months

Wednesday 29th October 2014
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So sorry to hear that, your Jaz is almost the spitting image of our Westie.

You have so many happy memories, they will eventually outweigh the pain & sadness smile

Bebee

4,679 posts

225 months

Wednesday 29th October 2014
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Genuinely gutted for you. 17 years is a long time.

anonymous-user

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54 months

Wednesday 29th October 2014
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ali_kat said:
Oh Gary, I've been thinking of you & Jaz all week, but was too scared to bump the thread again frown. My heart was in my mouth as I opened it, praying that someone other than you had bumped it.

My deepest condolences frown

But you know that you have done the very best thing you could for Jaz after 17 years of devotion, it is the greatest gift you can give to your best friend.

I posted this on FB yesterday for a friend, it was his Mum's funeral & she left this planet in the same place my Mum did frown It applies to pets as well as human loved ones, I hope it helps

Ax

The immediate personal and most agonising grief begins about three days after the death of a loved one and holds hard from 4 to 6 weeks most cases.
Time then welds one state of human feeling into another until they become something like a rainbow; strong grief becomes a softer more mellow grief; mellow grief becomes mourning; mourning at last becomes remembrance - a process that may take from six months to 3 years and still be considered normal.
Stephen King - Pet Sematary
Thanks for your kind words Ali (and to all of you) - reading them has started me off again down the teary road!

That's a lovely piece from Mr King - if a little unexpected from that film which still gives me the shivers smile

I know Jaz is, at last, at peace and that is the most important thought that I'm clinging to right now.

I've just been shopping and everything, including my driving, is being done in slow motion - I feel a strange mellowness, which I assume is a profound sadness, that I have not felt before. I am focusing on every great moment we had together right now and can even smile at some of the crazy things she used to get up to. It is, however, going to be a long day today.

Thank you to everyone for your kind thoughts - it really does mean a lot.


ali_kat

31,989 posts

221 months

Wednesday 29th October 2014
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Me too, I read the book yesterday & it seemed apt

Yes, that mellowness is a feeling I understand, I think that's what helps you get through the first couple of days frown

Best wishes x

CAPP0

19,582 posts

203 months

Wednesday 29th October 2014
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garyhun said:
I feel a strange mellowness
I know exactly what you mean; was the same for me but at the time I couldn't quite place what was going on in my head. Very well described.