The pain of loss - how long?
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Just going through the same feelings. Said goodbye to our brave boy yesterday at 12:30pm. He was suffering from fits for almost 3 years & his last few hours were spent blind which has made me so angry. Vet came to our house which made it "easier" for him because although he couldn't see us, he knew we were there. Just going to pick his collar up now & that will be extremely hard to do. RIP little man, no more pain.
boobles said:
Thank you.... I have placed his collar along with one of his teddies hanging of one of our pictures in the bedroom & now I have the task & hovering what will be the last bit of his fur from the carpets.
:hugs:2 years on & a house move and I'm still finding Bast's hair on some of my clothes...
boobles said:
Thank you... Picking up his collar which I have just done was so difficult. It was freezing cold but I could still smell him on it. Just can't believe what has happened.
I miss Jimmy's smell. I kept a blanket he used a lot in my wardrobe unwashed. Every now and then I would get it out to sniff it, when I needed to think of and remember him. Sadly over a yr on it has wained somewhat and I find it harder to find 'jimmys smell) who knew a scent could cause such emotion.You managed his condition a long time, sadly this is a very common way for epileptics to deteriorate, sudden, without real warning and usually after a fair time of being stable. Very unfair.
I have just come home from finally wanting to get something to eat & I find my sister sat there with her dog running around our house, drinking from my dogs bowel & playing with his toys! I told her not to be so disrespectful & that our dog wasn't even cremated yet!!!!she left straight away. How could anyone think this would be ok...... Well pissed off.
ali_kat said:
Very unthoughtful of her, I can see that
She may have brought her dog over to comfort you, and not thought about the toys... The bowl, well - it's a bowl; if it would have usually used it when it was over?
This was the first time her dog had ever stepped foot inside our house because our little man wasn't keen on other dogs being anywhere near his territory, let alone inside the house. I can't even begin to understand why this was ok, especially 24hrs after we lost ours.She may have brought her dog over to comfort you, and not thought about the toys... The bowl, well - it's a bowl; if it would have usually used it when it was over?
Boobles, unfortunately other people are not living through the pain of loss that you are, so sometimes they may do things entirely innocently that you may perceive as a slight to Chantry.
I went through a few 'incidents' in the days after I lost Jaz, which were especially bad on my angry day, and it would have been so easy to get really mad. Instead I tried to think if Jaz would have minded
All I can say is that your feelings are very raw right now and the littlest thing will be able to set you off. Try to stop yourself getting angry by acknowledging the possibility that your interpretation may not be entirely accurate because of the pain you are experiencing.
Obviously your sisters actions do seem totally out of order ...... but it, and other situations, may not be as they seem.
Also, think of Chantry tearing her a new one!!! It might help
I went through a few 'incidents' in the days after I lost Jaz, which were especially bad on my angry day, and it would have been so easy to get really mad. Instead I tried to think if Jaz would have minded
All I can say is that your feelings are very raw right now and the littlest thing will be able to set you off. Try to stop yourself getting angry by acknowledging the possibility that your interpretation may not be entirely accurate because of the pain you are experiencing.
Obviously your sisters actions do seem totally out of order ...... but it, and other situations, may not be as they seem.
Also, think of Chantry tearing her a new one!!! It might help
I do understand everything that is being said but she was there yesterday & witnessed his final hours & she also knows how he was around other dogs... He was scared of them & would whine if any approached him & she knew this. I am angry with the fact that although she knew all this, she still decided to bring in her own dog. I am going through the motions right now, one minute I am "ok" the next I am a mess. Knowing that I will never see him again or hold him is breaking my heart.
boobles said:
I do understand everything that is being said but she was there yesterday & witnessed his final hours & she also knows how he was around other dogs... He was scared of them & would whine if any approached him & she knew this. I am angry with the fact that although she knew all this, she still decided to bring in her own dog. I am going through the motions right now, one minute I am "ok" the next I am a mess. Knowing that I will never see him again or hold him is breaking my heart.
She's an idiot in that case!I really do understand every emotion you have right now and I feel for you. It will get better, trust me, but the pain along the way can be unbearable at times
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