New cat - very anxious and hissy

[dreamer75]

Yeah I've tried asking the neighbour. Ironically he would e perfect for Dusty! He's home all the time (long term sick) and loves having a cat around, but he doesn't want her.

The mate has no family, and i don't think has any friends that would help. I've tried all my FB friends and one of them can take Dusty for a few weeks but not permanently

I'm goign to phone the vet this morning and chase up CPL as they didn't return my call.

I can't have downstairs/upstairs - just the way the banisters are etc. and how agile Dusty is, she jumps up through the banisters from miles away. Plus Poppy would get distressed. I had managed to get Poppy to come home twice this week overnight Woke up and she was on my bed! However Dusty managed to fly at her this morning and now she won't even go near the closed door and is jumpy again, so not sure she'll come back again without trying. However it means I'm positive longer term that once Dusty has gone, I will be able to get Poppy back once she knows the house is hers again. She even brought me a bird earlier this week

It is incredibly sad that Dusty may end up at a charity - she's such an adorable pet. Loves being on your lap, loves cuddles and strokes, loves to participate and play games (including fetch!). She's absolutely perfect for someone with no existing cat!

Thanks for all the tips everybody - cross your fingers that either the vet knows someone who wants a cat, or some other miracle solution pops up!

[ali_kat]

Has he said why he doesn't want her? If he's worried about costs, maybe you could help (as you already have them)?

[steelbreeze]

Is she pretty? If so, maybe a pic and an advert in the local Pets R Us might attract an owner?

[dreamer75]

Little update.... a friend of mine (cat experience) has taken her Cats Protection League were holding a space for her until Friday (still are, just in case) and my friend was just going to take Dusty for a few days until then. However Dusty seems to be settling in well with my friend and her husband, and if things keep going well then she will probably stay forever

Based on the photos everything is fine - she's been sleeping on my friend's husband's lap, on his keyboard, on the sofa, playing, eating and using the litter tray I think she just wanted exclusive attention and obviously being in a house with a cat in it was stressing her out.

Poppy has hardly left the house since she went - sleeping with me on the bed, on the sofa, eating, and purring lots.

No contact from my (possibly soon to be ex) mate since I messaged him to tell him it was a problem, and he responded with "there are 4 options" - one of which was putting her down

[ali_kat]

Great news for all of you

cannot believe he said that :|

[bexVN]

ali_kat said:

Great news for all of you

cannot believe he said that :

Neither can I!!

I am so relieved you seem to have found a solution OP, you must feel a weight has been lifted re Poppy and Dusty anyway! They both sound so much happier already .

Sorry your mate hasn't been.more supportive, sounds like he has washed his hands of her which is sad, or he is getting arsy with you so trying to play the guilt card which is totally unreasonable.

This thread proves how hard you tried and the end result proves you have made the right decision.

[steelbreeze]

Both cats happy - well done!!

[dreamer75]

Thanks guys and thanks for all the tips. If nothing else it's been a HUGE learning exercise and I've learnt so much about cat behaviour! Yes it is a huge weight - the house is v quiet without the cheeky monkey in it, but it's been lovely having Pops home and seeing her so chilled, and seeing photos of Dusty snoozing in various places obviously feeling loved

[Nightmare]

brilliant news and well done for not just taking the easy route and giving up early on - and sounds like Poppy is delighted and Dusty is happy so brilliant all round

totally unrelated but ive literally just finished a skype call where the chap on the other ends cat leapt onto the table and proudly deposited a slow worm in front of the camera and then p*ssed off!

[Big Al.]

As you were.....

Move along nothing to see here.

[Shaw Tarse]

Cheers Al

[ali_kat]

Thanks Al

[bexVN]

I wondered whether to 'report' or not!

[dreamer75]

Nightmare said:

totally unrelated but ive literally just finished a skype call where the chap on the other ends cat leapt onto the table and proudly deposited a slow worm in front of the camera and then p*ssed off!

LOL Cats are great aren't they !