Guys and crying....
Discussion
Ok, so what are the rules on guys and crying?
I don't mean as in 's
t, my arms just been hacked off' tears of physical pain, I mean 'I feel really sad' tears.
I think the last time I remember crying was probably 10 years ago, I was 14 and I was moving 150 miles across the country and starting a new school.
The interesting thing is I have never cried since then. I've been to funerals of close family, had family pets die, broke up with girlfriends and had arguments with people I love, but have never cried.
Is that weird? My ex brought it up after a big argument. She said it's strange that she has never seen me cry and assumes I'm emotionally dead inside.
That's not important though. What I want to know is 'when is it acceptable for a man to cry'? Do guys on here cry if front of their partners or family?
I'm not saying I never will cry, just that I think it would have to be something really significant. Even seeing my grandmother for the first time in 10 years. She was so kind and typical of a loving grandparent, 10 years on she is in the late stages of dementia. She can't talk, looks like a skeleton and doesn't recognise anybody, just gurgling and smiling occasionally. Even after that I didn't cry.
Hmmmm, maybe I'm bottling? What are the chances one day I finally crack and become the hulk?
I don't mean as in 's
t, my arms just been hacked off' tears of physical pain, I mean 'I feel really sad' tears.I think the last time I remember crying was probably 10 years ago, I was 14 and I was moving 150 miles across the country and starting a new school.
The interesting thing is I have never cried since then. I've been to funerals of close family, had family pets die, broke up with girlfriends and had arguments with people I love, but have never cried.
Is that weird? My ex brought it up after a big argument. She said it's strange that she has never seen me cry and assumes I'm emotionally dead inside.
That's not important though. What I want to know is 'when is it acceptable for a man to cry'? Do guys on here cry if front of their partners or family?
I'm not saying I never will cry, just that I think it would have to be something really significant. Even seeing my grandmother for the first time in 10 years. She was so kind and typical of a loving grandparent, 10 years on she is in the late stages of dementia. She can't talk, looks like a skeleton and doesn't recognise anybody, just gurgling and smiling occasionally. Even after that I didn't cry.
Hmmmm, maybe I'm bottling? What are the chances one day I finally crack and become the hulk?
I'm also not saying that it shouldn't be done, just that I wonder when its okay to do so.
And it's not a 'hard man' thing either.
I've known a few guys who would rip somebodies head off in response to a funny look, but have broken down because of a traumatic experience.
And I'm not powerfully built......but I do have big boy hair.
And it's not a 'hard man' thing either.
I've known a few guys who would rip somebodies head off in response to a funny look, but have broken down because of a traumatic experience.
And I'm not powerfully built......but I do have big boy hair.
I didn't really cry when our little boy was born which surprised me to be honest. I felt very emotional, but every other father said I would bib like a gud un.
Last time I cried properly was about 10 years ago when they found a guy from work dead having hung himself at home. I realised that a conversation I'd had with him at work a couple of weeks earlier was a cry for help but at the time I hadn't realised as I was so absorbed in my own work. He had a young daughter and marriage issues - I felt terrible. Kept it to myself and my ex. at the time - I wouldn't do it in public!!
Last time I cried properly was about 10 years ago when they found a guy from work dead having hung himself at home. I realised that a conversation I'd had with him at work a couple of weeks earlier was a cry for help but at the time I hadn't realised as I was so absorbed in my own work. He had a young daughter and marriage issues - I felt terrible. Kept it to myself and my ex. at the time - I wouldn't do it in public!!
The Beaver Queen said:
I'm also not saying that it shouldn't be done, just that I wonder when its okay to do so.
And it's not a 'hard man' thing either.
I've known a few guys who would rip somebodies head off in response to a funny look, but have broken down because of a traumatic experience.
And I'm not powerfully built......but I do have big boy hair.
It's okay when you can't help yourself? I mean if you feel like crying you will, there's nothing to be embarrassed about.And it's not a 'hard man' thing either.
I've known a few guys who would rip somebodies head off in response to a funny look, but have broken down because of a traumatic experience.
And I'm not powerfully built......but I do have big boy hair.
rhinochopig said:
Never used to. Had children and now cry all the time. The film Up had me blubbing like a girl. Cried this week watching that documentary called something Ambush about Afghanistan.
It's really quite embarrassing
Got to say that I feel a lot more emotional since the baby came along. Weird. It's really quite embarrassing
blambert said:
In the last 3 weeks...
GF of two years left me
Moved into a hotel on my own away from anyone I know to be near a new job.
My nan died
I have heart surgery on the 17th
So... most nights. Before then... not at all.
sGF of two years left me
Moved into a hotel on my own away from anyone I know to be near a new job.
My nan died
I have heart surgery on the 17th
So... most nights. Before then... not at all.
t the bed, sounds rough mate.Had simillar (minus heart surgery) a couple of years back.... Never in front of anyone. But alone, when things got to me
OH has cried infront of me twice, once when his bestmate died suddenly and once when it looked like we were over and were splitting up.
Don't think I've ever seen my brother cry.
I've seen dad cry once and it's not something I ever what to see again, it broke my heart knowing I had turned this big strong man into an emotional wreck all because I was a selfish cow
Don't think I've ever seen my brother cry.
I've seen dad cry once and it's not something I ever what to see again, it broke my heart knowing I had turned this big strong man into an emotional wreck all because I was a selfish cow
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