Things that annoy you beyond reason...? [Vol 2]

[Carthage]

singlecoil said:

And are you going to be able to provide an example (with context) or are you another one that just wants to make an unsupported negative comment and then run away?

Why does it matter?
People can call you/me/anyone anything they like without needing 'evidence' or 'context'.
Who cares?

/counselling session.

[singlecoil]

Carthage said:

singlecoil said:

And are you going to be able to provide an example (with context) or are you another one that just wants to make an unsupported negative comment and then run away?

Why does it matter?
People can call you/me/anyone anything they like without needing 'evidence' or 'context'.
Who cares?

/counselling session.

Who said it matters? It's a conversation. It's not quite like the sort of conversation that happens in real life, people aren't usually that rude, but it's still a conversation and I'm happy to see it through.

[Carthage]

singlecoil said:

Who said it matters? It's a conversation. It's not quite like the sort of conversation that happens in real life, people aren't usually that rude, but it's still a conversation and I'm happy to see it through.

True, nobody said it mattered.
Ah, well if you are enjoying yourself...you all do seem a bit aggressive though.
Perhaps internet aggression is easier/safer/less damaging than it would be in person.
Still ugly though.

[Jabbah]

Carthage said:

Why does it matter?

It ALWAYS matters

[Carthage]

Jabbah said:

It ALWAYS matters

But...but...you are men, therefore none of you can be right.

[Jabbah]

Carthage said:

But...but...you are men, therefore none of you can be right.

Wow, that is... profound

[singlecoil]

Carthage said:

singlecoil said:

Who said it matters? It's a conversation. It's not quite like the sort of conversation that happens in real life, people aren't usually that rude, but it's still a conversation and I'm happy to see it through.

True, nobody said it mattered.
Ah, well if you are enjoying yourself...you all do seem a bit aggressive though.
Perhaps internet aggression is easier/safer/less damaging than it would be in person.
Still ugly though.

I agree about the ugliness. It's just that if someone makes a negative remark about/to me then I will normally challenge them about it, often quite robustly. If they didn't keep starting these things, then I wouldn't need to respond. That's why I keep asking for examples and never get any, it's because they can't find any where I've been the aggressor.


Some might say I've got a thin skin, maybe I have, and maybe they just do it to get a rise out of me. It could even be that I go around provoking rows and don't realise what I'm doing, and fool myself into thinking that they are starting it. If they could find some examples then I would accept that it was, in fact, me, and some cognitive therapy could begin.

[Carthage]

Jabbah said:

Wow, that is... profound

I was trying to distract Singlecoil et al with an alternative target.
Too obvious?

[Jabbah]

Carthage said:

I was trying to distract Singlecoil et al with an alternative target.
Too obvious?

Noooo... we just aren't so good at multitasking esp when fixated on a running battle!

[Carthage]

singlecoil said:

I agree about the ugliness. It's just that if someone makes a negative remark about/to me then I will normally challenge them about it, often quite robustly. If they didn't keep starting these things, then I wouldn't need to respond. That's why I keep asking for examples and never get any, it's because they can't find any where I've been the aggressor.


Some might say I've got a thin skin, maybe I have, and maybe they just do it to get a rise out of me. It could even be that I go around provoking rows and don't realise what I'm doing, and fool myself into thinking that they are starting it. If they could find some examples then I would accept that it was, in fact, me, and some cognitive therapy could begin.

It seems to me that if 'people keep starting these things' and you keep 'needing to respond' and have to 'keep asking for examples' you are all stuck in behaviour patterns which are unlikely to generate new (satisfactory outcomes).
Unless aggression counts as a satisfactory outcome?
Personally when attacked on forums (and it happens to me a lot elsewhere as I am a bit eccentric) I try different strategies to end the tediousness. My personal favourites are either overwhelming niceness (I can do it on occasion ) or 'disappearing' them (I can make people in my RL cease to exist when it suits me). Works well.

[Carthage]

Jabbah said:

Noooo... we just aren't so good at multitasking esp when fixated on a running battle!

Ah. I seldom care enough to get involved in running battles.
Besides, I'm a complete coward.

[DrTre]

singlecoil said:

And are you going to be able to provide an example (with context) or are you another one that just wants to make an unsupported negative comment and then run away?

My post was supposed to be light-hearted and I apologise for my language but as I said, it's an impression I get from your posting style; all the support I need is what I read with my own eyes and interpret. Your response to JonRBs post earlier in the thread is an example (in fact most your jousting with him and Pothole) and your demeanour as a whole can be pretty combative/negative IMO. Having said that, I appreciate what this thread is about, it's kinda unavoidable to not appear moany in a thread about things that annoy, and it appears you three have a certain amount of "history" ETA and there's perhaps an element of provocation.

ETA for clarity, I think I'm talking only about this thread.

Edited by DrTre on Friday 27th April 07:10

[singlecoil]

DrTre said:

My post was supposed to be light-hearted

That's very reassuring.

How do you feel about those people who are on this thread for no other (apparent) reason than to take issue with the things that other people find annoying? What impression have you formed of their activities?

[blindswelledrat]

singlecoil said:

That's very reassuring.

How do you feel about those people who are on this thread for no other (apparent) reason than to take issue with the things that other people find annoying? What impression have you formed of their activities?

SC, How do you feel about the fact that it is always you that is in the centre of these things?
What conclusions do you draw from that?
Any thread that you are on for any length of time involves you having these kind of interchanges with other people. The other people don't do it with each other, or with anyone else, it is always you.
DO you conclude from this that you are a universal victim? Like some kind of bully victim?
You seem to, it's just that noone can even see you, so there is nothing specific to pick on you for. PLus your 'tormentors' are all often middle aged. Bit old for bullying. WHat else might an intelligent person conclude armed with these facts?

[DrTre]

It can be annoying, yeah, and I've replied like that before, or held myself back because I realise its not the purpose of the thread, but sometimes those replies are enlightening. I think its something everyone has done on this thread, to a greater or lesser degree.

It's similar to traffic jams; if I'm informed why I'm stuck then I am much less frustrated than being kept in the dark.

There are a mixture of annoyance posts on the thread, some do benefit from response, others not.

To answer your last question, I do find those posts redundant on the whole...and to preempt your next question, yes I can understand your reaction to them on occasion.

[JonRB]

singlecoil said:

Some might say I've got a thin skin, maybe I have, and maybe they just do it to get a rise out of me. It could even be that I go around provoking rows and don't realise what I'm doing, and fool myself into thinking that they are starting it.

I mean this in the nicest way possible, but there is a lot of truth in that (apart from the bit I struck out, for me at least). I genuinely have not at any point picked on you, despite your feelings to the contrary. Anyone who knows me will know that whilst I do have a knack for putting my foot in it and saying the wrong thing, I very rarely (if ever) set out to upset anyone.

singlecoil said:

If they could find some examples then I would accept that it was, in fact, me, and some cognitive therapy could begin.

With the greatest of respect, I very much doubt any examples that you would accept could be found. But the very fact that several people have commented in a similar way suggests that they have formed that opinion, rightly or wrongly, and that is in itself some kind of evidence.

If you take offence at any of the above then I assure you that absolutely none is intended.

[JonRB]

blindswelledrat said:

SC, how do you feel about the fact that it is always you that is in the centre of these things?
What conclusions do you draw from that?
Any thread that you are on for any length of time involves you having these kind of interchanges with other people. The other people don't do it with each other, or with anyone else, it is always you.
Do you conclude from this that you are a universal victim? Like some kind of bully victim?
You seem to, it's just that no-one can even see you, so there is nothing specific to pick on you for. Plus your 'tormentors' are all often middle aged. Bit old for bullying. What else might an intelligent person conclude armed with these facts?

Blimey. BSR in totally reasonable, sensible, diplomatically worded post shocker. And I find myself completely agreeing with everything written too.

[singlecoil]

blindswelledrat said:

SC, How do you feel about the fact that it is always you that is in the centre of these things?
What conclusions do you draw from that?
Any thread that you are on for any length of time involves you having these kind of interchanges with other people. The other people don't do it with each other, or with anyone else, it is always you.
DO you conclude from this that you are a universal victim? Like some kind of bully victim?
You seem to, it's just that noone can even see you, so there is nothing specific to pick on you for. PLus your 'tormentors' are all often middle aged. Bit old for bullying. WHat else might an intelligent person conclude armed with these facts?

Your post fails on the very first sentence. Which is hardly surprising considering the bullst I've seen you write on other threads, and the fact that you are banned from at least one.

How long do you think it would take me to find umpteen other examples of this kind of aggravation that I haven't been anywhere near?

As for the other stuff, no, I don't see myself as any kind of victim. To do that, I would have to be losing and I'm not. I'll continue to respond robustly whenever I see fit. Notice I say respond. If you see me start something then feel free to respond youself.

You really are an appalling burke, you must have creamed your pants when you saw what you perceived to be yet another chance to have a go at me (I notice you like to be one of the pack, not to lead it, BTW). I've seen you enter threads for the sole reason of attacking me, but only when someone else has already had a go at me. Strange that you would exhibit such cowardly behaviour considering that you're not at any kind of risk, just some anonymous Sid Some poster spreading annoyance wherever he goes.

[singlecoil]

JonRB said:

Stuff

I daresay your continual questioning of my right to be annoyed by the things that annoy me, or to question their validity, is not ill-intentioned in any way. Can you grasp why it might seem that way, though? How about, in future, instead of responding in the way you did to my last such post, simply ask for clarification. It might well be that my annoyance is entirely reasonable and its cause entirely valid. If it doesn't seem that way to you on the face of it, then I will be happy to provide more detail. Perhaps then this thread will proceed along more civil lines.

[JonRB]

singlecoil said:

Perhaps then this thread will proceed along more civil lines.

Quite frankly, this thread is pretty boring now and the only thing still interesting about it was the banter and/or discussion on peoples' posts. Since neither are seemingly allowable, I'll leave you to your thread and have no further part in it. Have fun and enjoy it.