Match.com (Volume 5)
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The Beaver King said:
Being uncharacteristically serious for two seconds; go out for a few drinks and drop a few casual remarks in her direction. Her reaction should give you an indication if she feels the same way. For example:
'This is fun, I really enjoy spending time with you'
(Anything smiley with eye contact and/or physical touch is good)
I'd just ask her mate. Take her out for a meal or a few drinks at a nice bar, a bit of lighthearted conversation and then just explain how much you actually care for her and would like things to become more serious between you. She'd probably feel just as awkward were the roles reversed, which may explain why she hasn't mentioned it yet.
That or she's not interested. In which case you'll look like a right helmet when she shoots you down....
I was seeing my Gf for about 3 months before we started 'officially' dating. That only came about because she'd had a few too many glasses of vino and we were having a 'moment'.
I have hinted here and there, she said she also likes my company, she also invited me to Thorpe Park with a bunch of her mates next week.'This is fun, I really enjoy spending time with you'
(Anything smiley with eye contact and/or physical touch is good)
I'd just ask her mate. Take her out for a meal or a few drinks at a nice bar, a bit of lighthearted conversation and then just explain how much you actually care for her and would like things to become more serious between you. She'd probably feel just as awkward were the roles reversed, which may explain why she hasn't mentioned it yet.
That or she's not interested. In which case you'll look like a right helmet when she shoots you down....
I was seeing my Gf for about 3 months before we started 'officially' dating. That only came about because she'd had a few too many glasses of vino and we were having a 'moment'.
It's the looking like a helmet part I wasnt to avoid....
V8mate said:
Council Baby said:
Pull out just before you blow, 
all over her face. Then just utter these words...
'my last girlfriend never let me do that'
She'll get the message.
And replace 'last girlfriend' with 'mum', 'sister' (yours or hers), 'pet dog' to achieve various interesting responses. all over her face. Then just utter these words...'my last girlfriend never let me do that'
She'll get the message.
You're the type who likes to scream another womans name whilst shagging the wife and try and hold on.
ybt1982 said:
I have hinted here and there, she said she also likes my company, she also invited me to Thorpe Park with a bunch of her mates next week.
It's the looking like a helmet part I wasnt to avoid....
How long have you been in regular contact? I know you said you exchanged messages over a few months and stuff, but how long has it been since you started having regular contact?It's the looking like a helmet part I wasnt to avoid....
The Thorpe Park thing could be one of two things. Either she doesn't feel she knows you well enough yet to spend time with you on her own or it's a couples thing and the mates going are all in relationships. Asking who is going next week and listening to the mix of the group might give you an idea which it is.
If it is just random mates going, then don't forget to be bloody nice to her mates, they hold a lot of influence...
The Beaver King said:
How long have you been in regular contact? I know you said you exchanged messages over a few months and stuff, but how long has it been since you started having regular contact?
The Thorpe Park thing could be one of two things. Either she doesn't feel she knows you well enough yet to spend time with you on her own or it's a couples thing and the mates going are all in relationships. Asking who is going next week and listening to the mix of the group might give you an idea which it is.
If it is just random mates going, then don't forget to be bloody nice to her mates, they hold a lot of influence...
4 weeks regular contact, as I said, I'm not in a hurry to do this as it's early days yet, but it would be nice to find out if there is a chance.The Thorpe Park thing could be one of two things. Either she doesn't feel she knows you well enough yet to spend time with you on her own or it's a couples thing and the mates going are all in relationships. Asking who is going next week and listening to the mix of the group might give you an idea which it is.
If it is just random mates going, then don't forget to be bloody nice to her mates, they hold a lot of influence...
Seems to be a mix of couples, singles and 1 person out of couples.
Council Baby said:
Relax FFS she's invites you out with her mates, it's positive. Now is NOT the time to push it. Play the game, get along with her mates, enjoy the day out and let it ride.
Yup, that's pretty much what I needed to hear I think.I am in a bit of a tiz to be honest and trying hard not to f
k it up. Council Baby said:
Relax FFS she's invites you out with her mates, it's positive. Now is NOT the time to push it. Play the game, get along with her mates, enjoy the day out and let it ride.
Good advice. She may have some friends who are better catches too, and who come through a bit more promptly. Always shine when you're not available. If other women see you representing 'perfect boyfriend' with their friend, you can be sure they'll jump at an opportunity to shack up when you dump your frigid bird.
ybt1982 said:
The Beaver King said:
How long have you been in regular contact? I know you said you exchanged messages over a few months and stuff, but how long has it been since you started having regular contact?
The Thorpe Park thing could be one of two things. Either she doesn't feel she knows you well enough yet to spend time with you on her own or it's a couples thing and the mates going are all in relationships. Asking who is going next week and listening to the mix of the group might give you an idea which it is.
If it is just random mates going, then don't forget to be bloody nice to her mates, they hold a lot of influence...
4 weeks regular contact, as I said, I'm not in a hurry to do this as it's early days yet, but it would be nice to find out if there is a chance.The Thorpe Park thing could be one of two things. Either she doesn't feel she knows you well enough yet to spend time with you on her own or it's a couples thing and the mates going are all in relationships. Asking who is going next week and listening to the mix of the group might give you an idea which it is.
If it is just random mates going, then don't forget to be bloody nice to her mates, they hold a lot of influence...
Seems to be a mix of couples, singles and 1 person out of couples.
Plenty of time for you to mess it up between now and then
Well feck knows why I'm posting this here...but 
As some of you know I've been seeing someone for just under 6 months, and although we have had our ups and downs I really can see a future.
Or that was until he was told he had a mass in his brain. In lots of selfish ways, I was relieved as his behaviour at times can be almost Bi-polar, along with a few other characteristics. But it seems that these are all most likely caused by the mass.
He goes this Tuesday to have a MRI scan and a biopsy before they decide what to do.
And to make matters worse, I can't be with him this week (lack of money/work/my son) and now he's 'went off on one' and says to leave him alone.
I know he's scared, feck he saw his dad go through exactly the same thing...but why turn on the one person who loves you?
I probably sound a right selfish bh, but feck I love him so much, and certainly don't want him to think he needs to give me 'a way out' of the relationship. Christ he's the first man in 38 years that I have actually though 'I would marry this one'
As some of you know I've been seeing someone for just under 6 months, and although we have had our ups and downs I really can see a future.
Or that was until he was told he had a mass in his brain. In lots of selfish ways, I was relieved as his behaviour at times can be almost Bi-polar, along with a few other characteristics. But it seems that these are all most likely caused by the mass.
He goes this Tuesday to have a MRI scan and a biopsy before they decide what to do.
And to make matters worse, I can't be with him this week (lack of money/work/my son) and now he's 'went off on one' and says to leave him alone.
I know he's scared, feck he saw his dad go through exactly the same thing...but why turn on the one person who loves you?
I probably sound a right selfish b
h, but feck I love him so much, and certainly don't want him to think he needs to give me 'a way out' of the relationship. Christ he's the first man in 38 years that I have actually though 'I would marry this one'Penny-lope said:
Well feck knows why I'm posting this here...but
As some of you know I've been seeing someone for just under 6 months, and although we have had our ups and downs I really can see a future.
Or that was until he was told he had a mass in his brain. In lots of selfish ways, I was relieved as his behaviour at times can be almost Bi-polar, along with a few other characteristics. But it seems that these are all most likely caused by the mass.
He goes this Tuesday to have a MRI scan and a biopsy before they decide what to do.
And to make matters worse, I can't be with him this week (lack of money/work/my son) and now he's 'went off on one' and says to leave him alone.
I know he's scared, feck he saw his dad go through exactly the same thing...but why turn on the one person who loves you?
I probably sound a right selfish bh, but feck I love him so much, and certainly don't want him to think he needs to give me 'a way out' of the relationship. Christ he's the first man in 38 years that I have actually though 'I would marry this one'
Spell it out that you can't get to see him and tell him you're there for him no matter what.As some of you know I've been seeing someone for just under 6 months, and although we have had our ups and downs I really can see a future.
Or that was until he was told he had a mass in his brain. In lots of selfish ways, I was relieved as his behaviour at times can be almost Bi-polar, along with a few other characteristics. But it seems that these are all most likely caused by the mass.
He goes this Tuesday to have a MRI scan and a biopsy before they decide what to do.
And to make matters worse, I can't be with him this week (lack of money/work/my son) and now he's 'went off on one' and says to leave him alone.
I know he's scared, feck he saw his dad go through exactly the same thing...but why turn on the one person who loves you?
I probably sound a right selfish b
h, but feck I love him so much, and certainly don't want him to think he needs to give me 'a way out' of the relationship. Christ he's the first man in 38 years that I have actually though 'I would marry this one'Men need things in black and white
Agreed, it's FAR easier to let loose on someone close than it is anyone else.....at least he's not bottling it up.
As said, spell it out plain and simple, when you can be there you will be there and whenever he needs to talk, you're ready.
Not sure you should mention 'future' or 'marriage' at this point... just saying, he may well be up for all that (hope so ) but he'll be wanting to deal with what's in front of him first.
Good luck.
As said, spell it out plain and simple, when you can be there you will be there and whenever he needs to talk, you're ready.
Not sure you should mention 'future' or 'marriage' at this point... just saying, he may well be up for all that (hope so
) but he'll be wanting to deal with what's in front of him first.Good luck.
I'd never tell him I'd marry him 
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