Match.com (Volume 5)
Discussion
NRS said:
QueenBee said:
My friends and I find that guys don't pay for much these days because they are seeing several women at the same time. It is mainly a drink, yours or mine etc. a meal if you are lucky and then they want you to pay half. They will pay for everything only for the girl half their age or the girl that looks like a model because she has choices.
You're saying you're ugly then? 
Equal oppurtunities to be honest. You'd complain if you got paid less at work, so why pay less on a date? Here in Norway woman pay for themselves, and will insist on it even if you offer. Also spending £100 on getting ready for a first internet date is insanity, and isn't the guy's fault, but rather your own choice. You have no idea what they're like - personality could be wrong, photos could be 5 years old etc. The reason I would pay is if the person has a lot less money than me (i.e. student for example). But I'd do that for other friends when meeting them too sometimes, as others have done this for me which is very much appreciated.
CharlesdeGaulle said:
QueenBee said:
Thankyou4calling said:
The key may well be ATM.
With practice you will be able to keep a few on the go.
Oh and, unless you have another on the go, don't send thanks but no thanks texts. You just never know when you might get the urge.
In what way wasn't she what you expected? And font worry too much about stuff you've done previously, as long as you don't come across as bitter or wistful it's what made you what you are.
Get stuck in fella.
Judging from his posts and threads, I wonder what this guy's mum did to him. He has no respect for himself or women lolWith practice you will be able to keep a few on the go.
Oh and, unless you have another on the go, don't send thanks but no thanks texts. You just never know when you might get the urge.
In what way wasn't she what you expected? And font worry too much about stuff you've done previously, as long as you don't come across as bitter or wistful it's what made you what you are.
Get stuck in fella.
Edited by QueenBee on Wednesday 16th April 22:10
QueenBee said:
NRS said:
QueenBee said:
My friends and I find that guys don't pay for much these days because they are seeing several women at the same time. It is mainly a drink, yours or mine etc. a meal if you are lucky and then they want you to pay half. They will pay for everything only for the girl half their age or the girl that looks like a model because she has choices.
You're saying you're ugly then? Equal oppurtunities to be honest. You'd complain if you got paid less at work, so why pay less on a date? Here in Norway woman pay for themselves, and will insist on it even if you offer. Also spending £100 on getting ready for a first internet date is insanity, and isn't the guy's fault, but rather your own choice. You have no idea what they're like - personality could be wrong, photos could be 5 years old etc. The reason I would pay is if the person has a lot less money than me (i.e. student for example). But I'd do that for other friends when meeting them too sometimes, as others have done this for me which is very much appreciated.
TonyHetherington said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Suggest that she asks any potential long-termers to attend the local GUM Clinic for a full STI Screen before she'll sleep with them.
That should sort it.
Errr, they'll walk in, say "Hi Glenda, here for my regular check up" and give potential date the all-clear-bit-of-paper.That should sort it.
People may be "serial shaggers", but the majority are sensible with it.
VinceFox said:
QueenBee said:
NRS said:
QueenBee said:
My friends and I find that guys don't pay for much these days because they are seeing several women at the same time. It is mainly a drink, yours or mine etc. a meal if you are lucky and then they want you to pay half. They will pay for everything only for the girl half their age or the girl that looks like a model because she has choices.
You're saying you're ugly then? Equal oppurtunities to be honest. You'd complain if you got paid less at work, so why pay less on a date? Here in Norway woman pay for themselves, and will insist on it even if you offer. Also spending £100 on getting ready for a first internet date is insanity, and isn't the guy's fault, but rather your own choice. You have no idea what they're like - personality could be wrong, photos could be 5 years old etc. The reason I would pay is if the person has a lot less money than me (i.e. student for example). But I'd do that for other friends when meeting them too sometimes, as others have done this for me which is very much appreciated.
QueenBee said:
A piece of paper says they are clear that day. If they are a serial cheat and not safe, they can catch anything at any time and pass it on. Also many are too foolish to realise some things can be passed on orally.
This is why you should never brush your teeth before going down in a hooker, it's a little known fact that lightly bleeding gums leave you far more susceptible to infection, and hookers are paid to put up with bad breath.'12' dates... I can't believe you're counting them! I bet you are keeping train tickets, receipts and theatre tickets in a memory box having relegated your porn stash to the meter cupboard and soon to be railway sidings.
You have my sympathies.
(Nearest tube line? I can't remember what Mobsta did with all his in the end...I must ask him).
You have my sympathies.
(Nearest tube line? I can't remember what Mobsta did with all his in the end...I must ask him).
QueenBee said:
VinceFox said:
QueenBee said:
NRS said:
QueenBee said:
My friends and I find that guys don't pay for much these days because they are seeing several women at the same time. It is mainly a drink, yours or mine etc. a meal if you are lucky and then they want you to pay half. They will pay for everything only for the girl half their age or the girl that looks like a model because she has choices.
You're saying you're ugly then? Equal oppurtunities to be honest. You'd complain if you got paid less at work, so why pay less on a date? Here in Norway woman pay for themselves, and will insist on it even if you offer. Also spending £100 on getting ready for a first internet date is insanity, and isn't the guy's fault, but rather your own choice. You have no idea what they're like - personality could be wrong, photos could be 5 years old etc. The reason I would pay is if the person has a lot less money than me (i.e. student for example). But I'd do that for other friends when meeting them too sometimes, as others have done this for me which is very much appreciated.
Ikemi said:
I can't see how 'beauty in the eye of the beholder' and 'the earning of partners has been 5-10 times more' are linked? How is earning potential linked to how they view you? It makes very little sense, IMHO.
You've opened up a whole new area here as yo what makes somebody attractive. The old interveiw question (don't know if its true) asked of Debbie McGee " So what was it that attracted you to short, bald, millionaire Paul Daniels?Money, for many people is a MASSIVE aphrodisiac. It allows a man to dress better, take a partner on more lavish dates, allows him to spoil her without penny pinching. A wealthy (or better off man) may well be more confident, they are used to certain social situations and can have a broad range of interests and are often intelligent, this can give them an engaging personality. Now, many women are attracted by money, power, status and they go to places where those men are. A well funded man, even if not handsome may well appeal on many other levels. Of course you can post exceptions and say these women are gold diggers or not for you but, if a woman is looking for a partner, often, not always, their income and potential income will be a large factor. Take an extreme case, Bernie Ecclestone. Not what you'd normally call a physically attractive man, without his wealth he probably wouldn't be with as beautiful a woman. His wealth however gives him status, power, access to areas and opportunities beyond the norm. Any woman in his circle will enjoy this, I'm sure he is highly intelligent too and these factors will in a sense make him an attractive package.
Thankyou4calling said:
Ikemi said:
I can't see how 'beauty in the eye of the beholder' and 'the earning of partners has been 5-10 times more' are linked? How is earning potential linked to how they view you? It makes very little sense, IMHO.
You've opened up a whole new area here as yo what makes somebody attractive. The old interveiw question (don't know if its true) asked of Debbie McGee " So what was it that attracted you to short, bald, millionaire Paul Daniels?Money, for many people is a MASSIVE aphrodisiac. It allows a man to dress better, take a partner on more lavish dates, allows him to spoil her without penny pinching. A wealthy (or better off man) may well be more confident, they are used to certain social situations and can have a broad range of interests and are often intelligent, this can give them an engaging personality. Now, many women are attracted by money, power, status and they go to places where those men are. A well funded man, even if not handsome may well appeal on many other levels. Of course you can post exceptions and say these women are gold diggers or not for you but, if a woman is looking for a partner, often, not always, their income and potential income will be a large factor. Take an extreme case, Bernie Ecclestone. Not what you'd normally call a physically attractive man, without his wealth he probably wouldn't be with as beautiful a woman. His wealth however gives him status, power, access to areas and opportunities beyond the norm. Any woman in his circle will enjoy this, I'm sure he is highly intelligent too and these factors will in a sense make him an attractive package.
Other than that, I agree with most of your points!
Actually thought it had finally happened a month ago. Met her at my ex's birthday bash and went back to mine. Both very drunk but it was fun and fully expected her to wake up the next day sobered up and regretting it.
But no, she left me at 2am and was texting me at 7am saying how wonderful it all was. We continued texting and calling like a couple of teenagers for a couple of days and then met up. She has kids too and lives with her partner but only as parents to the children. They still live together but separate beds etc. I actually know them as we all used to holiday together as families years ago. She was beautiful then and still is now.
So a wonderful 2 weeks. She seemed to like me, was interested in me, we got on so well together, comfortable together and I just could not believe how good I felt and it made me realise that it has been a very long time since I was last happy. She talked of things we could do together in the summer and beyond.
Then her mum (in law) fell ill. A date was cancelled, the calls stopped and the texts are rare and very business like.
Her mum (in law) is dying, so she has a lot on and has to support her family and her partner so I can hardly ring up and say what about us. From a text last night I'm sure that it is all over but I'm just puzzled how she could be so into me (as I am into her) and then it can all come to an abrupt stop.
Women eh!
I went and got very drunk with a female friend of mine to get a woman's perspective on it all and my friend reckoned that I just happened along at the right time and she lived in this little bubble with me for a short while until reality bit.
But no, she left me at 2am and was texting me at 7am saying how wonderful it all was. We continued texting and calling like a couple of teenagers for a couple of days and then met up. She has kids too and lives with her partner but only as parents to the children. They still live together but separate beds etc. I actually know them as we all used to holiday together as families years ago. She was beautiful then and still is now.
So a wonderful 2 weeks. She seemed to like me, was interested in me, we got on so well together, comfortable together and I just could not believe how good I felt and it made me realise that it has been a very long time since I was last happy. She talked of things we could do together in the summer and beyond.
Then her mum (in law) fell ill. A date was cancelled, the calls stopped and the texts are rare and very business like.
Her mum (in law) is dying, so she has a lot on and has to support her family and her partner so I can hardly ring up and say what about us. From a text last night I'm sure that it is all over but I'm just puzzled how she could be so into me (as I am into her) and then it can all come to an abrupt stop.
Women eh!
I went and got very drunk with a female friend of mine to get a woman's perspective on it all and my friend reckoned that I just happened along at the right time and she lived in this little bubble with me for a short while until reality bit.
leglessAlex said:
Adenauer said:
Did CB really get away with saying that he goes down on hookers, without anybody picking up on it? 
I thought it was a fairly standard CB thing to say to be honest 
d.croyde said:
I went and got very drunk with a female friend of mine to get a woman's perspective on it all and my friend reckoned that I just happened along at the right time and she lived in this little bubble with me for a short while until reality bit.
It's possible....but if you really like her then leave her be for a couple of weeks then drop her a line. See how things are, then decide what's best for you.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff