Match.com (Volume 5)
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d.Mr Roper said:
croyde said:
I went and got very drunk with a female friend of mine to get a woman's perspective on it all and my friend reckoned that I just happened along at the right time and she lived in this little bubble with me for a short while until reality bit.
It's possible....but if you really like her then leave her be for a couple of weeks then drop her a line. See how things are, then decide what's best for you.Ta.
Hello fellow daters.
I completely understand why she's called things off but it was almost like a switch, one week she was over here and all was good, next week barely a text and they were very curt. What can you do? <shrugs>
croyde said:
From a text last night I'm sure that it is all over but I'm just puzzled how she could be so into me (as I am into her) and then it can all come to an abrupt stop.
I've been in the same situation recently: I was seeing a great girl earlier in the year, it ended, we got back together but her sister-in-law is dying of cancer so the GF has been spending all her spare time helping out since before we got back together. Added to this is the fact that we live 1.5 hours apart so we can't even pop round to see each other.I completely understand why she's called things off but it was almost like a switch, one week she was over here and all was good, next week barely a text and they were very curt. What can you do? <shrugs>
Rouleur said:
I've been in the same situation recently: I was seeing a great girl earlier in the year, it ended, we got back together but her sister-in-law is dying of cancer so the GF has been spending all her spare time helping out since before we got back together. Added to this is the fact that we live 1.5 hours apart so we can't even pop round to see each other.
I completely understand why she's called things off but it was almost like a switch, one week she was over here and all was good, next week barely a text and they were very curt. What can you do? <shrugs>
They have both found someone else in my opinion.I completely understand why she's called things off but it was almost like a switch, one week she was over here and all was good, next week barely a text and they were very curt. What can you do? <shrugs>
Ikemi said:
QueenBee said:
VinceFox said:
QueenBee said:
NRS said:
QueenBee said:
My friends and I find that guys don't pay for much these days because they are seeing several women at the same time. It is mainly a drink, yours or mine etc. a meal if you are lucky and then they want you to pay half. They will pay for everything only for the girl half their age or the girl that looks like a model because she has choices.
You're saying you're ugly then? 
Equal oppurtunities to be honest. You'd complain if you got paid less at work, so why pay less on a date? Here in Norway woman pay for themselves, and will insist on it even if you offer. Also spending £100 on getting ready for a first internet date is insanity, and isn't the guy's fault, but rather your own choice. You have no idea what they're like - personality could be wrong, photos could be 5 years old etc. The reason I would pay is if the person has a lot less money than me (i.e. student for example). But I'd do that for other friends when meeting them too sometimes, as others have done this for me which is very much appreciated.
Council Baby said:
leglessAlex said:
Adenauer said:
Did CB really get away with saying that he goes down on hookers, without anybody picking up on it? 
I thought it was a fairly standard CB thing to say to be honest 
The HPV virus leads to mouth ulcers and throat cancer in men. And:
http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/970.aspx?CategoryID=11...
Thankyou4calling said:
Ikemi said:
I can't see how 'beauty in the eye of the beholder' and 'the earning of partners has been 5-10 times more' are linked? How is earning potential linked to how they view you? It makes very little sense, IMHO.
You've opened up a whole new area here as yo what makes somebody attractive. The old interveiw question (don't know if its true) asked of Debbie McGee " So what was it that attracted you to short, bald, millionaire Paul Daniels?Money, for many people is a MASSIVE aphrodisiac. It allows a man to dress better, take a partner on more lavish dates, allows him to spoil her without penny pinching. A wealthy (or better off man) may well be more confident, they are used to certain social situations and can have a broad range of interests and are often intelligent, this can give them an engaging personality. Now, many women are attracted by money, power, status and they go to places where those men are. A well funded man, even if not handsome may well appeal on many other levels. Of course you can post exceptions and say these women are gold diggers or not for you but, if a woman is looking for a partner, often, not always, their income and potential income will be a large factor. Take an extreme case, Bernie Ecclestone. Not what you'd normally call a physically attractive man, without his wealth he probably wouldn't be with as beautiful a woman. His wealth however gives him status, power, access to areas and opportunities beyond the norm. Any woman in his circle will enjoy this, I'm sure he is highly intelligent too and these factors will in a sense make him an attractive package.
QueenBee said:
Are you ill? This is an excellent sensible post and very true. If a girl likes an intelligent hard working guy - that guy is normally very successful whatever he does. I need a man I can talk to without having to explain everything. The kind off guy I get on with is normally very very clever. I find intelligence sexy.
I see, never realised you were gay Vieste?Thankyou4calling said:
Ikemi said:
I can't see how 'beauty in the eye of the beholder' and 'the earning of partners has been 5-10 times more' are linked? How is earning potential linked to how they view you? It makes very little sense, IMHO.
You've opened up a whole new area here as yo what makes somebody attractive. The old interveiw question (don't know if its true) asked of Debbie McGee " So what was it that attracted you to short, bald, millionaire Paul Daniels?Money, for many people is a MASSIVE aphrodisiac. It allows a man to dress better, take a partner on more lavish dates, allows him to spoil her without penny pinching. A wealthy (or better off man) may well be more confident, they are used to certain social situations and can have a broad range of interests and are often intelligent, this can give them an engaging personality. Now, many women are attracted by money, power, status and they go to places where those men are. A well funded man, even if not handsome may well appeal on many other levels. Of course you can post exceptions and say these women are gold diggers or not for you but, if a woman is looking for a partner, often, not always, their income and potential income will be a large factor. Take an extreme case, Bernie Ecclestone. Not what you'd normally call a physically attractive man, without his wealth he probably wouldn't be with as beautiful a woman. His wealth however gives him status, power, access to areas and opportunities beyond the norm. Any woman in his circle will enjoy this, I'm sure he is highly intelligent too and these factors will in a sense make him an attractive package.
My landlord is a multi-millionaire, never married, straight and good-looking. Friends are always suggesting that I should 'have a crack'.
No, because while there might be a lower income threshold, there's an upper limit as well. I don't have the resources to keep up with his kind of lifestyle, and I don't want to be paid for.
The very wealthy are surrounded by all manner of liggers and sycophants. That must have a distorting effect on one's moral compass too. In my landlord's case, he has few friends (since he trusts no-one), and is lonely and bitter.
Rouleur & Croyde
Having been through the whole cancer thing recently, give them some space & time, but continue to offer to be there for them & offer your support.
When they finally get their lives back they will remember who stood by them, offered them support & cared. I know I'm judging my friends on who was & wasn't there for me!
Just be a friend, that's all they have time for at the moment.
QueenBee said:
Ikemi said:
QueenBee said:
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The earnings of all my ex men have always been 5-10 times more than mine.
I can't see how 'beauty in the eye of the beholder' and 'the earning of partners has been 5-10 times more' are linked? How is earning potential linked to how they view you? It makes very little sense, IMHO. Either you need to learn to quote better or you're a troll
I wish PH had an ignore button as I have no self restraint!
Mobile Chicane said:
The very wealthy are surrounded by all manner of liggers and sycophants. That must have a distorting effect on one's moral compass too. In my landlord's case, he has few friends (since he trusts no-one), and is lonely and bitter.
Wow, how strange. I'm not down to my last million and can't say I have any such problems. Must be a case of who you mix with.anonymous said:
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It's fine if we click and have chemistry. I also would need to get on with his mum. My current man's mum puts us in separate rooms when we visit her because we are not married. He is not allowed to move in with her or vice versa. We would never get it on lol. He does not need to be rich, just have a job he loves and is good at. When getting into a relationship, you have to be really into someone because people can lose it all from one day to another. One of my ex's did not work for three years. We got by I didn't leave him then or stop loving him. I left him years later, because his alcoholism was destroying me and the kids.
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