Match.com (Volume 5)
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Bit of an update from me...
Remember the women who had bipolar? Well I had been seeing her still. A few weeks ago she said she loved me for the first time. I was over the moon. Its all I've wanted for ages.
Went up to see her and nothing had really changed, I put it down to helping her parents move house. Whenever I went to speak to her about it she went 'I don't want to talk about it now, makes me go all weird'. Fair enough, I can wait a little longer.
Saturday I'm up, I tell her we need to talk about it, she says nothing has changed and she wants to stay friends. Broke my heart if I'm honest. Was horrible to hear her say that. Not going to lie, cried a little. Her daughter came up to me and sat on my lap and gave me a massive cuddle. That didn't help at all.
We chatted for a couple of hours, and decided that friends could work, if we both put the effort in. With her health she wasn't in the right place.
I was meant to go up today, she looked in her diary last week, and Thursday she had baby group in the morning and in the afternoon see her support worker for her mental health. I've been at hers when shes had this before and I often just sit in her room for a hour on my laptop.
Last night she said she'll let me know what time I can come up as her dad wants to go shopping. Her dad lives five minutes away and pops in every day, we always used to wait until he had been in before going out, often meaning we didn't go out as he never came round at a set time, and it got too late with her daughter.
She said she would text me after baby group to let me know what time, group finishes at 12, shes normally back back 12:15/12:30 at a push. Hadn't heard anything so dropped her a text seeing if everything was alright (she had recently broken her hand as well).
Got a reply asking if we could rearrange as her mum is coming around later, and she has to be up early tomorrow, its never been a problem with me leaving early on a Friday.
I was very honest, told her I'm fed up of getting messed about, and said that we won't work as friends or anything else.
Oh and I also found out she was sleeping with someone else when she told me she wasn't. We weren't together at the time, but she got funny when I said I was seeing someone when we broke up last year. She still denies it, having been sent screenshots from someone with her saying she loves him and wants to move in together.
So yeah, no going back from this. I feel a prat, EVERYONE could see I was blinded by sex. I'm sure a lot of you were screaming at your computers when I was putting updates on here, but I got there at last!
Deleted and blocked on Facebook along with the rest of her family, also got my mum/brother and sisters to block them all as well, as I don't trust them.
Her family are horrible horrible people.
Time to put my efforts back into Policing and see what happens in the future.
Remember the women who had bipolar? Well I had been seeing her still. A few weeks ago she said she loved me for the first time. I was over the moon. Its all I've wanted for ages.
Went up to see her and nothing had really changed, I put it down to helping her parents move house. Whenever I went to speak to her about it she went 'I don't want to talk about it now, makes me go all weird'. Fair enough, I can wait a little longer.
Saturday I'm up, I tell her we need to talk about it, she says nothing has changed and she wants to stay friends. Broke my heart if I'm honest. Was horrible to hear her say that. Not going to lie, cried a little. Her daughter came up to me and sat on my lap and gave me a massive cuddle. That didn't help at all.
We chatted for a couple of hours, and decided that friends could work, if we both put the effort in. With her health she wasn't in the right place.
I was meant to go up today, she looked in her diary last week, and Thursday she had baby group in the morning and in the afternoon see her support worker for her mental health. I've been at hers when shes had this before and I often just sit in her room for a hour on my laptop.
Last night she said she'll let me know what time I can come up as her dad wants to go shopping. Her dad lives five minutes away and pops in every day, we always used to wait until he had been in before going out, often meaning we didn't go out as he never came round at a set time, and it got too late with her daughter.
She said she would text me after baby group to let me know what time, group finishes at 12, shes normally back back 12:15/12:30 at a push. Hadn't heard anything so dropped her a text seeing if everything was alright (she had recently broken her hand as well).
Got a reply asking if we could rearrange as her mum is coming around later, and she has to be up early tomorrow, its never been a problem with me leaving early on a Friday.
I was very honest, told her I'm fed up of getting messed about, and said that we won't work as friends or anything else.
Oh and I also found out she was sleeping with someone else when she told me she wasn't. We weren't together at the time, but she got funny when I said I was seeing someone when we broke up last year. She still denies it, having been sent screenshots from someone with her saying she loves him and wants to move in together.
So yeah, no going back from this. I feel a prat, EVERYONE could see I was blinded by sex. I'm sure a lot of you were screaming at your computers when I was putting updates on here, but I got there at last!
Deleted and blocked on Facebook along with the rest of her family, also got my mum/brother and sisters to block them all as well, as I don't trust them.
Her family are horrible horrible people.
Time to put my efforts back into Policing and see what happens in the future.
Ki3r said:
Bit of an update from me...
Remember the women who had bipolar? Well I had been seeing her still. A few weeks ago she said she loved me for the first time. I was over the moon. Its all I've wanted for ages.
Went up to see her and nothing had really changed, I put it down to helping her parents move house. Whenever I went to speak to her about it she went 'I don't want to talk about it now, makes me go all weird'. Fair enough, I can wait a little longer.
Saturday I'm up, I tell her we need to talk about it, she says nothing has changed and she wants to stay friends. Broke my heart if I'm honest. Was horrible to hear her say that. Not going to lie, cried a little. Her daughter came up to me and sat on my lap and gave me a massive cuddle. That didn't help at all.
We chatted for a couple of hours, and decided that friends could work, if we both put the effort in. With her health she wasn't in the right place.
I was meant to go up today, she looked in her diary last week, and Thursday she had baby group in the morning and in the afternoon see her support worker for her mental health. I've been at hers when shes had this before and I often just sit in her room for a hour on my laptop.
Last night she said she'll let me know what time I can come up as her dad wants to go shopping. Her dad lives five minutes away and pops in every day, we always used to wait until he had been in before going out, often meaning we didn't go out as he never came round at a set time, and it got too late with her daughter.
She said she would text me after baby group to let me know what time, group finishes at 12, shes normally back back 12:15/12:30 at a push. Hadn't heard anything so dropped her a text seeing if everything was alright (she had recently broken her hand as well).
Got a reply asking if we could rearrange as her mum is coming around later, and she has to be up early tomorrow, its never been a problem with me leaving early on a Friday.
I was very honest, told her I'm fed up of getting messed about, and said that we won't work as friends or anything else.
Oh and I also found out she was sleeping with someone else when she told me she wasn't. We weren't together at the time, but she got funny when I said I was seeing someone when we broke up last year. She still denies it, having been sent screenshots from someone with her saying she loves him and wants to move in together.
So yeah, no going back from this. I feel a prat, EVERYONE could see I was blinded by sex. I'm sure a lot of you were screaming at your computers when I was putting updates on here, but I got there at last!
Deleted and blocked on Facebook along with the rest of her family, also got my mum/brother and sisters to block them all as well, as I don't trust them.
Her family are horrible horrible people.
Time to put my efforts back into Policing and see what happens in the future.
Have a wRemember the women who had bipolar? Well I had been seeing her still. A few weeks ago she said she loved me for the first time. I was over the moon. Its all I've wanted for ages.
Went up to see her and nothing had really changed, I put it down to helping her parents move house. Whenever I went to speak to her about it she went 'I don't want to talk about it now, makes me go all weird'. Fair enough, I can wait a little longer.
Saturday I'm up, I tell her we need to talk about it, she says nothing has changed and she wants to stay friends. Broke my heart if I'm honest. Was horrible to hear her say that. Not going to lie, cried a little. Her daughter came up to me and sat on my lap and gave me a massive cuddle. That didn't help at all.
We chatted for a couple of hours, and decided that friends could work, if we both put the effort in. With her health she wasn't in the right place.
I was meant to go up today, she looked in her diary last week, and Thursday she had baby group in the morning and in the afternoon see her support worker for her mental health. I've been at hers when shes had this before and I often just sit in her room for a hour on my laptop.
Last night she said she'll let me know what time I can come up as her dad wants to go shopping. Her dad lives five minutes away and pops in every day, we always used to wait until he had been in before going out, often meaning we didn't go out as he never came round at a set time, and it got too late with her daughter.
She said she would text me after baby group to let me know what time, group finishes at 12, shes normally back back 12:15/12:30 at a push. Hadn't heard anything so dropped her a text seeing if everything was alright (she had recently broken her hand as well).
Got a reply asking if we could rearrange as her mum is coming around later, and she has to be up early tomorrow, its never been a problem with me leaving early on a Friday.
I was very honest, told her I'm fed up of getting messed about, and said that we won't work as friends or anything else.
Oh and I also found out she was sleeping with someone else when she told me she wasn't. We weren't together at the time, but she got funny when I said I was seeing someone when we broke up last year. She still denies it, having been sent screenshots from someone with her saying she loves him and wants to move in together.
So yeah, no going back from this. I feel a prat, EVERYONE could see I was blinded by sex. I'm sure a lot of you were screaming at your computers when I was putting updates on here, but I got there at last!
Deleted and blocked on Facebook along with the rest of her family, also got my mum/brother and sisters to block them all as well, as I don't trust them.
Her family are horrible horrible people.
Time to put my efforts back into Policing and see what happens in the future.
k, you'll be fine...anonymous said:
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It doesn't look good does it? I am only a Special mind you. But you'll have to take my word that I am a much better Police officer than dealing with relationships. Back on POF to see whats about, but not too fussed about meeting anyone at the moment. One thing that will be changing is women with kids. As much as I loved her daughter, it often means an ex on the scene. Plus as stupid as this sounds, I'm going to miss her daughter.
Ki3r said:
So yeah, no going back from this. I feel a prat, EVERYONE could see I was blinded by sex. I'm sure a lot of you were screaming at your computers when I was putting updates on here, but I got there at last!
Simply, yes...If someone with BP doesn't want to help themselves, there is nothing you can do. Just walk away, as it will cost you happiness, sanity, and time you can't get back.
lemmingjames said:
TBF if shes got 2 personalities then shes not cheating, one personality is shagging you and the other one someone else. They just happen to share the same body
She wasn't cheating anyway, we weren't together, but it was the lying that annoyed me the most. She said that she would tell me if she was seeing someone. She didn't. Even when I asked her outright (she had flowers on valentines day, found a used condom wrapper in the bin after her dog knocked it over). Even now, she isn't admitting it. I've seen messages that say she loves this bloke and they were planning to move in together by the sounds of it. Lucky escape!
She also got annoyed with me when I said I had arranged a date with someone when we weren't together...strangely she then said she wanted us again.
smack said:
Simply, yes...
If someone with BP doesn't want to help themselves, there is nothing you can do. Just walk away, as it will cost you happiness, sanity, and time you can't get back.
That massively. I guess I thought I could help her. I can't. Only she can. If someone with BP doesn't want to help themselves, there is nothing you can do. Just walk away, as it will cost you happiness, sanity, and time you can't get back.
I'll miss her of course, she was my best friend, I was able to tell her anything, and likewise her (although I'm doubting that a bit now). I'll always love her and her daughter, and miss them both dearly, but, this is the best thing. I didn't apply for a couple of jobs I wished I had due to her.
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