Match.com (Volume 5)
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mattuk89 said:
Chrisgr31 said:
mattuk89 said:
Had never spoken to them before, it was literally the first message I sent to them, I usually send them to girls just outside of my home town, just in case they get really offended, and I bump into them down town or something, this has happened before! Haha
We dont know if any would have followed through with actions though do we? Possibly those replying were replying as a joke. What we need to know is whether any deliver and if so long the converstation is until they do.mattuk89 said:
mattuk89 said:
Chrisgr31 said:
mattuk89 said:
Had never spoken to them before, it was literally the first message I sent to them, I usually send them to girls just outside of my home town, just in case they get really offended, and I bump into them down town or something, this has happened before! Haha
We dont know if any would have followed through with actions though do we? Possibly those replying were replying as a joke. What we need to know is whether any deliver and if so long the converstation is until they do.
clonmult said:
Due to being at work (and a very "politically correct" company), a suggestion of "meeting up friday and smashing in her backdoor" would probably be frowned on.
Why would it ever not be frowned upon, PC-company or not?I know some are claiming success with cheeky messages, but show - and have - some respect FFS.
CharlesdeGaulle said:
Why would it ever not be frowned upon, PC-company or not?
I know some are claiming success with cheeky messages, but show - and have - some respect FFS.
Totally agree there. Once I've exchanged pleasantries, initial gentlemanly flirting will ensue.I know some are claiming success with cheeky messages, but show - and have - some respect FFS.
If I sense a connection, then, yes filth will follow but I do feel politeness and manners should still rule.
The ladies I've met love the fact I don't swear, am smart, turn up on time, open doors etc.
If a woman expected anything less she wouldn't be for me.
Thankyou4calling said:
Totally agree there. Once I've exchanged pleasantries, initial gentlemanly flirting will ensue.
If I sense a connection, then, yes filth will follow but I do feel politeness and manners should still rule.
The ladies I've met love the fact I don't swear, am smart, turn up on time, open doors etc.
If a woman expected anything less she wouldn't be for me.
And yet despite all the love, here you are on an Internet forum giving advice about your online dating. If I sense a connection, then, yes filth will follow but I do feel politeness and manners should still rule.
The ladies I've met love the fact I don't swear, am smart, turn up on time, open doors etc.
If a woman expected anything less she wouldn't be for me.
CharlesdeGaulle said:
clonmult said:
Due to being at work (and a very "politically correct" company), a suggestion of "meeting up friday and smashing in her backdoor" would probably be frowned on.
Why would it ever not be frowned upon, PC-company or not?I know some are claiming success with cheeky messages, but show - and have - some respect FFS.
Will just have to suggest a quiet morning meeting at our Starbucks ....
Thankyou4calling said:
Totally agree there. Once I've exchanged pleasantries, initial gentlemanly flirting will ensue.
If I sense a connection, then, yes filth will follow but I do feel politeness and manners should still rule.
The ladies I've met love the fact I don't swear, am smart, turn up on time, open doors etc.
If a woman expected anything less she wouldn't be for me.
Politeness, courtesy, respect & manners and a mucky mind with naughty intent are not a mutually exclusive set of behaviours. It's perfectly possible - and necessary in my view - to strike a good balance between the two in communications, else forever consign yourself to the friendzone.If I sense a connection, then, yes filth will follow but I do feel politeness and manners should still rule.
The ladies I've met love the fact I don't swear, am smart, turn up on time, open doors etc.
If a woman expected anything less she wouldn't be for me.
As much as many men seem to want a w
e in the sheets and a lady in the streets, they tend to want the same in us too. Being all of one or the other is just one-dimensional and tedious. Zwolf said:
Politeness, courtesy, respect & manners and a mucky mind with naughty intent are not a mutually exclusive set of behaviours.
Many women seem to find the qualities at the beginning of the sentence enhance those at the end. As you say, the combo is the key. Focus too much on one and lose the other.CharlesdeGaulle said:
Zwolf said:
Politeness, courtesy, respect & manners and a mucky mind with naughty intent are not a mutually exclusive set of behaviours.
Many women seem to find the qualities at the beginning of the sentence enhance those at the end. As you say, the combo is the key. Focus too much on one and lose the other.Combo-win
MattUk! You are a genius.
After years of polite messages, trying to see sommat in their photos to talk about, trying to be clever etc I got a match yesterday with a good looking lass, 43, I'm 51, who said in her profile that she was not looking for a one night stand.
I just said fancy a pint and some chips after but sex is off the menu as I can be patient (OK not as rude but brash for me) and she came back laughing and chatty and this was only yesterday.
After years of polite messages, trying to see sommat in their photos to talk about, trying to be clever etc I got a match yesterday with a good looking lass, 43, I'm 51, who said in her profile that she was not looking for a one night stand.
I just said fancy a pint and some chips after but sex is off the menu as I can be patient (OK not as rude but brash for me) and she came back laughing and chatty and this was only yesterday.
croyde said:
MattUk! You are a genius.
After years of polite messages, trying to see sommat in their photos to talk about, trying to be clever etc I got a match yesterday with a good looking lass, 43, I'm 51, who said in her profile that she was not looking for a one night stand.
I just said fancy a pint and some chips after but sex is off the menu as I can be patient (OK not as rude but brash for me) and she came back laughing and chatty and this was only yesterday.
Glad I could help, the thing is this approach actually works, you will get negative replies, but I find all I have to say is something along the lines of " Haha chill out, this was just an opening message to get you to reply, lets be honest if I said hi, how are you, would you of replied?" To which they will reply again, and you can get the conversation started from there, and judge on their replies how flirty/dirty to be.. At the end of the day woman love sex just as much as men, they are just more conservative! Thats why I laugh at the people who say you should be nicer and show more respect. Gotta rememember the good looking ones get 100s of messages a day, you need to stand out.After years of polite messages, trying to see sommat in their photos to talk about, trying to be clever etc I got a match yesterday with a good looking lass, 43, I'm 51, who said in her profile that she was not looking for a one night stand.
I just said fancy a pint and some chips after but sex is off the menu as I can be patient (OK not as rude but brash for me) and she came back laughing and chatty and this was only yesterday.
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