Match.com (Volume 5)
Discussion
Fotic said:
I guess I just see the situation very differently to you. In my office there are ten young males and most of them are elbows deep most weekends. The one internet dater among them would be laughed out of the room if he tried to advise on pulling like you are.
You know the guys in your office way better than me of course, but I'd take a guess that a good number are using the internet to get dates either through a dedicated site such as EH, POFISH, Match or Facebook, Twitter. It's how people do it. They don't always admit it as there is still a stigma, many think dating websites are full of saddos and people who can't pull in a bar. The reality is sooooooo different. I dated a model off EH and I mean a proper model, a singer who is extremely well known and another who was latter stages of a very well known talent show, all stunning all on internet dating sites to meet a partner. As I said my current is gorgeous, great job, fantastic personality. By the time we met it was as if we'd known each other for some time as I'd read about her, texted, talked etc. it fast tracks you to the next level and you meet way more than by trad means. Your office colleagues are probably well versed and using the sites daily.mattuk89 said:
Haha, im sorry Casanova! Didn't realise you were some internet dating guru, unfortunately for you, my crude messages have probably led to more dates, than you have had replies.
Please, no more 'haha' posts. It makes me feel violent and I live near children, cute dogs/cats and the elderly.
Council Baby said:
NRS said:
EFA going by your earlier posts on this subject CB! 
On a more negative side I've run out of women to message around me,
Still will meet up with the girl I have met before, but it's obviously not going to be anything serious. She'll also be away for the next few months anyway. I think I need to move somewhere with people!
Nope, not a clue, doesn't matter, she's past casual status and still no signs of crazy behaviour to report.On a more negative side I've run out of women to message around me,
Still will meet up with the girl I have met before, but it's obviously not going to be anything serious. She'll also be away for the next few months anyway. I think I need to move somewhere with people!You could try men, it's a whole new market place.
I spoke too soon! Got home after work and there's a new girl just popped up (think that's around 3 now in the last few weeks within a few hundred km). Nursery school teacher. So able to delay looking for men for the moment,
Real life.
Go into a bar and see how you get on with the handful of single girls in there too.
Tinder.
Go into a bar and meet the girl you have already exchanged a big of flirty banter with from a selection of thousands.
The reason internet dating is no longer seen as weird is because it's clearly a better way!
Every time I went to a bar (when I was in my single state) it was to meet someone a) hot b) who fancied me c) who I'd chatted with and d) who'd be waiting for me. What beats that????
Go into a bar and see how you get on with the handful of single girls in there too.
Tinder.
Go into a bar and meet the girl you have already exchanged a big of flirty banter with from a selection of thousands.
The reason internet dating is no longer seen as weird is because it's clearly a better way!
Every time I went to a bar (when I was in my single state) it was to meet someone a) hot b) who fancied me c) who I'd chatted with and d) who'd be waiting for me. What beats that????
Well the results of my little experiment conclude that in the main whatever method you try on POF you are throwing your bait into a pool of singles that are just not that hungry for your worm if you are one of those guys who likes to sit in his tent for days on end waiting for that tug on your line then so be it, but the minority of decent ones that fancy a nibble on there are bloody hard to winkle out, even if you have a bit of caviar on the hook, well apart from the blinky the 3 eyed fish type, they cannot get enough supper.
Far easier on Match and Tinder, the sheer numbers of blokes bombarding the girls on POF means they seem to just switch off.
All looked at my profile after they had read the message, so they were hardly traumatised by it, one blocked me, some responded, all have now moved onto the next 25 messages they have since received! oh and will still be single months later and moaning about it
if you are one of those guys who likes to sit in his tent for days on end waiting for that tug on your line then so be it, but the minority of decent ones that fancy a nibble on there are bloody hard to winkle out, even if you have a bit of caviar on the hook, well apart from the blinky the 3 eyed fish type, they cannot get enough supper.Far easier on Match and Tinder, the sheer numbers of blokes bombarding the girls on POF means they seem to just switch off.
All looked at my profile after they had read the message, so they were hardly traumatised by it, one blocked me, some responded, all have now moved onto the next 25 messages they have since received! oh and will still be single months later and moaning about it
Edited by PAUL500 on Wednesday 14th May 20:23
king?"Thankyou4calling said:
GloverMart said:
Well I've just off my first direct type message to a woman of 48 who likes "flirting, kissing and cuddling". Have to be in with a reasonable chance of a positive response, I reckon.
Send her a poem :-) she will love it!Mobile Chicane said:
GloverMart said:
Well I've just off my first direct type message to a woman of 48 who likes "flirting, kissing and cuddling". Have to be in with a reasonable chance of a positive response, I reckon.
What did you say?If you're up for a nice pub meal and the chance of being ravished over a car bonnet afterwards, get in touch."
GloverMart said:
Mobile Chicane said:
GloverMart said:
Well I've just off my first direct type message to a woman of 48 who likes "flirting, kissing and cuddling". Have to be in with a reasonable chance of a positive response, I reckon.
What did you say?If you're up for a nice pub meal and the chance of being ravished over a car bonnet afterwards, get in touch."
moleamol said:
GloverMart said:
Mobile Chicane said:
GloverMart said:
Well I've just off my first direct type message to a woman of 48 who likes "flirting, kissing and cuddling". Have to be in with a reasonable chance of a positive response, I reckon.
What did you say?If you're up for a nice pub meal and the chance of being ravished over a car bonnet afterwards, get in touch."
GloverMart said:
moleamol said:
GloverMart said:
Mobile Chicane said:
GloverMart said:
Well I've just off my first direct type message to a woman of 48 who likes "flirting, kissing and cuddling". Have to be in with a reasonable chance of a positive response, I reckon.
What did you say?If you're up for a nice pub meal and the chance of being ravished over a car bonnet afterwards, get in touch."
Quick question to the regular daters on match, and it specifically seems to be match.
This is becoming a common theme for me on there:-
Newish professional female users, say 3 weeks into a month subscription, I get them chatting (unlike anyone else has managed to do on there it would seem)
We have an evening meet up, goes swimmingly, often a bit of a smooch in the carpark on the way out, so the green light is there, the next day they agree to meet again, seem keen in between with texts etc, then on the day or the evening before suddenly go cold, say they are not into dating and vanish, profile also vanishes never to be seen again.
and no they are not all under my patio! and I dont think I have been beaten to the goal by another guy.
Is this a match thing, ie the type of females it attracts i.e dip there toe into dating then panic?
With tinder it seems to happen even earlier, I get them chatting over a few days they seem keen, I mention a met up and bang, never heard from again.
I guess each method attracts a certain level of dater, with tinder its easy to do, they don't have to make much effort and then just back off when it becomes real, and with match they travel that bit further down the road before flapping
and with pof its the fruitcakes so a free for all!
Or is it just my magnetic personality
This is becoming a common theme for me on there:-
Newish professional female users, say 3 weeks into a month subscription, I get them chatting (unlike anyone else has managed to do on there it would seem)
We have an evening meet up, goes swimmingly, often a bit of a smooch in the carpark on the way out, so the green light is there, the next day they agree to meet again, seem keen in between with texts etc, then on the day or the evening before suddenly go cold, say they are not into dating and vanish, profile also vanishes never to be seen again.
and no they are not all under my patio! and I dont think I have been beaten to the goal by another guy.
Is this a match thing, ie the type of females it attracts i.e dip there toe into dating then panic?
With tinder it seems to happen even earlier, I get them chatting over a few days they seem keen, I mention a met up and bang, never heard from again.
I guess each method attracts a certain level of dater, with tinder its easy to do, they don't have to make much effort and then just back off when it becomes real, and with match they travel that bit further down the road before flapping
and with pof its the fruitcakes so a free for all!
Or is it just my magnetic personality
Edited by PAUL500 on Thursday 15th May 08:30
The free dating sites ALL have a number women who are just there to seek attention and make themselves feel wanted, no intention of meeting anyone and probably not even available to.
Can't comment on match, never used a paid for site, but your answer is to bang them on the first date, surely
Can't comment on match, never used a paid for site, but your answer is to bang them on the first date, surely
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