Match.com (Volume 5)

[Ki3r]

Ps can you sum up what Matt did?

[Blown2CV]

Ki3r said:

Boydie88 said:

You are a mong. They weren't your best friend if it is over like that - if they really were, I feel sorry for you.

Never face palmed so much since the days that Matt chap was on this thread.

That's the thing that annoys me. I was there for her when her step dad killed himself, I've been there when her family have treated her like st. Everything I've done has been for the best for her and her daughter.

Stupidly or not, I didn't apply for my dream job because it would mean moving away from them (and family, which I'm not too keen to do).

I've made one mistake (ok so it was a big one), and it's the end of what was a good friendship.

I've got a couple of busy days coming up, overtime with work today until 2300, then hopefully a busy shift tomorrow with my other job. But going to stick my phone in my locker and leave it there until I finish, then work on Friday is always busy. Saturday I'm going to see if I can meet up with another friend who I haven't seen for a while.

Funny thing is, whenever she meets someone new she pushes me out a little, never this much. Knowing her as well as I do, the relationship will fail, she'll come crawling back (making it seem all my fault, she's good at that!). This time though I don't know if I'm going to be there for her.

This person is not your friend. Or your girlfriend. If you're looking for advice then it will universally be to delete them from your life. I'm hoping you're not looking for support and validation instead though, as the internet is the worst place to look for that. That's the diplomatic answer.

[Fotic]

Ki3r said:

Boydie88 said:

You are a mong. They weren't your best friend if it is over like that - if they really were, I feel sorry for you.

Never face palmed so much since the days that Matt chap was on this thread.

That's the thing that annoys me. I was there for her when her step dad killed himself, I've been there when her family have treated her like st. Everything I've done has been for the best for her and her daughter.

Stupidly or not, I didn't apply for my dream job because it would mean moving away from them (and family, which I'm not too keen to do).

I've made one mistake (ok so it was a big one), and it's the end of what was a good friendship.

I've got a couple of busy days coming up, overtime with work today until 2300, then hopefully a busy shift tomorrow with my other job. But going to stick my phone in my locker and leave it there until I finish, then work on Friday is always busy. Saturday I'm going to see if I can meet up with another friend who I haven't seen for a while.

Funny thing is, whenever she meets someone new she pushes me out a little, never this much. Knowing her as well as I do, the relationship will fail, she'll come crawling back (making it seem all my fault, she's good at that!). This time though I don't know if I'm going to be there for her.

So you've been trying to shag her for ages and are willing to be treated like a doormat in the process and now you've done something, probably mundane/council, and she's fked you off.

Grow up.

[Ki3r]

Fotic said:

So you've been trying to shag her for ages and are willing to be treated like a doormat in the process and now you've done something, probably mundane/council, and she's fked you off.

Grow up.

Not trying, we have shagged a few times, including when she was seeing this girl. Up until last week we used to sleep in the same bed whenever I was up (nothing happened, but she lied to her girlfriend and said I was on the sofa).

I know I'm unlikely to get advice from here (other than fk her off), but putting it down makes me see it from the outside?

I know what I need to do. I have for a while.

Am I just attracted to s?

[fido]

Ki3r said:

Am I just attracted to s?

It appears so.

[Fotic]

Ki3r said:

Fotic said:

So you've been trying to shag her for ages and are willing to be treated like a doormat in the process and now you've done something, probably mundane/council, and she's fked you off.

Grow up.

Not trying, we have shagged a few times, including when she was seeing this girl. Up until last week we used to sleep in the same bed whenever I was up (nothing happened, but she lied to her girlfriend and said I was on the sofa).

I know I'm unlikely to get advice from here (other than fk her off), but putting it down makes me see it from the outside?

I know what I need to do. I have for a while.

Am I just attracted to s?

I think you're probably in a completely different demograph to me but it all just sounds so awful and sordid and desperate.

[Adenauer]

Ki3r said:

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she'll come crawling back

You're delusional and trying to sound big, you should stop it as it's actually making you sound like an utter tosspot.

HTH.

[Justayellowbadge]

I was always taught 'Don't kick a man when he's down', 'If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything' and 'Don't bother with tts on the internet' so I'll just say this:

[Adenauer]

Justayellowbadge said:

I was always taught 'Don't kick a man when he's down', 'If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything' and 'Don't bother with tts on the internet' so I'll just say this:

May I ask how long you have been waiting to use that?

[Sowler]

Ki3r said:

That's the thing that annoys me. I was there for her when her step dad killed himself, I've been there when her family have treated her like st. Everything I've done has been for the best for her and her daughter.

Stupidly or not, I didn't apply for my dream job because it would mean moving away from them (and family, which I'm not too keen to do).

I've made one mistake (ok so it was a big one), and it's the end of what was a good friendship.

I've got a couple of busy days coming up, overtime with work today until 2300, then hopefully a busy shift tomorrow with my other job. But going to stick my phone in my locker and leave it there until I finish, then work on Friday is always busy. Saturday I'm going to see if I can meet up with another friend who I haven't seen for a while.

Funny thing is, whenever she meets someone new she pushes me out a little, never this much. Knowing her as well as I do, the relationship will fail, she'll come crawling back (making it seem all my fault, she's good at that!). This time though I don't know if I'm going to be there for her.

Let me get this straight,

Your best friend is a bisexual/lesbian (You choose) with a kid who's step dad killed himself and you've shagged. The other friend you have mentioned is also an ex of yours who also has a kid and has serious mental health issues.

I think you need to get some male friends who have a few less issues and enjoy life a little. You're making life hard for yourself.

[anonymous-user]

Sowler said:

Let me get this straight,

Your best friend is a bisexual/lesbian (You choose) with a kid who's step dad killed himself and you've shagged. The other friend you have mentioned is also an ex of yours who also has a kid and has serious mental health issues.

I think you need to get some male friends who have a few less issues and enjoy life a little. You're making life hard for yourself.

Sounds about right, you may have missed the part where he went to and from the ex for a while, each time getting dropped a new guy showed up and swore he wouldn't return

Trying to put this as politely as I can if Ki3r were a car crash I suspect it would be a Corsa C

[Foxeh]

Sowler said:

The other friend you have mentioned is also an ex of yours who also has a kid and has serious mental health issues.

I have a sneaking suspicion that she wasn't the mental one, when they were together...

Edited by Foxeh on Wednesday 30th July 14:46

[Ki3r]

anonymous said:

[redacted]

Sounds about right! Yes I'm an idiot, but when someone is willing to sleep with you, most people only see the good.

Needless to say, I've had my eyes open this week (to be fair the last few months I've just not wanted to admit it).

Moving onwards.

[spikeyhead]

Ki3r said:

Sounds about right! Yes I'm an idiot, but when someone is willing to sleep with you, most people only see the good.

Most take the action anyway and leave them to sleep in the wet patch as we wander home content, knowing that a new SIM is only £10 and we weren't stupid enough to have crapped on our own doorstep.

[trackdemon]

Ki3r said:

Yes I'm an idiot, but when someone is willing to sleep with you, most people only see the good.

Sounds like you have some self esteem issues pal, I'd concentrate on that or you'll spend your life bowing down to tts who treat you like st.

[anonymous-user]

trackdemon said:

Sounds like you have some self esteem issues pal, I'd concentrate on that or you'll spend your life bowing down to tts who treat you like st.

I am hoping he is young (early twenties) then its a tad more understandable

The thing is Ki3r everyone makes mistakes, we have all done it, the difference is learning from those mistakes, people on here have given you advice, you have then gone quiet only resurfacing when you mess things up again, why should people bother?

[Ki3r]

trackdemon said:

Sounds like you have some self esteem issues pal, I'd concentrate on that or you'll spend your life bowing down to tts who treat you like st.

Very low self esteem, no confidence at times, very possibly undiagonsed autism. Thing is my best friend made me feel like I was someone. She made me enjoy life again.

She used to tell me how she hated how controlling her ex was, but I've now seen just how controlling she is.

Thing is she is going to push everyone away from her and her daughters life is she isn't careful. This girlfriend will see what she's like and run a mile. She'll then be left with nothing, her family are st and walk all over her (so I guess she is used to it, and thinks it's normal to treat people like this).

[ali_kat]

Ki3r said:

Sounds about right! Yes I'm an idiot, but when someone is willing to sleep with you, most people only see the good.

Needless to say, I've had my eyes open this week (to be fair the last few months I've just not wanted to admit it).

Moving onwards.

So, instead of coming on here and asking for advice & then going off and doing the complete opposite of that advice, can you please start listening?

'cause if you listened you'd still have your so called best mate

However, she sounds like a lovely piece of work (just like the other one! I'm still not convinced that they aren't one & the same; they are VERY alike in character & lives if they are) and you are much better off without her.

Now go & find a friend that is male, that you don't fk so you can't fk it up

[anonymous-user]

Ki3r said:

Very low self esteem, no confidence at times, very possibly undiagonsed autism.

Take sex out of it, join a club and get a hobby, get relaxed around people in that way and your confidence will grow, do not pull anyone from there, keep hobbies and friends seperate from love life

Ki3r said:

She used to tell me how she hated how controlling her ex was, but I've now seen just how controlling she is.

Emotional bullst so that you would be a doormat at her beck and call for fear of being labelled the same

Ki3r said:

Thing is she is going to push everyone away from her and her daughters life is she isn't careful. This girlfriend will see what she's like and run a mile. She'll then be left with nothing, her family are st and walk all over her (so I guess she is used to it, and thinks it's normal to treat people like this).

Not your problem, she isn't your friend in actuality if she is treating you badly, she sounds like an attention we who will take it from any man, woman or beast who is stupid enough to give it, walk away. Are her family really st? Or is this what she has told you, someones family knows them better than anyone else, if they cannot be arsed with her bullst it should be a huge hint to you


You need some new friends, less pressure on yourself (i.e. not trying to pull them) which will allow you to relax and make genuine friendships

I fully expect you to be back here in a month bemoaning this 'friend' again but at least I tried (again)

[Ki3r]

I can hand on heart say they aren't the same person.

Her family truly are st. I've seen it first hand. Calling her a st parent in front of everyone (she isn't at all, many things but not a st mum, all because she wouldn't let her daughter have a cookie 10 minutes before her dinner, it wasn't even said in a jokey way).

But not my problem now. I deserve better. More to life than a wet hole.