Match.com (Volume 5)
Discussion
Ki3r said:
I can hand on heart say they aren't the same person.
Her family truly are s
t. I've seen it first hand. Calling her a st parent in front of everyone (she isn't at all, many things but not a st mum, all because she wouldn't let her daughter have a cookie 10 minutes before her dinner, it wasn't even said in a jokey way).
But not my problem now. I deserve better. More to life than a wet hole.
Yes, yes there is. Buy a bicycle, get out and see the countryside and meet some new people...Her family truly are s
t. I've seen it first hand. Calling her a st parent in front of everyone (she isn't at all, many things but not a st mum, all because she wouldn't let her daughter have a cookie 10 minutes before her dinner, it wasn't even said in a jokey way). But not my problem now. I deserve better. More to life than a wet hole.
Going to see if I can get some time off work and take my bike around the uk for a bit.
Only said wet hole as that's what a friend said not long ago. She was (is?) my best friend, it's going to take a while to get out of the habit of calling her that.
What I do find strange is she's deleted/blocked me off Facebook, but left my mum on there...
Only said wet hole as that's what a friend said not long ago. She was (is?) my best friend, it's going to take a while to get out of the habit of calling her that.
What I do find strange is she's deleted/blocked me off Facebook, but left my mum on there...
Ki3r said:
Very low self esteem, no confidence at times, very possibly undiagonsed autism. Thing is my best friend made me feel like I was someone. She made me enjoy life again.
Join a cycling club/rowing club or summat - meet other people that really will boost your confidence in an honest way.No, she let you put your cock in her.
What did she get out of it? Food, drinks, drugs(?), clothes, babysitter, taxi service etc
Ki3r said:
She used to tell me how she hated how controlling her ex was, but I've now seen just how controlling she is.
Thing is she is going to push everyone away from her and her daughters life is she isn't careful. This girlfriend will see what she's like and run a mile. She'll then be left with nothing, her family are st and walk all over her (so I guess she is used to it, and thinks it's normal to treat people like this).
Treat others how you wish to be treated yourself; aka you reap what you sow; aka karma's a bThing is she is going to push everyone away from her and her daughters life is she isn't careful. This girlfriend will see what she's like and run a mile. She'll then be left with nothing, her family are s
t and walk all over her (so I guess she is used to it, and thinks it's normal to treat people like this). h Sorry, I'm just being brutally honest & calling spades, spades today!
ali_kat said:
Ki3r said:
What I do find strange is she's deleted/blocked me off Facebook, but left my mum on there...
More evidence of her being controllingShe thinks your Mum will feed to you what she is up to. Get your Mum to block her
Ki3r, you need to separate you sex/love life from your friends. Normal people don't just have sex with their friends 'just because they can'. It should be something between two people that actually fancy each other. And if you do like them sexually then they are more than just friends, and that's why it's getting messy.
Are you friends with these women because you fancy them, or do you fancy them because you are friends with them? Trying to befriend a woman that you fancy is never going to work out well, you'll just get used as a doormat every time. And if they felt the same way about you, you'd be more than just friends before now.
Perhaps you need some more male friends (unless you're bi, in which case you should just become a loner until you stop falling for your friends).
Are you friends with these women because you fancy them, or do you fancy them because you are friends with them? Trying to befriend a woman that you fancy is never going to work out well, you'll just get used as a doormat every time. And if they felt the same way about you, you'd be more than just friends before now.
Perhaps you need some more male friends (unless you're bi, in which case you should just become a loner until you stop falling for your friends).
Kaj91 said:
TedMaul said:
So we've had plenty of 'mound of the hound of the Baskervilles', so how about some that seem too good to be true?
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=640...
A reverse image search should tell you all you need to know about this particular profile. N.B. NSFW.http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=640...
I assume that everyone does the same, but it seems not.
Ki3r, sounds like the main thing you need to sort out is your self confidence really. That, and the "over caring" for the other person. Having been somewhat like yourself previously some things need sorted out in a different way. It'll just mess up your own life if you let them treat you like this. It can just take some time to realise, and I guess some people never do. Everyone deserves better than this, even if you don't feel like it. Just block her number etc, as you know you will just run back to her when she calls. Don't get tempeted down the line of "I'll be ok this time if I go and speak to her" - you won't, you'll just become her bh again, and it's not good for you.
In regards to caring for them as a friend - sometimes the problem can be from someone supporting them and always being there to complain about what other people have done. She's obviouly self-centred after she's blocked you after the stuff you have done. So it can be better to just move on for both of you - who knows, she might realise what her behaviour is like and start getting herself sorted out more.
h again, and it's not good for you.In regards to caring for them as a friend - sometimes the problem can be from someone supporting them and always being there to complain about what other people have done. She's obviouly self-centred after she's blocked you after the stuff you have done. So it can be better to just move on for both of you - who knows, she might realise what her behaviour is like and start getting herself sorted out more.
cupofbeans said:
The texts were getting hotter and hotter and we ended up doing things in my car in broad daylight in a beach carpark. 
So basically you're saying you went dogging? :PTedMaul said:
tineye didn't help, maybe I did something wrong, so who is she in realty and no, she didnt reply lol
She's either a hooker, an amateur porn actress, or has an ex with a grudge and a phone full of dirty pictures. Or a combination of all three. Or a 50-somthing bloke with BO and a beer belly/Nigerian scammer on a fishing trip with borrowed photo's.Either way, probably a perfect match for half the PHers on this thread!
mjb1 said:
Ki3r, you need to separate you sex/love life from your friends. Normal people don't just have sex with their friends 'just because they can'. It should be something between two people that actually fancy each other. And if you do like them sexually then they are more than just friends, and that's why it's getting messy.
Are you friends with these women because you fancy them, or do you fancy them because you are friends with them? Trying to befriend a woman that you fancy is never going to work out well, you'll just get used as a doormat every time. And if they felt the same way about you, you'd be more than just friends before now.
Perhaps you need some more male friends (unless you're bi, in which case you should just become a loner until you stop falling for your friends).
We both said it was more than friendship. A few weeks ago she told me how she was talking to her mum and her mum said how she thought we would end up together, she agreed (while she was still seeing this girl mind you). Now I don't know if she meant it, or if it was to keep me hanging on. I'm thinking hanging in. Are you friends with these women because you fancy them, or do you fancy them because you are friends with them? Trying to befriend a woman that you fancy is never going to work out well, you'll just get used as a doormat every time. And if they felt the same way about you, you'd be more than just friends before now.
Perhaps you need some more male friends (unless you're bi, in which case you should just become a loner until you stop falling for your friends).
NRS said:
So basically you're saying you went dogging? :P
That's the bit that hurts the most. I was the only one helping her this year, there has been a lot more than her step dad killing himself, no one else offered to help like I did. The fact she can just delete me from her life so quickly is the worst thing. But, I've seen her true colours now. If she is like she normally is with people (mainly her daughters dad), she'll text me in a few days, be all nice and pretend nothing has happened.
Not going to lie, it's going to be hard, but I'm going to ignore it (name has been changed to ignore in my phone, not deleting it as I want to know if she is phoning so I can ignore it).
Dr Murdoch said:
WinstonWolf said:
Yes, yes there is. Buy a bicycle, get out and see the countryside and meet some new people...
+1Environmentally friendly dogging is the way forwards
Bonnets are waaaay easier!
I think poor ki3r has tried to do the decent thing with both his mad women but has been totally
struck, not seeing the bad in them or the oncoming st storms!Either join a club as has been suggested & get away from women for a while,or go the opposite way,join AFF/Fab & get all the shagging out of your system so you can find a TedMaul said:
tineye didn't help, maybe I did something wrong, so who is she in realty and no, she didnt reply lol
Copy the image url, go to google images, in the address bar at the top you will see a camera. Put the url in there and stand back.(She's slightly mucky, isn't she? Not unattractive with it though).
Ki3r said:
That's the bit that hurts the most. I was the only one helping her this year, there has been a lot more than her step dad killing himself, no one else offered to help like I did. The fact she can just delete me from her life so quickly is the worst thing.
But, I've seen her true colours now. If she is like she normally is with people (mainly her daughters dad), she'll text me in a few days, be all nice and pretend nothing has happened.
Not going to lie, it's going to be hard, but I'm going to ignore it (name has been changed to ignore in my phone, not deleting it as I want to know if she is phoning so I can ignore it).
(The dogging comment was about someone else's earlier post).But, I've seen her true colours now. If she is like she normally is with people (mainly her daughters dad), she'll text me in a few days, be all nice and pretend nothing has happened.
Not going to lie, it's going to be hard, but I'm going to ignore it (name has been changed to ignore in my phone, not deleting it as I want to know if she is phoning so I can ignore it).
She hasn't deleted you from her life. That's what this sort of person is like. Act extreme and then will come back to you, begging to fix things - say she was in a difficult place at the time, you're right, you're always there for her etc.
Problem is you knew her true colours anyway it seems, just you don't care about yourself enough to prioritise her not walking over you. It's quite simple - you won't ignore the calls, and at some point you will start chatting, thinking "maybe this time" and so on. You have to make a break to move on, you can't learn self respect for yourself when you have this going on.
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