Match.com (Volume 5)

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Chunkymonkey71 said:

Dan_1981 said:

I thought Johnny and another PHer were in some sort of long term thing?

ChemicalChaos?

Apart from a single humiliating incident in a tent during a furry convention, I don't think he has ever been in any kind of thing.

[mjb1]

ali_kat said:

GloverMart said:

Kier, read and understand. This is how you do it.

Kier, no, it isn't

It's how you get a cheap fk

It'd still be a bit of a step in the right direction compared to the very expensive fks he's been getting (in terms of baggage).

[smack]

Dan_1981 said:

I thought Johnny and another PHer were in some sort of long term thing?

I was in the same boat, long term with a PHer, and Johnny my best advice is checkout of being online, as I am 100% sure you both are watching what each other is up to and saying. It is not healthy and no good can come from it.

And go off and do something for yourself to get your mind off things and sort yourself out.

[drivin_me_nuts]

mjb1 said:

ali_kat said:

GloverMart said:

Kier, read and understand. This is how you do it.

Kier, no, it isn't

It's how you get a cheap fk

It'd still be a bit of a step in the right direction compared to the very expensive fks he's been getting (in terms of baggage).

... And a bargain bucket of damaged goods.

[Council Baby]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qHQWlFtSptU#t=11

Sage advice here lads.

[soad]

Council Baby said:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qHQWlFtSptU#t=11

Sage advice here lads.

Unicorn Zone?!

[stewies_minion]

You're talking to a dude.

Funny chap.

[Tiggsy]

summary - married 20 years, divorced at 40, hit tinder, spent 6 months with stunning hot girl....so far so good. My lack of experience in dating was a non-issue and it actually turns out being married a long time (and happy for most of it) sets you up to know exactly how to keep things ticking over nicely.....

....so its (almost) amusing that my inexperience is starting to show only because I may not be as good as spotting early signs of bat st mental as some of you guys

[IanMorewood]

Oh gosh she's not harvested your body parts overnight?

[Ki3r]

Well I've heard from her, got a text last night. I had given her mum a text on Monday about collecting the last of my things.

It's quite funny how she still can't see how badly she has treated me, yes I was an idiot as well, but she refuses to believe that she has been a towards me. Her loss.

Collecting my things from her mums tomorrow, then there is no need for us to ever speak again.

Was rather funny, into Dear Derdrie today there's someone saying they are in love with their best friend, she keeps blowing hot and cold, when he has a girlfriend she wants him, then changes her mind. Sounds very similar lol.

[soad]

Ki3r said:

Was rather funny, into Dear Derdrie today there's someone saying they are in love with their best friend, she keeps blowing hot and cold, when he has a girlfriend she wants him, then changes her mind. Sounds very similar lol.

Gosh, you do amuse me!

[anonymous-user]

soad said:

Ki3r said:

Was rather funny, into Dear Derdrie today there's someone saying they are in love with their best friend, she keeps blowing hot and cold, when he has a girlfriend she wants him, then changes her mind. Sounds very similar lol.

Gosh, you do amuse me!

Ki3r reads the Sun, well knock me down with a feather, my money was on the Guardian

[Ki3r]

I think of it as doing a public service for everyone. Making mistakes so you don't have to.

At least that's how I'm selling it to myself .

[Some Gump]

anonymous said:

[redacted]

I had him down as more of a "sunday sport" kind of guy

[Xtriple129]

I don't know if this is the right place to put this, but any advice you guys and girls can give would be most welcome.

I'm 55 so an old giffer and was happily married to my best mate who also happens to be a stunner for 13 years, we were mates for 8 years before that so knew each other really well. Anyway, she had two daughters and the older one was 4 when she moved in and a proper little bh (the other one is lovely and I really miss her) who only got worse as the years went on. We ended up hating each other (daughter and myself that is) and the daughter issued the ultimatum - 'him or me!)

I lost, predictably.

Now a year on, I still cannot move on. Still love my wife to bits, and every lady I meet gets compared unfavourably to her. I just don't want to be with anyone as more than friends but I do like female company, women are very different to men and it's fun (sometimes) to be involved in their thought processes...

I am apparently 'hot' don't look my age, and don't seem to have a lot of trouble getting ladies interested in real life but, I kill every relationship that starts to go beyond friendship (easy to do, just go on about how much you love and miss your wife - watch them run!) I do this quite deliberatly as I just cannot imagine having sex with someone other than my wife!

I'm getting old (got old?) and I really don't fancy being alone for the rest of my life, but if I think about 'dating' it just turns me right off. Can't face it, don't want to, can't bare the thought of being involved with someone...

I have no contact with my wife (we are only seperated, not divorced) - don't even know where she now lives, and I'm okay in myself now. Sort of resigned to my fate, ready to accept that I'm alone for good, but I really don't want to be... well, some part of me doesn't want to be alone, the other part runs screaming for the hills at the mere thought of being with someone else - it's a dilemma!

Personally, I've moved on with life, somewhere to live (grotty) money in the bank (dwindling) and feel healthier mentally than I have for years (physical health is not so great but bareable). Two dogs that give me companionship/something to worry about/get me out and about/talk to.

Anyone any advice on how to get on with your life when you've lost 'the love of your life'? I feel that anyone elses is going to be second best and not worth the effort.

[CharlesdeGaulle]

Blimey. Presumably the daughter is now around the age of 17, so any chance of her disappearing to uni or work any time soon? Once she's fled the nest might there be chance of a reconciliation?

However, if your wife upped and left - whatever the causes - one imagines she wasn't desperately happy with you, so are you remembering things differently from her? Do you really want her back after all this time or do you really need to move on but are finding it difficult?

Only you can decide. In any case, good luck.

[Vaud]

Christ.

How old was the daughter when she gave the ultimatum?

[Thankyou4calling]

Ki3r said:

Well I've heard from her, got a text last night. I had given her mum a text on Monday about collecting the last of my things.

It's quite funny how she still can't see how badly she has treated me, yes I was an idiot as well, but she refuses to believe that she has been a towards me. Her loss.

Collecting my things from her mums tomorrow, then there is no need for us to ever speak again.

Was rather funny, into Dear Derdrie today there's someone saying they are in love with their best friend, she keeps blowing hot and cold, when he has a girlfriend she wants him, then changes her mind. Sounds very similar lol.

But you WILL speak to her again, you know that.

[NRS]

Xtriple129 said:

I don't know if this is the right place to put this, but any advice you guys and girls can give would be most welcome.

I'm 55 so an old giffer and was happily married to my best mate who also happens to be a stunner for 13 years, we were mates for 8 years before that so knew each other really well. Anyway, she had two daughters and the older one was 4 when she moved in and a proper little bh (the other one is lovely and I really miss her) who only got worse as the years went on. We ended up hating each other (daughter and myself that is) and the daughter issued the ultimatum - 'him or me!)

I lost, predictably.

Now a year on, I still cannot move on. Still love my wife to bits, and every lady I meet gets compared unfavourably to her. I just don't want to be with anyone as more than friends but I do like female company, women are very different to men and it's fun (sometimes) to be involved in their thought processes...

I am apparently 'hot' don't look my age, and don't seem to have a lot of trouble getting ladies interested in real life but, I kill every relationship that starts to go beyond friendship (easy to do, just go on about how much you love and miss your wife - watch them run!) I do this quite deliberatly as I just cannot imagine having sex with someone other than my wife!

I'm getting old (got old?) and I really don't fancy being alone for the rest of my life, but if I think about 'dating' it just turns me right off. Can't face it, don't want to, can't bare the thought of being involved with someone...

I have no contact with my wife (we are only seperated, not divorced) - don't even know where she now lives, and I'm okay in myself now. Sort of resigned to my fate, ready to accept that I'm alone for good, but I really don't want to be... well, some part of me doesn't want to be alone, the other part runs screaming for the hills at the mere thought of being with someone else - it's a dilemma!

Personally, I've moved on with life, somewhere to live (grotty) money in the bank (dwindling) and feel healthier mentally than I have for years (physical health is not so great but bareable). Two dogs that give me companionship/something to worry about/get me out and about/talk to.

Anyone any advice on how to get on with your life when you've lost 'the love of your life'? I feel that anyone elses is going to be second best and not worth the effort.

The other question is that if you do meet someone else (although it sounds like not) then do you have a way of contacting the ex? Could be a problem since you're not divorced if you want to move on with someone else and can't contact the ex.. Is it worth taking up contact to discuss that and also see how things are? Perhaps she'll be ready to get together again if the daughter is moving out?

[andy-xr]

Ki3r said:

Well I've heard from her, got a text last night. I had given her mum a text on Monday about collecting the last of my things.

It's quite funny how she still can't see how badly she has treated me, yes I was an idiot as well, but she refuses to believe that she has been a towards me. Her loss.

Collecting my things from her mums tomorrow, then there is no need for us to ever speak again.

Was rather funny, into Dear Derdrie today there's someone saying they are in love with their best friend, she keeps blowing hot and cold, when he has a girlfriend she wants him, then changes her mind. Sounds very similar lol.

Someone, I think it were Tonker said stop dating patients. You really have to...you're coming over as a victim and it's not a good look. Break contact, dont buy into the BPD hate, move on and find your self worth. It's not been good viewing.

Xtriple129 said:

Anyone any advice on how to get on with your life when you've lost 'the love of your life'?

Not that you'd listen to right now, no, and I say that from being there myself.

It'd be completely on deaf ears because you'd hope beyond hope that things will work out. I think you need to get to the point where you either know or dont know. And that doesnt have to be a 'No' verbally, orally or anything. No reply is a response, it's just not the one you were hoping for.

You'll see a way to move on. Hopefully you can make your own choices rather than checking mentally against the ex wife as to who might be might not be good for you.