Has anyone used a private detective?

[Tony427]

mildmannered said:

I like this, almost poetic!

He may not think it now but when its all over, and he's in a proper, loving, normal relationship, he will indeed think himself lucky that his Ex did cause the whole unhealthy edifice to come crashing down.

He'll have two ( or more) lovely kids, a new lovely mrs, a totally normal love life and he'll find himself smiling and being inordinately happy all the time.

And then he'll think back and be amazed that he had such a fortunate escape.

I know I did.

Cheers,

Tony

[julian64]

How do you delete a thread from appearing in your recents? I only ask because this thread is driving me mad.

[Colonial]

julian64 said:

How do you delete a thread from appearing in your recents? I only ask because this thread is driving me mad.

Don't read it then.

Pretty memorable title. Even you should ne able to remember it.

[Devilstreak]

Tony427 said:

He may not think it now but when its all over, and he's in a proper, loving, normal relationship, he will indeed think himself lucky that his Ex did cause the whole unhealthy edifice to come crashing down.

He'll have two ( or more) lovely kids, a new lovely mrs, a totally normal love life and he'll find himself smiling and being inordinately happy all the time.

And then he'll think back and be amazed that he had such a fortunate escape.

I know I did.

Cheers,

Tony

Exactly this!

[BliarOut]

julian64 said:

How do you delete a thread from appearing in your recents? I only ask because this thread is driving me mad.

My Stuff > Press the x at the far right hand side...

[julian64]

BliarOut said:

julian64 said:

How do you delete a thread from appearing in your recents? I only ask because this thread is driving me mad.

My Stuff > Press the x at the far right hand side...

Thanks

[BlackVanDyke]

julian64 said:

How do you delete a thread from appearing in your recents? I only ask because this thread is driving me mad.

Click the grey X at the far right of the row on the 'My Stuff' (etc) page.

[SpeckledJim]

julian64 said:

BliarOut said:

julian64 said:

How do you delete a thread from appearing in your recents? I only ask because this thread is driving me mad.

My Stuff > Press the x at the far right hand side...

Thanks

You'll have to do it again now...

(don't thank me)

[A bit down]

Well, they are gone (yesterday). Most of the furniture has gone and the place seems like a shell with bare walls/spaces everywhere. I'm here by myself and for the first time I can remember, it's quiet.

I won't see the kids until Thursday when I pick them up from school, this is really upsetting me.

I know this outcome is for the best and I do feel like a cloud has been lifted without X around. I'll be seeing a lawyer next week and trying to keep busy at work for the next few days - difficult as all I can think about is the children.

I'm so sad it has come to this. Apart from the children, I feel like I have wasted 16 years.

Hopefully this is the start of much better times. Thanks again for the messages and support, it means a lot.

[Gene Vincent]

Decorate.

[Cyder]

Sounds awful, you have my sympathy. Where in the country are you ABD?

Find some local PHers and get out for a pint and a natter.

[Dixie68]

Make sure you get a financial separation. I didn't and it bit me in the arse when it finally came to the divorce.

[MissChief]

Gene Vincent said:

Decorate.

This is a very good idea. Helps to keep you busy and changes the house to 'yours' rather than 'hers and yours'. A new decor for a new start and if the ex sees it she'll think you really are moving on to new things.

Either that or find something to do with your spare time. Sitting in the house alone doing nothing will drive you crazy.

[RJJ]

Decorate, get into any sport you ever fancied, doing some exercise will help vent the frustration

Always remember you have this thread, to have a chat, & were all here for a fellow Pistonheader

[vonuber]

Turn half of the stairs into a super happy fun slide.

[Cyder]

vonuber said:

Turn half of the stairs into a super happy fun slide.

This ^

An invite us all round for a night of beer and sliding!

[Champhill]

Watched this from a while back. Chin up if you can and keep the focus on the kids and stay in touch/text whatever with them if X isn't monitoring. S**t this will be hard for them too. Remember, you're their DAD and NOTHING but NOTHING will change that. My OH lost her dad a few weeks ago, now I realise what being DAD really means to a son/daughter.

I now know whar it will mean for me when my old fella goes.......

Do not underestimate your importance, stay with it, you, as I have seen from this thread are decent and strong, keep going. The waist high trench of s**t you are wading through will be by your ankles soon.

You have my very best.

A Dad.

[Jasandjules]

Op it is hard right now but you will get past this. Soon it will be but a memory of a bad time and you will be in a better, happier place.

You took the hardest step by confronting her and what followed and whilst this seems difficult right now you know you are doing the right thing and you know it will improve soon.

I wish you all the best and know that you will soon be feeling much better.

[cardigankid]

It may seem bad just now but you are no longer living in a fraud. Many other people have been in your situation, me included. My advice is focus on the kids and make sure the time you spend with them is the best you can reasonably make it. As they get older they will repay all the effort you put in, with interest. The money is all but irrelevant. Try not to worry about it.

Best of luck.

[Oilchange]

Now, put a large V12 in your kitchen and start dismantling!


Seriously though, difficult times but I hope they pass and things settle for you.