Hello PH super sleuths. I have a mission for you. Should you choose to accept it...

The neighbor of my Ex, but more importantly of my 17 year old daughter, back home in the UK is causing a bit of aggro. Upsetting my daughter, disrupting her during exams and disrespecting privacy. Being 3500 miles away makes it difficult for me to go around and knock on his door but I would love to be able to persuade him to back the fook up.

This is where you come in.

How would I go about digging into his life, trying to find leverage?

A Bit of backround checking reveals that he is about 55-60, single, likes to smoke pot, listens to techno music, is a bit of a computer geek and gamer. Has a Phd in Biology and works as a tech in the local university. But that's all I can find. I need better than this I can't just shout at him 'hey weird weed smoking guy, leave my daughter alone'. Doesn't have much bite.

How do I dig down to the good stuff?

Where (roughly) is this?

I'm confused at his age and your daughters age. Did you say he was her ex and he's 55-60? And shes 17?

Read it again.

Behaving in a manner a 17 year old finds odd.

He has been repeatedly asked to be a bit nicer; turn the music down a bit so they can sleep (especially during exam time), not cut the boundary hedge between the properties to such an extent that their privacy is compromised by it having huge holes in it and generally not be such a turd.

He is now doing everything he can to be a turd.

General area is Aber. North Wales.

And yes, a strongly worded phone call revealing knowlege of (insert past faux pas here) and telling him to cease the turdage will be first on the agenda. Next would be a quick turn-around flight ticket and the associated VBRJ.

Clicked. It took me a while. I couldn't understand why his daugher would live near his ex

Sounds to me as if the more you 'have a go at him' asking him not to do things the more he's going to do it.
Unless he's actually being a 'nuisance' by playing loud music or cutting hedges that aren't his, thereby causing damage to someone elses property - there isn't a lot you can do.
The worlds full of 'turds' but we have to live and let live.

Just keep reporting his unsociable behaviour to the police they can give him an ASBO for playing music at all hours. If hes a computer geek then surley he has facebook accounts and such like?

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And yes, a strongly worded phone call revealing knowlege of (insert past faux pas here) and telling him to cease the turdage will be first on the agenda. Next would be a quick turn-around flight ticket and the associated VBRJ.
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Your going to fly 7000 miles to deliver a verbal to someone acting a 'bit odd'....?

Now wheres that "o'Rely" meme when you want it....?