Popping the question
Discussion
Sonic said:
OP don't bottle out and go shopping with her afterwards, half of the "fun" is not being sure whether she'll like the ring you get 
In all seriousness, my OH loves the ring that i designed with Howard because of the thought that's gone into it.
I think that this is part of the point. As odd as it might sound if you don't have a clue what sort of ring she would like you might not be as close a couple as you think you are. In all seriousness, my OH loves the ring that i designed with Howard because of the thought that's gone into it.
I knew that my fiancee would far rather an elegant ring than one with a huge lump of compressed coal in the middle.
Sonic said:
In all seriousness, my OH loves the ring that i designed with Howard because of the thought that's gone into it.
How long did that process take out of interest? It's occurred to me I don't actually have a huge amount of time. This isn't a spur of the moment thing, I've been thinking about it for years, but I have a particular date in mind and it's, erm, less than a month away now!WhereamI said:
But the problem is that if she wants to marry you there is every chance that she'll say she likes it whatever she really feels about it. At the very least I'd say you need to arrange with whoever supplies it that you can take it back and exchange for another one if she doesn't like it.
I totally understand the logic, but I'm still not sure. I don't think she places a particularly strong emphasis on aesthetics. I think the emotional gesture will be a far more significant part of it for her so I'd like to get that wow factor when it actually takes place. I can't afford to buy anything impressive for the first ring if I have to follow it up with a second one.anonymous said:
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Sadly they don't get on at all well. I may well ask her mum, though, and as long as I can trust her to keep quiet I'll consult her on the ring.
Everyone has their quirks and jewellery is rather personal, in my opinion. For example, I loath diamonds on their own, without a coloured stone.MrFrodo said:
I totally understand the logic, but I'm still not sure. I don't think she places a particularly strong emphasis on aesthetics. I think the emotional gesture will be a far more significant part of it for her so I'd like to get that wow factor when it actually takes place. I can't afford to buy anything impressive for the first ring if I have to follow it up with a second one.
Well at the end of the day it's your decision and you need to be happy with it, you know her infinitely better than random blokes on the internet.It also depends on how well you trust your own taste, for me choosing a ring is about as alien as it comes, I could no more do that successfully than choose her a pair of shoes or a handbag.
3x monthly salary? £150,000.00? Yeah right.I picked a local jeweller. Picked a ring which I thought my other half would love. They fitted a small bridging piece to adjust size, so that on the day it would roughly fit. Once all done and completed (and she had accepted!), we went back chose a slightly higher spec diamond and ordered the exact size needed. I think a good jeweller will always offer this service.
At the end of the day, the location/ time and actually having a ring which you have chosen are the most important things.
We got engaged at 8AM at the top of the Sacre Couer, looking over the whole of Paris. My missus has never forgotten that because it is the only romantic thing I have done in 16 years!!
Mike
At the end of the day, the location/ time and actually having a ring which you have chosen are the most important things.
We got engaged at 8AM at the top of the Sacre Couer, looking over the whole of Paris. My missus has never forgotten that because it is the only romantic thing I have done in 16 years!!
Mike
I helped design the wife's engagement ring, chose the stone from a selection and the local jeweller had it made up. Prior to this I had been a bit sneaky and had borrowed another of her rings and drew around the inside of it to get the size. I'm sure you can make the odd subtle comments about other people's rings and from her reaction/comment guage the type of ring she would like.
I did this many weeks before the date and had a lovely slim design solitaire diamond ring waiting in the box. When I proposed she was gobsmacked and I mean never had her gob been smacked so much - she burst into tears before really looking at the ring. Anyway she was stunned that the ring not only fitted her but was in the style she liked and the fact that I had had it made specifically for her rather than choose a generic one from a jewller made it all the more special to her.
The fact that it has lived in it's box ever since the kids were born is irrelevant - isn't it?
I did this many weeks before the date and had a lovely slim design solitaire diamond ring waiting in the box. When I proposed she was gobsmacked and I mean never had her gob been smacked so much - she burst into tears before really looking at the ring. Anyway she was stunned that the ring not only fitted her but was in the style she liked and the fact that I had had it made specifically for her rather than choose a generic one from a jewller made it all the more special to her.
The fact that it has lived in it's box ever since the kids were born is irrelevant - isn't it?
Sonic said:
OP don't bottle out and go shopping with her afterwards, half of the "fun" is not being sure whether she'll like the ring you get
In all seriousness, my OH loves the ring that i designed with Howard because of the thought that's gone into it.
Exactly.In all seriousness, my OH loves the ring that i designed with Howard because of the thought that's gone into it.
Get 'the' ring to use for the actual proposal.
It's not hard, about the only thing that you could go wrong with is with the metal - and tht should be easy to choose accurately...
Get a simple ring with 1 stone of good quality and a good cut...
And a do talk to Nightmare, he did a great job for me. Couldn't have been happier with the service, the ring, or the price. He turned it around v quickly for me too :-)
It means so much when you pick the ring yourself IMO.
It's not difficult. You should know her well enough to know what she likes, so you should be able to choose something appropriate. As long as it's not too gaudy or too expensive (she'll soon let you know about the million and one other things you could - and should - have bought with the money if you spend a fortune) you should be fine. Oh, and don't forget to ask her father first - both he and she will appreciate you respecting tradition.
JungleJim said:
WhereamI said:
In your opinion. Platinum? Eek, no.
So is it the metal or the colour?I used a "temporary ring" of a very similar style to what I thought she'd actually want. And she was very happy with it (a 7mm dia round CZ with channel set shoulders). Then we went and got the "real" one from a place in Hatton Garden, because I wanted a proper certified stone etc.
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