The Cancer Kiss off - being dumped after diagnosis
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MrBrightSi said:
You have the strength of character to soldier on through this. Can only wish you the best and hope some form of light is visable at the end of the tunnel.
100% this. You make old Boots look a bit weak, and as for your comment before about maybe forming a relationship, no decent woman in her right mind would turn down someone like you! (Just need to avoid the rather indecent women out there that are not in their right mind)
Hello fellow Ph'ers.
I sincerely apologise for not updating this, as Tina said! I've been though quite a bit these past few months.
I've got more access to see my son and will soon be seeing him weekly at home.
I'm also in the middle of the divorce and financial dispute over the house which is really pulling me down as they dig into every aspect of your life. Final hearing is on the 20th Dec so I'll give you all a run down of whats happened since I last updated.
Again as Tina mentioned, I've been really ill with both the stress of the divorce proceedings and the cancer. Unfortunately it has metastasised to the surrounding region which is causing me a lot of pain. Its so hard to try and get out of bed and get out. I've spent days on end just lying in bed with cold sweats and pain. Although I'm receiving palliative care I'm also looking at the DCA as was previously mentioned on here. My doctors report to the courts for the financial resolution stated I may possibly have months to live and the Mental is therefore treating me as if I'm already dead and just ignoring my needs for getting a portion of the money to try various other treatments that I've been looking into. Disgusting really but I have had excellent representation from my solicitor and we should get a good amount, fingers crossed.
Fingers are hurting one but again I'm really sorry for not updating. I'd also like to say a big Thank You to all those who donated funds and moral support towards my contact order hearing, it's been god awfully slow but it's moving forward and Cafcass and the courts are both in support of me having a close relationship with my son given the short time I may have.
I just can't believe the person I once loved so much is now reeling at the thought of me being dead, I'm just so numb with disappointment from everything.
I sincerely apologise for not updating this, as Tina said! I've been though quite a bit these past few months.
I've got more access to see my son and will soon be seeing him weekly at home.
I'm also in the middle of the divorce and financial dispute over the house which is really pulling me down as they dig into every aspect of your life. Final hearing is on the 20th Dec so I'll give you all a run down of whats happened since I last updated.
Again as Tina mentioned, I've been really ill with both the stress of the divorce proceedings and the cancer. Unfortunately it has metastasised to the surrounding region which is causing me a lot of pain. Its so hard to try and get out of bed and get out. I've spent days on end just lying in bed with cold sweats and pain. Although I'm receiving palliative care I'm also looking at the DCA as was previously mentioned on here. My doctors report to the courts for the financial resolution stated I may possibly have months to live and the Mental is therefore treating me as if I'm already dead and just ignoring my needs for getting a portion of the money to try various other treatments that I've been looking into. Disgusting really but I have had excellent representation from my solicitor and we should get a good amount, fingers crossed.
Fingers are hurting one but again I'm really sorry for not updating. I'd also like to say a big Thank You to all those who donated funds and moral support towards my contact order hearing, it's been god awfully slow but it's moving forward and Cafcass and the courts are both in support of me having a close relationship with my son given the short time I may have.
I just can't believe the person I once loved so much is now reeling at the thought of me being dead, I'm just so numb with disappointment from everything.
TroubledSoul said:
Jesus. I don't have much to say really, other than I hope with all my being for a huge improvement for you and your outlook.
You've done brilliantly up to now and should be very proud of yourself.
This. I've been following this from the beginning, hopefully everything will get resolved in the correct way in a more than timely manner. All the best to you for the future...You've done brilliantly up to now and should be very proud of yourself.
Would it be worth getting something proper written up detailing the full story from this and the previous thread, emotions, fighting for access and upset etc to be put into trust and released to your son with the financials when he is 18/21 so his opinions are not prejudiced over time and he can realise all of the actions and effort you took to help with everything (we all know women twist things over time in these situations...)
nonetheless all the best, K
Sam, I don't know how much comfort it is, but there are a lot of people here with a lot of goodwill for you. I know we can't directly make your situation better, but I hope that knowing you're being thought of helps a bit.
Even though your care's palliative, don't let that determination you had change. Keep fighting for as much time with your son as you can. We're still rooting for you.
Even though your care's palliative, don't let that determination you had change. Keep fighting for as much time with your son as you can. We're still rooting for you.
I've delayed replying this time as I have no idea what to actually say 
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I'm so sad that a person you loved and trusted has treated and continues to treat you in such an atrocious way, there are no words for it really. I'm glad you seem to have the support you need to at least try and fight her.
I'm so sorry your fight with your illness has taken a turn for the worse but I hope you will continue to fight it, you never know how it may respond to treatment or how positivity cam help (easy to say I know, it's hard to stay positive when everything seems to against yo
Finally I was so happy to read that you may be gaining more precious te with your son. I really hope you get chance to have fun times and lasting memories for you both
Stay strong x
.I'm so sad that a person you loved and trusted has treated and continues to treat you in such an atrocious way, there are no words for it really. I'm glad you seem to have the support you need to at least try and fight her.
I'm so sorry your fight with your illness has taken a turn for the worse but I hope you will continue to fight it, you never know how it may respond to treatment or how positivity cam help (easy to say I know, it's hard to stay positive when everything seems to against yo
Finally I was so happy to read that you may be gaining more precious te with your son. I really hope you get chance to have fun times and lasting memories for you both
Stay strong x
Edited by bexVN on Thursday 5th December 13:12
Sam the power of positive thought can be amazing as I am sure you already know. Though you may not see the whole picture because not everyone posts on this thread you can be assured that there are THOUSANDS possibly tens of thousands of us out here in the ether thinking of you and passing out positive thoughts to you. Please draw on that for additional strength and inspiration.
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