The Cancer Kiss off - being dumped after diagnosis
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StottyEvo said:
bexVN said:
I knew he was so poorly yet always thought he would win through, he just gave that feeling.
You weren't alone 
RIP Sam.
I'm very upset at this news, the picture makes it ever so much more real. He kept fighting right to the end, what a man
He dealt with a s
tty situation better than I ever could have, I always thought he was going to pull through in the end.RIP Sam
Seeing this thread pop back up today, brought a lump to my throat & a feeling of fear, I've just found the courage to open & read it
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that SS will now assist you better than they could for Sam.
I'm another that has been reading & keeping quiet, for fear of the vitriol that I know I'm capable of spouting against my own sex - the "fair" sex we are known as - not very fair here
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that SS will now assist you better than they could for Sam.
I'm another that has been reading & keeping quiet, for fear of the vitriol that I know I'm capable of spouting against my own sex - the "fair" sex we are known as - not very fair here
It was the other day when i was playing with my grandson, and suddenly Sam leapt into my mind, and i had a moment thinking about him.
Always hopeful, but knowing the inevitable would occur, the guy was so up front about it, i hugged my little one just that little bit closer. now i know the last line of the story.
Sam wherever you are, you are free of all ills and tribulations, and the great thing is you can see your lad 24/7 and no court or person on earth can stop you.
I shall miss your posts, i'm just another joe who proudly puts you amongst the guys i would go through hell for.
Middx, i hope the mods can get all the previous up for you and the little'un. He deserves to know what know how much his Dad was respected by total strangers.
You, know contact lenses really make your eyes irritable this time of night.
A prayer for all of us who had the privilege of being part of Sams life
Always hopeful, but knowing the inevitable would occur, the guy was so up front about it, i hugged my little one just that little bit closer. now i know the last line of the story.
Sam wherever you are, you are free of all ills and tribulations, and the great thing is you can see your lad 24/7 and no court or person on earth can stop you.
I shall miss your posts, i'm just another joe who proudly puts you amongst the guys i would go through hell for.
Middx, i hope the mods can get all the previous up for you and the little'un. He deserves to know what know how much his Dad was respected by total strangers.
You, know contact lenses really make your eyes irritable this time of night.
A prayer for all of us who had the privilege of being part of Sams life
Absolutely awful, just back from work and was hoping for a good update, so sorry to hear of the loss.
Hopefully you'll be able to take up where Sam left and be able to resume a modicum of contact with the little'un, even if its just for recognition so he can have his fathers message delivered in the future.
Hopefully you'll be able to take up where Sam left and be able to resume a modicum of contact with the little'un, even if its just for recognition so he can have his fathers message delivered in the future.
Just so bloody sad. Sniff.
To Sam's son. When you read this as a more grown up lad, you can be proud that your dad fought tooth and nail whilst feeling very weak to be with you. A true sign of a father's love for his son. Despite things you may have heard, I am sure you now know the depth of feeling your dad had for you, and wherever he is now, he still will have.
Sam. I didn't know you personally but followed this thread with the odd tear, and a fair amount of disgust that such bad things could happen to one guy. I would have served alongside you in any situation.
R.I.P, you were a real man.
Really dusty in here tonight...
To Sam's son. When you read this as a more grown up lad, you can be proud that your dad fought tooth and nail whilst feeling very weak to be with you. A true sign of a father's love for his son. Despite things you may have heard, I am sure you now know the depth of feeling your dad had for you, and wherever he is now, he still will have.
Sam. I didn't know you personally but followed this thread with the odd tear, and a fair amount of disgust that such bad things could happen to one guy. I would have served alongside you in any situation.
R.I.P, you were a real man.
Really dusty in here tonight...
I also read this thread from afar. I didn't comment as I didn't know what to say.
I hope that things come right in the end and people learn how great he was and how much he loved his son. Maybe one day I can buy you a pint, or go for a drive.
It's a cruel world and I'll never understand it. I've also shed a tear and will think of you this weekend.
R.I.P.
I hope that things come right in the end and people learn how great he was and how much he loved his son. Maybe one day I can buy you a pint, or go for a drive.
It's a cruel world and I'll never understand it. I've also shed a tear and will think of you this weekend.
R.I.P.
I don't want to appear curt but could anyone outline what happened here?
I get the gist (man diagnosed with cancer, wife runs with son) but the details are spread over several pages, but also over a deleted thread.
My imagination is filling in the blanks and it's all looking too grim to fully take in...
I get the gist (man diagnosed with cancer, wife runs with son) but the details are spread over several pages, but also over a deleted thread.
My imagination is filling in the blanks and it's all looking too grim to fully take in...
THX said:
I don't want to appear curt but could anyone outline what happened here?
I get the gist (man diagnosed with cancer, wife runs with son) but the details are spread over several pages, but also over a deleted thread.
My imagination is filling in the blanks and it's all looking too grim to fully take in...
Its more about PH really. Chap with dire prognosis posts that its the reason his wife is leaving him. Rest of PH puts the collective boot into her. In reality we don't know why she wanted to leave him. The illness could have been incidental, I suggest only the two people will really know.I get the gist (man diagnosed with cancer, wife runs with son) but the details are spread over several pages, but also over a deleted thread.
My imagination is filling in the blanks and it's all looking too grim to fully take in...
On from that the usual heartache caused by a spit with a tug of war over a child ensued. The heartache made many times worse by the unfolding of the medical condition.
In the end her rush to win the tug of war blinded her to some fairly basic common decency issues. PH, as it always does takes its herd like daily mail stand. In suggesting they know how to improve the boys life at the same time as punishing the mother, they show a fairly basic lack of understanding, or empathy in their bid to appear righteous.
Always sad to hear of a life cut short, especially one that has not been without its trials, but so glad he got to see his son; it must have made such a difference to his state of mind at the end. As Max Ehrmann put it, ".... Despite all it's sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a wonderful world"
Edited by ClaphamGT3 on Friday 22 August 08:36
Edited by ClaphamGT3 on Friday 22 August 08:37
julian64 said:
Its more about PH really. Chap with dire prognosis posts that its the reason his wife is leaving him. Rest of PH puts the collective boot into her. In reality we don't know why she wanted to leave him. The illness could have been incidental, I suggest only the two people will really know.
On from that the usual heartache caused by a spit with a tug of war over a child ensued. The heartache made many times worse by the unfolding of the medical condition.
In the end her rush to win the tug of war blinded her to some fairly basic common decency issues. PH, as it always does takes its herd like daily mail stand. In suggesting they know how to improve the boys life at the same time as punishing the mother, they show a fairly basic lack of understanding, or empathy in their bid to appear righteous.
Understood, thanks.On from that the usual heartache caused by a spit with a tug of war over a child ensued. The heartache made many times worse by the unfolding of the medical condition.
In the end her rush to win the tug of war blinded her to some fairly basic common decency issues. PH, as it always does takes its herd like daily mail stand. In suggesting they know how to improve the boys life at the same time as punishing the mother, they show a fairly basic lack of understanding, or empathy in their bid to appear righteous.
Whatever the circumstances, my thoughts are with the little lad who's just lost his father.
So sad. Sat at my desk in work, thinking about my two little'uns trying very hard not to burst out crying.
I never saw the original thread, but understood enough of the detail in this thread to check in now and again and hope all was OK. I'm sure I was not the only one who actually expected this outcome, no matter how inevitable it may have been from Sam's point of view. All his talks of buying bikes and whatnot, gave me great pleasure in the thought that one day, he'd be able to do the same for his little lad.
He showed such positivity through the whole of his updates. Angry, sure. But that seemed to spur him on to battle things out, keeping one thing in the utmost forefront of his mind. His Son.
Truly inspirational human being. I do hope that SS will see sense and not stop the lad from seeing his Father's family, and in turn, them witnessing their son's legacy.
To Sam's brother. Thank you for considering PH and taking the time to update us all in what is, I've no doubt, an absolutely horrific time of your life.
Also take into count there are a lot of people here with a vast amount of knowledge on topics you might find useful. I'd encourage you to explore other sections of the site to ask some advice to help fight your corner.
Wish you and your family all the best for the future and do hope you can provide updates on this thread.
RIP Sam.
I never saw the original thread, but understood enough of the detail in this thread to check in now and again and hope all was OK. I'm sure I was not the only one who actually expected this outcome, no matter how inevitable it may have been from Sam's point of view. All his talks of buying bikes and whatnot, gave me great pleasure in the thought that one day, he'd be able to do the same for his little lad.
He showed such positivity through the whole of his updates. Angry, sure. But that seemed to spur him on to battle things out, keeping one thing in the utmost forefront of his mind. His Son.
Truly inspirational human being. I do hope that SS will see sense and not stop the lad from seeing his Father's family, and in turn, them witnessing their son's legacy.
To Sam's brother. Thank you for considering PH and taking the time to update us all in what is, I've no doubt, an absolutely horrific time of your life.
Also take into count there are a lot of people here with a vast amount of knowledge on topics you might find useful. I'd encourage you to explore other sections of the site to ask some advice to help fight your corner.
Wish you and your family all the best for the future and do hope you can provide updates on this thread.
RIP Sam.
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