The Cancer Kiss off - being dumped after diagnosis
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Would one of the moderators kindly email me the transcript of the previous thread I had on here, can't remember who it was but they said it wouldn't be a issue.
I started a thread in SP&L and have got some good advice. I'm also going to contact Mckenzie friend, specialising in these type of cases and need to give him the low down on whats happening. It would be easier to copy and paste that over.
Mods, please could you let me now once you've emailed it?
I started a thread in SP&L and have got some good advice. I'm also going to contact Mckenzie friend, specialising in these type of cases and need to give him the low down on whats happening. It would be easier to copy and paste that over.
Mods, please could you let me now once you've emailed it?
Good to see you're managing to have some fun away from all of this. Kids toys and a big boys toy 
.
As for the upset/dreams etc, I saw this pic the other day
Never be ashamed to let it all out. I bet there's plenty of people with perfectly agreeable lives on here that shed a tear just reading about your life, never mind living it, you're an example to us all.
When this is all sorted, I think a decent sized get together is a must.
Keep it up, and keep posting, it's great to hear how you're getting on and great that so many people on here can offer advice, whenever you need it.
All the best, Sam
.As for the upset/dreams etc, I saw this pic the other day
Never be ashamed to let it all out. I bet there's plenty of people with perfectly agreeable lives on here that shed a tear just reading about your life, never mind living it, you're an example to us all.
When this is all sorted, I think a decent sized get together is a must.
Keep it up, and keep posting, it's great to hear how you're getting on and great that so many people on here can offer advice, whenever you need it.
All the best, Sam
sk7ine man said:
Would one of the moderators kindly email me the transcript of the previous thread I had on here, can't remember who it was but they said it wouldn't be a issue.
I started a thread in SP&L and have got some good advice. I'm also going to contact Mckenzie friend, specialising in these type of cases and need to give him the low down on whats happening. It would be easier to copy and paste that over.
Mods, please could you let me now once you've emailed it?
FYI - Mods don't watch threads (at least not all of them) - better to click "Report" on your own posting with the request or email Paul Garlick directly.I started a thread in SP&L and have got some good advice. I'm also going to contact Mckenzie friend, specialising in these type of cases and need to give him the low down on whats happening. It would be easier to copy and paste that over.
Mods, please could you let me now once you've emailed it?
samdale said:
Good to see you're managing to have some fun away from all of this. Kids toys and a big boys toy .
As for the upset/dreams etc, I saw this pic the other day
Never be ashamed to let it all out. I bet there's plenty of people with perfectly agreeable lives on here that shed a tear just reading about your life, never mind living it, you're an example to us all.
When this is all sorted, I think a decent sized get together is a must.
Keep it up, and keep posting, it's great to hear how you're getting on and great that so many people on here can offer advice, whenever you need it.
All the best, Sam
Thanks fella. I like that pic .As for the upset/dreams etc, I saw this pic the other day
Never be ashamed to let it all out. I bet there's plenty of people with perfectly agreeable lives on here that shed a tear just reading about your life, never mind living it, you're an example to us all.
When this is all sorted, I think a decent sized get together is a must.
Keep it up, and keep posting, it's great to hear how you're getting on and great that so many people on here can offer advice, whenever you need it.
All the best, Sam
bike was picked up yesterday but padlock wouldn't open to get out n the thing yesterday facepalm Grenoble said:
FYI - Mods don't watch threads (at least not all of them) - better to click "Report" on your own posting with the request or email Paul Garlick directly.
I had an email from a mod back in Feb that they had the transcript and would be emailed over, ill need to go back over my emails to check. For some stupid reason I didn't keep a copy of my very first, long post in the original thread. It would make it infinitely easier when I speak to Mckenzie friends tomorrow. I know this is probably a long shot but has anyone got a copy of my original post from the other thread?Small update guys:
Saw my little one today at the new centre, this is after seeing him last on 9th March, he seemed a little quiet but was comfortable with me which is the rmain thing. Told him Daddy loves him so much and misses him and he said the same, awesome feeling!
On coming home today I found a letter from Mentals solicitor. They have been informed they are longer instructed and she will be acting in person by herself with a signed notice sent to court, result!
She can probably ill afford to pay for costs and its a shame that we have both incurred unnecessary costs because of her unwillingness to be civil and amicable.
Anyway my Mckenzie friend has got me to send a letter to her to ask her about allegations made by her at the previous hearing, asking her why she hasnt requested a disclosure if theyre true and asking her how she wishes contact to progress in the future. We have also informed her my health has massively improved and my consultant is delighted with my progress, therefore we will be seeking further directions from court to bring forward a hearing and to show the judge I can now look after my son. I have a letter confirming this from my oncologist ( which I've obviously not shown her).
I also requested a directions hearing for this and am awaiting a date. We also sent the letter to prove the great improvement in my Heath to give the judge a heads up?!
Anyway, this is great news with her dis-instructing her solicitor, my constant letters probably helped as was suggested by a couple of you guys, as at ~£80 a time wouldn't have come cheap. A shame really as money could have been better spent on our son.
Saw my little one today at the new centre, this is after seeing him last on 9th March, he seemed a little quiet but was comfortable with me which is the rmain thing. Told him Daddy loves him so much and misses him and he said the same, awesome feeling!
On coming home today I found a letter from Mentals solicitor. They have been informed they are longer instructed and she will be acting in person by herself with a signed notice sent to court, result!
She can probably ill afford to pay for costs and its a shame that we have both incurred unnecessary costs because of her unwillingness to be civil and amicable.
Anyway my Mckenzie friend has got me to send a letter to her to ask her about allegations made by her at the previous hearing, asking her why she hasnt requested a disclosure if theyre true and asking her how she wishes contact to progress in the future. We have also informed her my health has massively improved and my consultant is delighted with my progress, therefore we will be seeking further directions from court to bring forward a hearing and to show the judge I can now look after my son. I have a letter confirming this from my oncologist ( which I've obviously not shown her).
I also requested a directions hearing for this and am awaiting a date. We also sent the letter to prove the great improvement in my Heath to give the judge a heads up?!
Anyway, this is great news with her dis-instructing her solicitor, my constant letters probably helped as was suggested by a couple of you guys, as at ~£80 a time wouldn't have come cheap. A shame really as money could have been better spent on our son.
Also to add,
We found out a few weeks ago that certain family members who we don't associate with have become friendly with my ex and her family at the exact time of my hospitalisation,
These family members (I won't delve into who exactly) had invited Mental and her family around for a function whilst I was in hospital and this is where we believe she has been fed sh!t and turned against me, makes perfect sense now. We don't particularly like these members of our family and vice versa.
My dad a couple of weeks ago, had it out with them and held them accountable for a lot of the crap. They didn't even deny it!
Long story short, they have been seeing each other, as mental lives 2 roads away on a main road which I frequent and these family members live 3 doors away. I've seen Mentals car parked outside there's and our families car parked outside hers.
No one will stab you in the back like your own family will (parents excluded). Disgusting really, and I'm sure they are feeding here more crap judging by the whats app messages I have been keeping an eye on.
Anyway, all round things are looking up, just hope our next court hearing Is more favourable, as my Mckenzie friend is looking to investigate all allegations and quash them prior to a hearing so there's no objections to fair custody. Fingers and all else crossed guys.
We found out a few weeks ago that certain family members who we don't associate with have become friendly with my ex and her family at the exact time of my hospitalisation,
These family members (I won't delve into who exactly) had invited Mental and her family around for a function whilst I was in hospital and this is where we believe she has been fed sh!t and turned against me, makes perfect sense now. We don't particularly like these members of our family and vice versa.
My dad a couple of weeks ago, had it out with them and held them accountable for a lot of the crap. They didn't even deny it!
Long story short, they have been seeing each other, as mental lives 2 roads away on a main road which I frequent and these family members live 3 doors away. I've seen Mentals car parked outside there's and our families car parked outside hers.
No one will stab you in the back like your own family will (parents excluded). Disgusting really, and I'm sure they are feeding here more crap judging by the whats app messages I have been keeping an eye on.
Anyway, all round things are looking up, just hope our next court hearing Is more favourable, as my Mckenzie friend is looking to investigate all allegations and quash them prior to a hearing so there's no objections to fair custody. Fingers and all else crossed guys.
... but the good thing from all of this is that you are now well out of it. Smile and wave from the sidelines. The best you can do is live your live to the best of your abilities and carry on with your positive attitude. Let those who wallow in s
t suck it up. Sooner or later, they choke on their own excrement. Like I said, smile and wave
t suck it up. Sooner or later, they choke on their own excrement. Like I said, smile and wave Good news mate, really hoping you get more and more time with your son.
What's the medical side of things looking like ATM fella? On the up I hope.
On a side note what impression do you get from other people that knew you and the mental do they have an opinion of disgust much like I do of her?
What's the medical side of things looking like ATM fella? On the up I hope.
On a side note what impression do you get from other people that knew you and the mental do they have an opinion of disgust much like I do of her?
Just a quick update:
Things have been moving along with seeing my little one and finally have a directions hearing in early August to hopefully move contact out of the centre and unsupervised, My Mckenzie friend has been invaluable and a massive help and motivation.
However, today I've taken another punch to the stomach. I was served with divorce papers from the Mental which I'm not too bothered about, in fact I'm actually pleased to be moving on from the witch. However her reasons for divorce are complete and utter B0ll0cks, which I suppose is to be expected.
The bit that worries me the most is the financial order she has filed and especially against the house that I put all my money into and even to this day, my blood, sweat and tears maintaining it and keeping up with all payments in due regard. It's the only thing I have left and my future plans were to one day give it to my son. She's going to make a complete mess of this.
She's also filing for costs and maintenance payments even though she gets her child support allowance which is deducted from my benefits.
I've spent a good part of the day phoning solicitors to get help and I only qualify for legal aid if I've been subject to some form of domestic violence and its been recorded/reported, wtf?! Even though my Employment Support Allowance qualifies me, it
Has to be on that basis. I have suffered mental and emotional abuse as you all know and surely that should qualify me?! I have one solicitor whos going to call me back tomorrow to see what she can do.
What do our resident solicitors make of this?
Just when I think I'm picking myself up, I get a big blow. I'm just sitting here, in my room , with the curtains drawn, lights off and no motivation to go anywhere or do anything, its my little boys birthday On Friday, and she has not replied to my email or letter to ask to see him just to give him his presents, so i guess I'll be missing that....the hate has come back, big time.
Things have been moving along with seeing my little one and finally have a directions hearing in early August to hopefully move contact out of the centre and unsupervised, My Mckenzie friend has been invaluable and a massive help and motivation.
However, today I've taken another punch to the stomach. I was served with divorce papers from the Mental which I'm not too bothered about, in fact I'm actually pleased to be moving on from the witch. However her reasons for divorce are complete and utter B0ll0cks, which I suppose is to be expected.
The bit that worries me the most is the financial order she has filed and especially against the house that I put all my money into and even to this day, my blood, sweat and tears maintaining it and keeping up with all payments in due regard. It's the only thing I have left and my future plans were to one day give it to my son. She's going to make a complete mess of this.
She's also filing for costs and maintenance payments even though she gets her child support allowance which is deducted from my benefits.
I've spent a good part of the day phoning solicitors to get help and I only qualify for legal aid if I've been subject to some form of domestic violence and its been recorded/reported, wtf?! Even though my Employment Support Allowance qualifies me, it
Has to be on that basis. I have suffered mental and emotional abuse as you all know and surely that should qualify me?! I have one solicitor whos going to call me back tomorrow to see what she can do.
What do our resident solicitors make of this?
Just when I think I'm picking myself up, I get a big blow. I'm just sitting here, in my room , with the curtains drawn, lights off and no motivation to go anywhere or do anything, its my little boys birthday On Friday, and she has not replied to my email or letter to ask to see him just to give him his presents, so i guess I'll be missing that....the hate has come back, big time.
This is going to be a long and hard battle, but one that is well worth fighting.
When you pull through this you'll have an amazing story to tell and a new sense of prospective.
I'm sorry to hear of the setbacks, but this is merly what they are, setbacks.
Keep you chin up and soldier on for us, your son and most importantly yourself.
When you pull through this you'll have an amazing story to tell and a new sense of prospective.
I'm sorry to hear of the setbacks, but this is merly what they are, setbacks.
Keep you chin up and soldier on for us, your son and most importantly yourself.
StottyZr said:
This is going to be a long and hard battle, but one that is well worth fighting.
When you pull through this you'll have an amazing story to tell and a new sense of prospective.
I'm sorry to hear of the setbacks, but this is merly what they are, setbacks.
Keep you chin up and soldier on for us, your son and most importantly yourself.
Thanks, just the though of losing all that money and hard work that's been out into the house and a small part of that being my parents money too. Shes representing herself i guess as she cant afford legal costs so im desperate to geta good solicitor on legal aid, thats the hard oart right now. I'm actually glad she's filed for divorce as I don't want to be associated with her any longer but yes my Son is what keeps me going and knowing as he gets older and wiser, he will only learn of what she did and she is not doing herself any favours with her behaviour.When you pull through this you'll have an amazing story to tell and a new sense of prospective.
I'm sorry to hear of the setbacks, but this is merly what they are, setbacks.
Keep you chin up and soldier on for us, your son and most importantly yourself.
julian64 said:
Hows it going with the motorcycling?
It's going well. I'm managing to ride now without too much pain and now have the strength to wheel it around a bit more (I'm only small at 5'6). I started with short rides around the local area and now frequent going to the Ace Cafe which is 10 miles away if the weather is good just to get out n about a bit. My longest journey has been 45miles to my friends farm in Aylesbury and that was without too much discomfort.Sadly however I think I may have to sell the bike before the divorce hearing in September, as she is going for all the financial orders against me. So I'm gonna make the most of the next 2 months riding.
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