Never thought this would happen to me...
Discussion
Sym7 said:
Loads of horrid stuff
So sorry fella. That sounds awful.I agree with Carthage - it's not gender specific. A lot of men do some vile things too.
It never ceases to amaze me as to how true to life Eastenders truly is.
Focus on your kids and future life without a person who treats others like that.
Sym, your wife is and always was a lying b
h. You know that now. You're in a better place, but I can imagine it is hard being in the empty house.
Do yourself a favour, for the sake of a week, ps off to a hotel for a few nights, take your new missus away for a day or so. Just pack a bag and go. Come back a day or so before you have to move to get ready to go, you'll be so busy you won't notice the place.
Don't let it get to you, get the place gone, move and get on with the rest of your life.
h. You know that now. You're in a better place, but I can imagine it is hard being in the empty house. Do yourself a favour, for the sake of a week, p
s off to a hotel for a few nights, take your new missus away for a day or so. Just pack a bag and go. Come back a day or so before you have to move to get ready to go, you'll be so busy you won't notice the place. Don't let it get to you, get the place gone, move and get on with the rest of your life.
Carthage said:
slippery said:
I'm sure he meant well, but there is certainly still a lot of anger there. I had to read his username twice because I thought it was missing an 'n'.
I read it fully too, and was left feeling concerned for SGM, and wondering if he meant to admit to assaulting both his wife and daughter during the breakdown of his marriage, especially as he seems to miss his daughter so badly. What if she reads that?(Happy to edit/delete this comment if nec.)
Its something I regret, and something I carry in the life experience rucksack on my back.
Im not proud of it, and its a big regret.
I can't change it, as much as I can't change the provocation that led to it.
Every man reacts to provocation, the difference being the amount of provocation.
I know she could read it, and that changes nothing.
It was pretty black.
Anger that it fell to bits?
Naturally.
Trying to move on?
Definitely.
You don't love someone with every fibre of your being, and just switch that off.
S just not possible.
You just have to get to acceptance, and that takes time.
Not exactly how it reads to others SM.
Objectively, reading this from an outsiders point of view, I would suggest she had a point. Unless you were drunk when you made those two posts, then you still aren't all there I am afraid.
Stuttgart said:
An argument, or rather mis handled talking to my 14 year old daughter ended with me slapping her, and shouting at her. The said daughter told her mother she thought I was going to kill them both. Sure. After a slap.
You slapped your daughter and she believed you were unhinged enough to be a serious danger and you are sarcastically dismissive of that?Objectively, reading this from an outsiders point of view, I would suggest she had a point. Unless you were drunk when you made those two posts, then you still aren't all there I am afraid.
blindswelledrat said:
Not exactly how it reads to others SM.
Objectively, reading this from an outsiders point of view, I would suggest she had a point. Unless you were drunk when you made those two posts, then you still aren't all there I am afraid.
Doesn't seem that way to me at all.Stuttgart said:
An argument, or rather mis handled talking to my 14 year old daughter ended with me slapping her, and shouting at her. The said daughter told her mother she thought I was going to kill them both. Sure. After a slap.
You slapped your daughter and she believed you were unhinged enough to be a serious danger and you are sarcastically dismissive of that?Objectively, reading this from an outsiders point of view, I would suggest she had a point. Unless you were drunk when you made those two posts, then you still aren't all there I am afraid.
There's a long way from a slap to murder, and it comes across to me that the daughter is inclined to hysterics and manipulation.
singlecoil said:
Doesn't seem that way to me at all.
There's a long way from a slap to murder, and it comes across to me that the daughter is inclined to hysterics and manipulation.
What 14 year old girl isn't? There's a long way from a slap to murder, and it comes across to me that the daughter is inclined to hysterics and manipulation.
hitting a child = wrong
hitting a girl = wrong
hitting a 14 year old girl = wrong.
making fun of it all on the internet = wrong on so many levels
ascayman said:
singlecoil said:
Doesn't seem that way to me at all.
There's a long way from a slap to murder, and it comes across to me that the daughter is inclined to hysterics and manipulation.
What 14 year old girl isn't? There's a long way from a slap to murder, and it comes across to me that the daughter is inclined to hysterics and manipulation.
hitting a child = wrong
hitting a girl = wrong
hitting a 14 year old girl = wrong.
making fun of it all on the internet = wrong on so many levels
stuttgartmetal said:
Its all part of the cycle of the breakdown of my marriage, admitting how far things went, and admitting and accepting my actions as I went through it.
Its something I regret, and something I carry in the life experience rucksack on my back.
Im not proud of it, and its a big regret.
I can't change it, as much as I can't change the provocation that led to it.
Every man reacts to provocation, the difference being the amount of provocation.
I know she could read it, and that changes nothing.
It was pretty black.
Anger that it fell to bits?
Naturally.
Trying to move on?
Definitely.
You don't love someone with every fibre of your being, and just switch that off.
S just not possible.
You just have to get to acceptance, and that takes time.
I understand that relationship break down is painful, and that you regret your actions. Its something I regret, and something I carry in the life experience rucksack on my back.
Im not proud of it, and its a big regret.
I can't change it, as much as I can't change the provocation that led to it.
Every man reacts to provocation, the difference being the amount of provocation.
I know she could read it, and that changes nothing.
It was pretty black.
Anger that it fell to bits?
Naturally.
Trying to move on?
Definitely.
You don't love someone with every fibre of your being, and just switch that off.
S just not possible.
You just have to get to acceptance, and that takes time.
I have to add, though, that there is no provocation in the world that justifies slapping, grabbing your child or your wife, and it worries me that you seem to be abdicating responsibility for your actions.
Perhaps if you sincerely apologised to your daughter, and told her how much you miss her, you could start to slowly rebuild the relationship. Blaming her or her mother for your (re) actions will not allow things to progress.
squeezebm said:
singlecoil said:
It doesn't to me, hence mine.
Offs singlecoil when do you ever give in! If someone has a different point of view to you,except it,and step away from the keyboard you boring middle aged twonk! Op sounds bad, you have my thoughts and I hope things work out.
squeezebm said:
singlecoil said:
I notice you removed the context before making your nasty little post. Put it back in, and we will all be able to see how wrong you are.
You only have to scroll up upwards you daft boner
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