Never thought this would happen to me...
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singlecoil said:
Do you stalk anyone else?
Do you.......(Not doing too bad ignoring me are you)
You can't be wrong can you
You can't take critism can you
You can't take a wind up can you
But mainly you can't leave the keyboard can you......
My work here is done another nerd with his ears steaming
Sym7 said:
ZesPak said:
These threads are very sobering for us "young married" ones as well, seeing people that were happily married for over 10 years grow apart like that...
Sad to hear you're feeling s
t OP, is there anybody you can call to have a night/day out or something? I'd go for a ride with a friend/go carting/... something in that aspect to take my mind of things.
Maybe not the best thing to ask, but was she having an affair or is that still unresolved?
Sorry, so much has happened since I stopped posted for many months on this thread....I couldn't remember whether I mentioned the affair. Despite her denying anyone else's involvement I found out she was having an affair. The circumstances how I found out were quite extreme. It was back in may during one of the May bank holidays I had taken my kids away for the weekend to Snowdon and stayed in a really remote cottage north west of Snowdonia. After being out with the kids climbing the mountain all day Saturday we got back to the cottage and I put the kids to bed and was looking forward to sitting in front of the tv. Then I had this almighty pain in my chest which had me doubled up. The pain just wouldn't go. It lasted all night and I think I eventually fell asleep as dawn was breaking. When I woke I felt fine. So went out with the kids all day Sunday. Same thing that night happened but this time the pain was much worse. Monday I was fine again and drove back home. Wednesday morning I woke at about 4:00am with the same pain again and called 999. Ended up in cardiac (sp) ward and had all sorts of tests. My wife came to see me and said that the kids were being looked after by a teacher at their school. My second night in the hospital my wife made a brief visit and said the same teacher was looking after the kids again. When I got back home my kids said that the teacher (Mr. B) had a "sleepover".Sad to hear you're feeling s
t OP, is there anybody you can call to have a night/day out or something? I'd go for a ride with a friend/go carting/... something in that aspect to take my mind of things.Maybe not the best thing to ask, but was she having an affair or is that still unresolved?
The teacher is 26 and my wife 38. Basically he was shagging her in my bed, in my house with my kids in the rooms adjacent while I was in hospital having a suspected heart attack (turned out to be something to do with my liver and gall stones).
So, needless to say, I don't want this guy anywhere near my kids. The school sacked him. I wonder what his intentions are???? I suspect he'll be moving in with my wife shortly which is making my pain all the worse! Anyway....yes she was having an affair. One of the early posters on this thread said "women are like monkeys; they won't let go of one branch until they have hold of the next". How true.
Disgusting what he did, don't get involved. She can leave you, and when the kids are old enough, they'll appreciate what sacrifices you've made, and that she is a cheat.
Keep busy, time's a great healer. DOn't do anything stupid.
Sym7 said:
My wife came to see me and said that the kids were being looked after by a teacher at their school. My second night in the hospital my wife made a brief visit and said the same teacher was looking after the kids again. When I got back home my kids said that the teacher (Mr. B) had a "sleepover".
The teacher is 26 and my wife 38. Basically he was shagging her in my bed, in my house with my kids in the rooms adjacent while I was in hospital having a suspected heart attack (turned out to be something to do with my liver and gall stones).
So, needless to say, I don't want this guy anywhere near my kids. The school sacked him. I wonder what his intentions are???? I suspect he'll be moving in with my wife shortly which is making my pain all the worse! Anyway....yes she was having an affair. One of the early posters on this thread said "women are like monkeys; they won't let go of one branch until they have hold of the next". How true.
So 3K a month school fees and one of the teachers shags your wife!!!The teacher is 26 and my wife 38. Basically he was shagging her in my bed, in my house with my kids in the rooms adjacent while I was in hospital having a suspected heart attack (turned out to be something to do with my liver and gall stones).
So, needless to say, I don't want this guy anywhere near my kids. The school sacked him. I wonder what his intentions are???? I suspect he'll be moving in with my wife shortly which is making my pain all the worse! Anyway....yes she was having an affair. One of the early posters on this thread said "women are like monkeys; they won't let go of one branch until they have hold of the next". How true.
Sym7 said:
ZesPak said:
Maybe not the best thing to ask, but was she having an affair or is that still unresolved?
... she was shagging a 26 yo teacher... Not good to hear everyone on here was actually right about something (and agreeing nonetheless).
Seems like the monkey/tree analogy wasn't too far off the mark.
FWDRacer said:
ZesPak said:
Seems like the monkey/tree analogy wasn't too far off the mark.
For either sex, it never usually is...stuttgartmetal said:
Its all part of the cycle of the breakdown of my marriage, admitting how far things went, and admitting and accepting my actions as I went through it.
Its something I regret, and something I carry in the life experience rucksack on my back.
I take it you have let your daughter know that you're sorry? In a letter if she won't speak to you.Its something I regret, and something I carry in the life experience rucksack on my back.
OP, man what a b
h. The thing that stinks the most is that they were so arrogant about it all as to let the kids see what was going on. It would have been easy to hide it from them but they didn't GAF. Glad he lost his job. We'll see how cool it will be having a younger BF when she has to support him or (most likely) he gets bored now that the excitement has worn off and the reality of dating a nearly 40yo single mum is. Stay strong if she comes back OP. 
discusdave said:
hi op
I'm going though the same thing now
married 16 years 3 kids 8,9,14
exactly the same thing was said to me about the trial separation ...
i am now in week 5 of said separation trying to make her "want me again"
our experiences in the build up was/is very similar to yours we are getting on better kids don't see the arguments but i do miss being there anyway.
i just wanted to say good luck
Out of interest, how's your situation looking now? Mine's pretty good. It's exactly a year since my wife shattered my life with her opening gambit of 'we're finished'. There was another bloke involved (12 years her junior). I've bought another house (converted barn...small but lovely) and I have the kids every other weekend and every Tuesday. As posted previously I also have a girlfriend who came into my life as a complete surprise and she's just great! So, other than the fact the this aI'm going though the same thing now
married 16 years 3 kids 8,9,14
exactly the same thing was said to me about the trial separation ...
i am now in week 5 of said separation trying to make her "want me again"
our experiences in the build up was/is very similar to yours we are getting on better kids don't see the arguments but i do miss being there anyway.
i just wanted to say good luck
hole of a bloke she's with is still around (pretty much moved in with her and my kids) the world looks like a brighter place. Sorry for bumping my own thread but this is the 1 year anniversary of my devastating news and things are just looking better by the day. Maybe this is a good message for anyone else just starting the same journey. I had advice coming to me in the early days where people said it would get better over time.....I was skeptical. But they were right. Happy Easter everyone!
Sym7 said:
Out of interest, how's your situation looking now? Mine's pretty good. It's exactly a year since my wife shattered my life with her opening gambit of 'we're finished'. There was another bloke involved (12 years her junior). I've bought another house (converted barn...small but lovely) and I have the kids every other weekend and every Tuesday. As posted previously I also have a girlfriend who came into my life as a complete surprise and she's just great! So, other than the fact the this ahole of a bloke she's with is still around (pretty much moved in with her and my kids) the world looks like a brighter place.
Sorry for bumping my own thread but this is the 1 year anniversary of my devastating news and things are just looking better by the day. Maybe this is a good message for anyone else just starting the same journey. I had advice coming to me in the early days where people said it would get better over time.....I was skeptical. But they were right. Happy Easter everyone!
Glad to hear it, long may your happiness last.hole of a bloke she's with is still around (pretty much moved in with her and my kids) the world looks like a brighter place. Sorry for bumping my own thread but this is the 1 year anniversary of my devastating news and things are just looking better by the day. Maybe this is a good message for anyone else just starting the same journey. I had advice coming to me in the early days where people said it would get better over time.....I was skeptical. But they were right. Happy Easter everyone!
I assume you're fully divorced & any settlment sorted now? I can't imagine being too happy if that was still hanging over my head.
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