I'm worried my missus will kill us all
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Baldy881 said:
I'll get home and find the house unlocked.
I swear that if this happens to me just once more, I'm going to keep all the copies of all the keys somewhere only I can find them, so that she can neither open nor close a door without my supervision. I'm talking about a 40+ year old, not a teenager here.Baldy881 said:
Whenever I try and approach the subject it seems to get played down, she sees the error of her ways but it never seems to change and I feel like i'm contstantly chewing at her (which in fairness I am, but for good reason!). She has many lazy tendancies, but is certainly not lazy.
Any advice?
Sounds like you live with the standard woman Any advice?
Pixel Pusher said:
Apart from you dealing with what has happened so far, and you raising your concerns with her, what "proper" steps have you actually taken to address the situation?
You're on a bit of a sticky wicket going to a GP for a referral because you're concerned for the safety of your 2 year old son.
No parent wants to admit that.
Like I say, she is a fantastic mother who really does care about our son. I don't know what I can do, but sure as hell can't be the only one in this situation as already highlighted by others on this thread, just easier when kids aren't involved. You're on a bit of a sticky wicket going to a GP for a referral because you're concerned for the safety of your 2 year old son.
No parent wants to admit that.
I try and talk about it often but of course it makes me out to be some wholesome never-puts-a-foot-wrong kind of chap which of course I am not. I'm not very good at compromise, I'm of the 'that's my suggestion, this is why (justification!), so that's the solution' mentality. Bloody minded you may say.
Sure there are things I see my arse about that I just need to chill out on, but also somethings you just have to do, like make sure toddlers are not in a position to harm, or be harmed...
I came home one lunch to take the dogs for a walk to the house stinking of gas. Turns out Mrs had gone to work and left her lunch on the worktop. Somehow one of my dogs had jumped onto the worktop and must of turned the gas on the hob on.
I leave all doors windows open etc. I rang the kids to tell them not to go home.
Then i rang the Mrs to tell her, the responce i got was why did you leave the doors and windows open you should of just turned the extractor fan on FFS
No1 - I didnt want to blow myself up
No2 - The extractor fan was fitted before we bought the house it doesnt even vent outside lol
Woman = Idiots
I leave all doors windows open etc. I rang the kids to tell them not to go home.
Then i rang the Mrs to tell her, the responce i got was why did you leave the doors and windows open you should of just turned the extractor fan on FFS
No1 - I didnt want to blow myself up
No2 - The extractor fan was fitted before we bought the house it doesnt even vent outside lol
Woman = Idiots
theshrew said:
I came home one lunch to take the dogs for a walk to the house stinking of gas. Turns out Mrs had gone to work and left her lunch on the worktop. Somehow one of my dogs had jumped onto the worktop and must of turned the gas on the hob on.
I leave all doors windows open etc. I rang the kids to tell them not to go home.
Then i rang the Mrs to tell her, the responce i got was why did you leave the doors and windows open you should of just turned the extractor fan on FFS
No1 - I didnt want to blow myself up
No2 - The extractor fan was fitted before we bought the house it doesnt even vent outside lol
Woman = Idiots
I leave all doors windows open etc. I rang the kids to tell them not to go home.
Then i rang the Mrs to tell her, the responce i got was why did you leave the doors and windows open you should of just turned the extractor fan on FFS
No1 - I didnt want to blow myself up
No2 - The extractor fan was fitted before we bought the house it doesnt even vent outside lol
Woman = Idiots
However, I think you're being harsh on the missus. It was the dogs fault
Mrs Puggit is the same.
Leaves doors unlocked and windows open - check
Leaves gas on, on the hob - check
Burns spatulas/oven gloves, leaves oven on - check
Every night I need to get up and make sure she hasn't shut the kitchen door (and therefore locked the cats in who then keep us awake)
It's a female thing.
Leaves doors unlocked and windows open - check
Leaves gas on, on the hob - check
Burns spatulas/oven gloves, leaves oven on - check
Every night I need to get up and make sure she hasn't shut the kitchen door (and therefore locked the cats in who then keep us awake)
It's a female thing.
Baldy881 said:
However, I think you're being harsh on the missus. It was the dogs fault
She also has a talent for leaving her car unlocked on the drive. I was fed up of telling her about it so one night when she went to bed i moved her car down the road. Panic panic when her car wasnt on the drive in the morning - Did it actually make her learn from her mistakes ? Did it feck was unlocked again this morning when i went out to work.
Puggit said:
It's a female thing.
Yes but I'm after pointers in trying to address at least some of the issues, or should I f
k all subtlety and start doing things like blatantly removing the hazards? The child devices I fitted a long time ago on the kitchen units work, she struggles with those. Fit those everywhere? (could pretend they're to stop our ever more intrigued son).
Last year when the little lad was in a different bedroom that got quite cold on a night we'd leave a small oil filled rad on, twice she'd poked her head in and thought it was a bit too cold so spun the dial 'a bit'. When I checked the room before bed he was slowly cooking equivalent to gas mark 5 I would guess at. When asked what the hell she was doing (I was mildy mad) she said it's because she didn't have her glasses on, couldn't see the dial and didn't want to turn the light on to disturb him
!! Light on = bad. Cooked alive = OK 
Baldy881 said:
Muzzer79 said:
Not sure if serious....
My OH forgets stuff all the time - doors/windows open, straighteners left on, freezer door left open, steamer not filled with water, I could go on...
In one ear, out the other.
Deadly serious.My OH forgets stuff all the time - doors/windows open, straighteners left on, freezer door left open, steamer not filled with water, I could go on...
In one ear, out the other.
I didn't make mention of the windows and doors but since you say. Often if i've been out fishing the night or late home and she's gone up, I'll get home and find the house unlocked. The little boys room is downstairs quite near the front door and it just worries me senseless how lapse she is when i'm not there to check these things
It's as if it just does not enter the thought process at any point whatsoever.This is half the problem, i'm big enough to take care of myself but if anything happened to the little one through her, let's call it oversight, it would obviously cause major problems and I don't ever want to get to that point.
I really (obviously) have had very little success addressing these issues as they continue to happen.
Women do these things all the time, as demonstrated by multiple exasperated husbands on this thread.
There's nothing much you can do about it, short of following her around every day or banning her from using appliances, etc.
Just point out that these things are dangerous and she needs to sharpen up in case something happens.
theshrew said:
She also has a talent for leaving her car unlocked on the drive. I was fed up of telling her about it so one night when she went to bed i moved her car down the road. Panic panic when her car wasnt on the drive in the morning - Did it actually make her learn from her mistakes ? Did it feck was unlocked again this morning when i went out to work.
Again, another problem I have (she's already had a Mini Cooper nicked when she lived down in Crawley, house left open, burgler in, nicked handbag and car keys then just drove off). I wonder if cable tying some road kill to her steering wheel then denying all knowledge about it when found may open her eyes a bit to the dangers of an unsecured vehicle?Thing is, when something does go wrong (which it does from time to time), she is SO upset, but the things that happen are so easily avoidable. I'm not the best at the whole sympathy thing!
Condi said:
In answer to your original question; while your life may well be in danger I think Im safe. Just dont invite me round for dinner.
She's ok when cooking a full on meal, it must focus her. She makes a good bit of snap!Only gripe here is that she leaves ALL the washing up to the end and the kitchen looks like a bomb has hit it, whereas (good old wholesome me
) cleans up as I go along, so that when you're stuffed and can't be arsed to wash up there's only the dining pots left to pop in the dish washer 
Interestingly, my mum shows none of the lackadaisical qualities my current bird and ex wife show, so I guess I've been formed in the same manner. Whereas the missus mum is very similar to the missus (worry) and also deploys lethal trip hazards and utter clutter whenever we are down at her gaff! Must be in the DNA.
My Mrs was forever setting fire to things in the kitchen. Pans left on the gas for hours, oven gloves and tea towels set alight, she even managed to somehow partially melt a metal pan, no idea how she managed that one. She managed to set herself on fire once and then got annoyed with me for throwing water over her and getting her wet!
I replaced the gas hob with an induction one so we dont get any more accidental fires. And if she leaves a pan on when it boils dry and the pan starts to heat up the hob turns itself off.
Shes managed to smash one hob already by dropping something on it from a great height so its costing me a lot of £££ but its better than having to regularly play fireman.....
I replaced the gas hob with an induction one so we dont get any more accidental fires. And if she leaves a pan on when it boils dry and the pan starts to heat up the hob turns itself off.
Shes managed to smash one hob already by dropping something on it from a great height so its costing me a lot of £££ but its better than having to regularly play fireman.....
CrispyMK said:
Jasandjules said:
Sorry this is fairly standard is it not? Goes with leaving on lights?
Don't get me started on this! I can 'track' where she's been based on what lights are on. I'm sure she thinks they all work like the light on a fridge.Curtains are another bug-bear.
I come home at lunchtime to find all the curtains upstairs left closed because she's forgotten or can't be arsed to open them in the morning. So I open them.
Then, I go to bed at night and have to walk around every room again closing the f
kers because she's forgotten or can't be arsed to close them!
Baldy881 said:
roadman said:
fake it ..... get a load of fake blood, scream in pain, fall onto the kitchen floor with blood all over you.....scared for life wont be dangerous again
Ha, that makes me LOL. She also leaves stuff laying around in the most dangerous of places. Washing basket/shoes etc right infront of the main door into the living room for example. I'm always doing these pretend Benny Hill fake fall overs to make the point, she just tuts and rolls her eyes and the nipper pisses himself laughing, literally. Therefore this tactic does not get taken seriously, at all. Therefore I have stopped doing it.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff