I'm worried my missus will kill us all
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I love my OH to death (excuse the pun), but some of the things she does are of serious concern.
In just the last couple of weeks examples of what has happened:
She put a couple of burgers under the grill then f
ked off to wash her hair. When I noticed the spitting getting a little bit loud and smoke filling the living room I decided to investigate and found the grill roof/element on fire and burgers burnt.
The same grill was again used later in the week only this time even though she had removed the food items cooked under it, she forgot to turn it off again almost setting fire to the kitchen and filling the living room with smoke.
Between these two incidents I had bought and fitted two long overdue smoke alarms, worried for the safety of our household, particularly our 2 year old son.
After the second grill incident she even commented it was good the smoke detectors had worked! Missing the point love.
Last week she was making a curry or something and left the spatula resting on the pan, next thing she's screaming for help and yup you've guessed it, the bloody thing was on fire and she's waving it around like a sparkler in the kitchen. ("I didn't think that a plastic spatula would catch fire like that" It was resting directly above the flame of the hob FFS!!
)
In addition to things like this she leaves the iron on unattended, mugs of hot liquid within easy reach (she's poured hot coffee onto the nippers head once already), kitchen knifes overhanging the work tops, pills/potions/creams lying around. I could go on. She obviously has unconditional love for our little one but I seriously can't help feeling it's only a matter of time before something really terrible happens
Whenever I try and approach the subject it seems to get played down, she sees the error of her ways but it never seems to change and I feel like i'm contstantly chewing at her (which in fairness I am, but for good reason!). She has many lazy tendancies, but is certainly not lazy.
I can't be the only one who has issues of this nature? My ex wife displayed many similar traits...
Any advice?
In just the last couple of weeks examples of what has happened:
She put a couple of burgers under the grill then f
ked off to wash her hair. When I noticed the spitting getting a little bit loud and smoke filling the living room I decided to investigate and found the grill roof/element on fire and burgers burnt.The same grill was again used later in the week only this time even though she had removed the food items cooked under it, she forgot to turn it off again almost setting fire to the kitchen and filling the living room with smoke.
Between these two incidents I had bought and fitted two long overdue smoke alarms, worried for the safety of our household, particularly our 2 year old son.
After the second grill incident she even commented it was good the smoke detectors had worked! Missing the point love.
Last week she was making a curry or something and left the spatula resting on the pan, next thing she's screaming for help and yup you've guessed it, the bloody thing was on fire and she's waving it around like a sparkler in the kitchen. ("I didn't think that a plastic spatula would catch fire like that" It was resting directly above the flame of the hob FFS!!
)In addition to things like this she leaves the iron on unattended, mugs of hot liquid within easy reach (she's poured hot coffee onto the nippers head once already), kitchen knifes overhanging the work tops, pills/potions/creams lying around. I could go on. She obviously has unconditional love for our little one but I seriously can't help feeling it's only a matter of time before something really terrible happens
Whenever I try and approach the subject it seems to get played down, she sees the error of her ways but it never seems to change and I feel like i'm contstantly chewing at her (which in fairness I am, but for good reason!). She has many lazy tendancies, but is certainly not lazy.
I can't be the only one who has issues of this nature? My ex wife displayed many similar traits...
Any advice?
Baldy881 said:
particularly our 2 year old son.
Baby BrainFrom the Daily Mail so, therefore, irrefutable.
Landlord said:
Errr, AFAIK she's no longer pregnant? Son is 2 and a half 
Baldy881 said:
I love my OH to death (excuse the pun), but some of the things she does are of serious concern.
In just the last couple of weeks examples of what has happened:
She put a couple of burgers under the grill then fked off to wash her hair. When I noticed the spitting getting a little bit loud and smoke filling the living room I decided to investigate and found the grill roof/element on fire and burgers burnt.
The same grill was again used later in the week only this time even though she had removed the food items cooked under it, she forgot to turn it off again almost setting fire to the kitchen and filling the living room with smoke.
Between these two incidents I had bought and fitted two long overdue smoke alarms, worried for the safety of our household, particularly our 2 year old son.
After the second grill incident she even commented it was good the smoke detectors had worked! Missing the point love.
Last week she was making a curry or something and left the spatula resting on the pan, next thing she's screaming for help and yup you've guessed it, the bloody thing was on fire and she's waving it around like a sparkler in the kitchen. ("I didn't think that a plastic spatula would catch fire like that" It was resting directly above the flame of the hob FFS!!)
In addition to things like this she leaves the iron on unattended, mugs of hot liquid within easy reach (she's poured hot coffee onto the nippers head once already), kitchen knifes overhanging the work tops, pills/potions/creams lying around. I could go on. She obviously has unconditional love for our little one but I seriously can't help feeling it's only a matter of time before something really terrible happens
Whenever I try and approach the subject it seems to get played down, she sees the error of her ways but it never seems to change and I feel like i'm contstantly chewing at her (which in fairness I am, but for good reason!). She has many lazy tendancies, but is certainly not lazy.
I can't be the only one who has issues of this nature? My ex wife displayed many similar traits...
Any advice?
My daughter altered the molecular composition of a burger bap with nothing more than a microwave. Somehow she managed to turn it into carbon and a smell that lingered for days. In just the last couple of weeks examples of what has happened:
She put a couple of burgers under the grill then f
ked off to wash her hair. When I noticed the spitting getting a little bit loud and smoke filling the living room I decided to investigate and found the grill roof/element on fire and burgers burnt.The same grill was again used later in the week only this time even though she had removed the food items cooked under it, she forgot to turn it off again almost setting fire to the kitchen and filling the living room with smoke.
Between these two incidents I had bought and fitted two long overdue smoke alarms, worried for the safety of our household, particularly our 2 year old son.
After the second grill incident she even commented it was good the smoke detectors had worked! Missing the point love.
Last week she was making a curry or something and left the spatula resting on the pan, next thing she's screaming for help and yup you've guessed it, the bloody thing was on fire and she's waving it around like a sparkler in the kitchen. ("I didn't think that a plastic spatula would catch fire like that" It was resting directly above the flame of the hob FFS!!
)In addition to things like this she leaves the iron on unattended, mugs of hot liquid within easy reach (she's poured hot coffee onto the nippers head once already), kitchen knifes overhanging the work tops, pills/potions/creams lying around. I could go on. She obviously has unconditional love for our little one but I seriously can't help feeling it's only a matter of time before something really terrible happens
Whenever I try and approach the subject it seems to get played down, she sees the error of her ways but it never seems to change and I feel like i'm contstantly chewing at her (which in fairness I am, but for good reason!). She has many lazy tendancies, but is certainly not lazy.
I can't be the only one who has issues of this nature? My ex wife displayed many similar traits...
Any advice?
Must be a wimmin thing...
Muzzer79 said:
Not sure if serious....
My OH forgets stuff all the time - doors/windows open, straighteners left on, freezer door left open, steamer not filled with water, I could go on...
In one ear, out the other.
Deadly serious.My OH forgets stuff all the time - doors/windows open, straighteners left on, freezer door left open, steamer not filled with water, I could go on...
In one ear, out the other.
I didn't make mention of the windows and doors but since you say. Often if i've been out fishing the night or late home and she's gone up, I'll get home and find the house unlocked. The little boys room is downstairs quite near the front door and it just worries me senseless how lapse she is when i'm not there to check these things
It's as if it just does not enter the thought process at any point whatsoever.This is half the problem, i'm big enough to take care of myself but if anything happened to the little one through her, let's call it oversight, it would obviously cause major problems and I don't ever want to get to that point.
I really (obviously) have had very little success addressing these issues as they continue to happen.
Edit - i'm concerned for her safety as well
Edited by Baldy881 on Friday 26th April 15:30
roadman said:
fake it ..... get a load of fake blood, scream in pain, fall onto the kitchen floor with blood all over you.....scared for life wont be dangerous again
Ha, that makes me LOL. She also leaves stuff laying around in the most dangerous of places. Washing basket/shoes etc right infront of the main door into the living room for example. I'm always doing these pretend Benny Hill fake fall overs to make the point, she just tuts and rolls her eyes and the nipper pisses himself laughing, literally. Therefore this tactic does not get taken seriously, at all. Therefore I have stopped doing it.Apart from you dealing with what has happened so far, and you raising your concerns with her, what "proper" steps have you actually taken to address the situation?
You're on a bit of a sticky wicket going to a GP for a referral because you're concerned for the safety of your 2 year old son.
No parent wants to admit that.
You're on a bit of a sticky wicket going to a GP for a referral because you're concerned for the safety of your 2 year old son.
No parent wants to admit that.
My wife was trying to put something into a cupboard. The issue was that she's only 5'1", and was stretching somewhat and knocking things off the shelves. They were falling onto the worktop next to the hob, directly adjacent to where I had a pan of 190deg.C dripping, where I was trying to make some chips.
Apparently, asking her what the fk she was thinking, then asking if she had any awareness of the dangers she was currently facing, was the wrong thing to do 
Apparently, asking her what the f
k she was thinking, then asking if she had any awareness of the dangers she was currently facing, was the wrong thing to do Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff