My grandad died tonight.
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Butter Face said:
Amazing how quickly 12 months goes by!
Doesn't seem real that a year ago today I lost my grandad, it's surreal how time really is a healer. I'm sat at my grandparents house by myself at the moment waiting for the family to come back from shopping so we can go leave flowers at the cemetery (in the rain, in July
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I do still think of him every day, I struggle to remember his voice sometimes, that's a weird feeling! But he's still 'with me' in a non spiritual sense every day (as unlike my family I don't really believe in 'better places' or heaven or whatever anymore) but the people you love go on in your memories of them.
Anyway, must dash, these flowers won't deliver themselves.
I still think of my oldies, they're still alive within me.Doesn't seem real that a year ago today I lost my grandad, it's surreal how time really is a healer. I'm sat at my grandparents house by myself at the moment waiting for the family to come back from shopping so we can go leave flowers at the cemetery (in the rain, in July
)I do still think of him every day, I struggle to remember his voice sometimes, that's a weird feeling! But he's still 'with me' in a non spiritual sense every day (as unlike my family I don't really believe in 'better places' or heaven or whatever anymore) but the people you love go on in your memories of them.
Anyway, must dash, these flowers won't deliver themselves.
Glad you're doing alight mate.
Thanks for the comments 
Yesterday was a bit tough, emotions were running high but we ate well and had some alcohol. Grandma was very strong when with us but I imagine she was quite upset when she got home alone, I've rung her this morning and she's spending the day gardening and seems ok
Life goes one etc etc.
Yesterday was a bit tough, emotions were running high but we ate well and had some alcohol. Grandma was very strong when with us but I imagine she was quite upset when she got home alone, I've rung her this morning and she's spending the day gardening and seems ok
Life goes one etc etc.
Get busy looking after your gram. I'm sure she needs it, & it will do you good too.
Mine are gone 60+ years, but when my father died, I was too busy looking after my mother, who was not very worldly, to have time to fall apart about dad.
Strangely, it was when my mother died 25 years later, that I really grieved for, & desperately missed my dad.
Mine are gone 60+ years, but when my father died, I was too busy looking after my mother, who was not very worldly, to have time to fall apart about dad.
Strangely, it was when my mother died 25 years later, that I really grieved for, & desperately missed my dad.
Hey man, sorry to hear the news 
It does get easier, I still wear my grandads St Christopher which helps me remember him. I see my gran at every chance and make sure she knows I love her and I'm always there for her.
It's got to a point where I can't quite remember how he sounded, I've got videos of some of our fun times together which helps!
Just keep your head up and keep smiling!
It does get easier, I still wear my grandads St Christopher which helps me remember him. I see my gran at every chance and make sure she knows I love her and I'm always there for her.
It's got to a point where I can't quite remember how he sounded, I've got videos of some of our fun times together which helps!
Just keep your head up and keep smiling!
Butter Face said:
I've never felt so empty in my life
Any ideas on how to cope for the next few days would be appreciated, especially the funeral
I'm a tAny ideas on how to cope for the next few days would be appreciated, especially the funeral
t and sorry about your loss. However the answer for you is to remember that you need to look after your nan. If you feel like st, imagine how she feels. I.e. You will get through this by remembering that it's not all about you. (Said to me at my Nan's funeral by my wife - Get a grip and go and look after your dad. - It helped me get my grieve in persepective)
A few years ago I lost someone who was everything to me. A father, an uncle and the older brother and mate who takes the piss but loves you.
It gets easier but just sometimes you really think. Late one evening (about midnight) driving through the countryside I just felt the urge to stop the car in a layby, stare at the stars and have a good cry.
You never forget them, but you get used to living without them
It gets easier but just sometimes you really think. Late one evening (about midnight) driving through the countryside I just felt the urge to stop the car in a layby, stare at the stars and have a good cry.
You never forget them, but you get used to living without them
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