3 things that make you instantly dislike someone

[hman]

bexVN said:

I have cousins on the police force, I have good friends on the police. They arr very hardworking, good people. I would not want to know them if they weren't. Ridiculous to tar everyone.

For me it is
Over familiarity when you're strangers (esp personal space invaders!)
Bullying behaviour
Arrogance

the irony in your post is that pretty much every cop I have every had the displeasure of dealing with has those traits!

Why has no-one leapt to the defence of gingers anyway -looooooooooooooool

[hman]

chevy-stu said:

hman said:

I do!

so long as they aren't a cop - you need to be a certain "special" kind of person to become a cop.

I have enough experience of them to know.

It's only a job. They are all still people, no matter what "special" kind you mean....

it's like a dislike for anyone that's been, has been or wants to be a greengrocer.

If you think its just "a job" then you have no idea what it is to be a cop.

and you're simile with a greengrocer is even more ignorant.

[JRewing]

I can only think of two policemen I've ever known on first name terms.

One was deathly boring but if he was on duty when I stumbled out of the pub he'd always give me a lift home, which was pretty great.
He's long since retired though.

The other was a really nice guy. Very polite and friendly and good fun for a quiet pint or a barbecue. I lost touch with him a few years ago, but personally I've only had positive experiences with my personal relationships with policemen.

[chevy-stu]

hman said:

chevy-stu said:

hman said:

I do!

so long as they aren't a cop - you need to be a certain "special" kind of person to become a cop.

I have enough experience of them to know.

It's only a job. They are all still people, no matter what "special" kind you mean....

it's like a dislike for anyone that's been, has been or wants to be a greengrocer.

If you think its just "a job" then you have no idea what it is to be a cop.

and you're simile with a greengrocer is even more ignorant.

I'm just trying to point out, as others have too, that they are still just people, and like all of us, some are more pleasant than others. I've had my share of negative interfaces with the BiB, mainly in my younger days, but more often they are trying to do the 'right' thing and mostly I find them to be decent people.
It's a very hard job, and like someone else pointed out, I wouldn't do it, and having known a few coppers, they do regard it as a job, a tough and involving job.... but not a lifestyle..

[prand]

JRewing said:

I can only think of two policemen I've ever known on first name terms.

One was deathly boring but if he was on duty when I stumbled out of the pub he'd always give me a lift home, which was pretty great.
He's long since retired though.

The other was a really nice guy. Very polite and friendly and good fun for a quiet pint or a barbecue. I lost touch with him a few years ago, but personally I've only had positive experiences with my personal relationships with policemen.

Perhaps then that the people who have a dislike for policeman says more about them, their attitude and behaviour than the police themselves?

Although reading about recent revelations (Hillsborough, Steven Lawrence, Andrew Mitchell etc) has done a lot to wipe the innocence over police behaviour from my eyes.

[JRewing]

prand said:

Perhaps then that the people who have a dislike for policeman says more about them, their attitude and behaviour than the police themselves?

Although reading about recent revelations (Hillsborough, Steven Lawrence, Andrew Mitchell etc) has done a lot to wipe the innocence over police behaviour from my eyes.

There are good people and dheads in any line of work, in the same way as there are open-minded and prejudiced people everywhere. I would say that the truth lies somewhere in that.

I know a butcher who is a complete cock, but I don't think that all butchers are.....
ETA: to expand to that, his name is Ian. Just because of him, Ian Brady and Ian Huntley, should we assert that every person named Ian is a ?
Although in fairness, he's better than Brady and Huntley.

Edited by JRewing on Wednesday 9th April 10:51

[Martin_M]

I can imagine that if you've had a really bad experience with the police then you may well take a while to get over it - I suppose it depends on the circumstances doesn't it. As a former special constable of two and a half years I had the pleasure of working with some of the nicest and most decent people I've ever had the pleasure of working with. I also worked with a few idiots who either hated the job or were on a constant power trip but they were in the minority. What I can say is that I never witnessed anyone being dealt with unfairly - firm but fair was the way the vast majority of my former colleagues conducted themselves.

Then one night, I was driving home with my fiancee in the car (corsa vxr at the time), well aware that a police van was sitting at the roundabout I had just exited. The van followed me up through my estate until I pulled into my driveway. There were 4 officers in the van and the male in the passenger seat told me to watch my speed. Inside, I was infuriated as I had kept within the speed limit throughout. Remaining professional, I basically stated that I wasn't speeding and that they were mistaken. Threats were then made towards me, I was spoken/shouted over and spoken to like a piece of scum. I was so annoyed at how they had treated me that I couldn't eat the take-away we had just bought and I escalated a complaint to inspector level and it was resolved to my satisfaction.

The point of highlighting the above is to emphasise that although I was very angry, I'm intelligent and level-headed enough to know that the two officers who engaged with me in the van are not typical of every officer out there and that they simply required further training (and some manners!). I suppose it's like the MPs and their expenses claims - some bad apples make them all look bad but it's absurd to suggest that every person is the same.

[thehawk]

Martin_M said:

Remaining professional, I basically stated that I wasn't speeding and that they were mistaken. Threats were then made towards me, I was spoken/shouted over and spoken to like a piece of scum. I was so annoyed at how they had treated me that I couldn't eat the take-away we had just bought and I escalated a complaint to inspector level and it was resolved to my satisfaction.

Well I think that's generally been my experience, take out the fact that certain personalities will become police officers, the fact is they seem to treat people as if they are criminals. For that vast majority of us that are not criminals and never will be it's an affront to be spoken to or treated as if we have done something wrong.

[Vladimir]

Rather shocked at the attitude towards the Police. You become a Policeman if you have a desire to help out. And in my experience, most do that.

Another trait I HATE, is blokes, usually Dads, who feel the need to project an alpha male air of being "hard." It's usually an arms out (like they're muscle bound) perma scowl. FFS lighten up people and play with your kids!

[hman]

The Crack Fox said:

hman said:

bexVN said:

I have cousins on the police force, I have good friends on the police. They arr very hardworking, good people. I would not want to know them if they weren't. Ridiculous to tar everyone.

the irony in your post is that pretty much every cop I have every had the displeasure of dealing with has those traits!

FWIW every cop I've ever dealt with, including those who have given me fines, points or earache about an iffy car, both here and abroad, have been courteous and reasonable. I sure as hell wouldn't want to do their job though.

You should include the negative traits in the original comment by bexvn, leaving them out to try to twist it around is tttery of the highest order.

[Captain Muppet]

thehawk said:

Martin_M said:

Remaining professional, I basically stated that I wasn't speeding and that they were mistaken. Threats were then made towards me, I was spoken/shouted over and spoken to like a piece of scum. I was so annoyed at how they had treated me that I couldn't eat the take-away we had just bought and I escalated a complaint to inspector level and it was resolved to my satisfaction.

Well I think that's generally been my experience, take out the fact that certain personalities will become police officers, the fact is they seem to treat people as if they are criminals. For that vast majority of us that are not criminals and never will be it's an affront to be spoken to or treated as if we have done something wrong.

I was stopped for a random breath test by a massive git who treated me like I was guilty, despite hot having had a drink in days. After I passed the test he warned me not to drink and drive and I was allowed to go. I didn't like that policeman.

On the other hand the one who caught me speeding was nice, and funny.

They just seem like people to me.

[Martin_M]

thehawk said:

Well I think that's generally been my experience, take out the fact that certain personalities will become police officers, the fact is they seem to treat people as if they are criminals. For that vast majority of us that are not criminals and never will be it's an affront to be spoken to or treated as if we have done something wrong.

But don't you see that you're generalising with that statement? The fact is, that "in your experience", they seem to treat people as if they are criminals. Yes, many others will have had similar experiences but then again, many others will have had positive experiences. As with many things in life, we're all too quick to highlight and focus on the negatives.

[JRewing]

hman said:

You should include the negative traits in the original comment by bexvn, leaving them out to try to twist it around is tttery of the highest order.

But they weren't referring to policemen, so they're irrelevant to his point about policemen.....

[_rubinho_]

1. Unpunctuality.
2. Untidiness.
3. Inarticulacy.

If you can't turn up on time looking and sounding like you don't care about what people think about you then I won't and you can FRO. Putting in minimal effort to get the basics right is so important but there seems to be a lackadaisical attitude towards it from so many.

[QueenBee]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

226bhp said:

3. Signing off with 'Take care'.

Why on Earth would that grate upon anyone? I often say that and it has never occurred to me it might be irritating. Would like to know so I can stop saying it if there's a good reason to.

Take care for now

[QueenBee]

Captain Muppet said:

QueenBee said:

Part of anyone'swoman's daily routine surely should be exfoliate and scrub, moisturise and brush teeth at least twice a day - and use mouthwash!,!!!!!!!!! I think this should be a whole new thread lol

Fixed that for you.

I think you'll find most men exfoliate by taking clothes off and drying themselves with a towel after washing.

Surely a quick scrub down everywhere with a mitt to get rid of dead dry smelly skin and sweat is norm. Try it. It means staying fresh for longer. That's what I mean by exfoliate. It is an easy way of having smooth, beautiful fresh smelling skin IMHO.

[Monkeylegend]

QueenBee said:

Captain Muppet said:

QueenBee said:

Part of anyone'swoman's daily routine surely should be exfoliate and scrub, moisturise and brush teeth at least twice a day - and use mouthwash!,!!!!!!!!! I think this should be a whole new thread lol

Fixed that for you.

I think you'll find most men exfoliate by taking clothes off and drying themselves with a towel after washing.

Surely a quick scrub down everywhere with a mitt to get rid of dead dry smelly skin and sweat is norm. Try it. It means staying fresh for longer. That's what I mean by exfoliate. It is an easy way of having smooth, beautiful fresh smelling skin IMHO.

So is shaving apparently

[MGZRod]

3 things:

Brothel Creepers
Jeans that are tighter than leggings (On men, tts)
football shirts.

I'm a nice guy.

[McAndy]

1. Lying;
2. Being sleazy/creepy;
3. Not answering the question.

[QueenBee]

Monkeylegend said:

QueenBee said:

Captain Muppet said:

QueenBee said:

Part of anyone'swoman's daily routine surely should be exfoliate and scrub, moisturise and brush teeth at least twice a day - and use mouthwash!,!!!!!!!!! I think this should be a whole new thread lol

Fixed that for you.

I think you'll find most men exfoliate by taking clothes off and drying themselves with a towel after washing.

Surely a quick scrub down everywhere with a mitt to get rid of dead dry smelly skin and sweat is norm. Try it. It means staying fresh for longer. That's what I mean by exfoliate. It is an easy way of having smooth, beautiful fresh smelling skin IMHO.

So is shaving apparently

FFS Monkey. Stop it or I might have to meet you and show you - there is hardly anything there when I do shave lol.






I guess for the rest of my PH life I will be haunted by my pimply prickly minge. I will learn to be less honest lol.