Are all children annoying?
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So you don't like kids but fall for a single mother your in for some excitement.
kids are kids you will never change it.
5-12 are the best years but our first 2 have been amazing watching my daughter make a mess break thing etc but that doesn't matter to me its how she is growing up. Some people will never get to see what we see daily with our kids.
I can imagine you tucked away in a room rocking on the chair and shaking as you thinking of the mess and noise
So you don't like kids but fall for a single mother your in for some excitement.
kids are kids you will never change it.
5-12 are the best years but our first 2 have been amazing watching my daughter make a mess break thing etc but that doesn't matter to me its how she is growing up. Some people will never get to see what we see daily with our kids.
I can imagine you tucked away in a room rocking on the chair and shaking as you thinking of the mess and noise
Kids will usually try things once or twice to see if they can get away with it, if you let them then that's your own fault. They will continue to replicate this behaviour as you haven't reprimanded them for doing so.
My niece is turning into a brat but only when she's around her parents because they allow her to act that way. If I am looking after her she behaves how I want her to without being a programmed robot (unfortunately). She's at the age where she has learnt when and why to say please and thank you but only does this when prompted by her parents which they only do on the odd occasion but never misses them when she's with me.
Last point, they aren't as stupid as people make them out to be, they know nearly exactly what they can get away with and what they can't.
My niece is turning into a brat but only when she's around her parents because they allow her to act that way. If I am looking after her she behaves how I want her to without being a programmed robot (unfortunately). She's at the age where she has learnt when and why to say please and thank you but only does this when prompted by her parents which they only do on the odd occasion but never misses them when she's with me.
Last point, they aren't as stupid as people make them out to be, they know nearly exactly what they can get away with and what they can't.
What's all this "5-12 are the best years" guff? Far from it. That's when they turn from being a cute cuddly thing, entirely dependent on adults, into a precocious know-it-all brat with a stinking attitude. Once through this they're like young adults and can be conversed with again. Seriously, during the 5-12 years think about having them adopted or lock them in the attic.
Impasse said:
What's all this "5-12 are the best years" guff? Far from it. That's when they turn from being a cute cuddly thing, entirely dependent on adults, into a precocious know-it-all brat with a stinking attitude. Once through this they're like young adults and can be conversed with again. Seriously, during the 5-12 years think about having them adopted or lock them in the attic.
Do you promise... Ari said:
Impasse said:
What's all this "5-12 are the best years" guff? Far from it. That's when they turn from being a cute cuddly thing, entirely dependent on adults, into a precocious know-it-all brat with a stinking attitude. Once through this they're like young adults and can be conversed with again. Seriously, during the 5-12 years think about having them adopted or lock them in the attic.
Do you promise... Children are children. It's the fking parents I hate. Nothing worse than a new parent, or a mum (normally young) with a pushchair. Use your pushchair as a weapon, love, and I'll just stand on your child. Won't hurt me, especially in my workboots.
Of course, kids being left to scream and scream in shops, beer gardens etc make me want to separate their mouths from their lungs with a chainsaw, but again that's the parents "letting them learn" or somesuch new age ste. Parents - don't be so fking selfish. Not everyone wants to experience your stbag kids as much as you do. Crying/screaming/squealing isn't cute. It's easily as annoying as someone playing an ice cream van chime at full blast ten minutes after you've put your little cherubs to bed. (A good prank, by the way. A speaker out of the patio door with a youtube vid of an ice cream van siren/chime at 8pm, and it should cause a little bit of disruption/argument in houses with kids...)
Of course, kids being left to scream and scream in shops, beer gardens etc make me want to separate their mouths from their lungs with a chainsaw, but again that's the parents "letting them learn" or somesuch new age ste. Parents - don't be so fking selfish. Not everyone wants to experience your stbag kids as much as you do. Crying/screaming/squealing isn't cute. It's easily as annoying as someone playing an ice cream van chime at full blast ten minutes after you've put your little cherubs to bed. (A good prank, by the way. A speaker out of the patio door with a youtube vid of an ice cream van siren/chime at 8pm, and it should cause a little bit of disruption/argument in houses with kids...)
Children aren't taught "NO" incase it upsets them, my grandson is 8m old, he already knows what "no" means and he already recognises the tone of voice that means no too, it's not hard, he gets a bit upset by it sometimes however it won't scar him for the rest of his life and hopefully it is a good start to a happy and well behaved young man.
Edited by HTP99 on Friday 18th July 14:10
OpulentBob said:
Children are children. It's the fking parents I hate. Nothing worse than a new parent, or a mum (normally young) with a pushchair. Use your pushchair as a weapon, love, and I'll just stand on your child. Won't hurt me, especially in my workboots.
No you won't. OpulentBob said:
Of course, kids being left to scream and scream in shops, beer gardens etc make me want to separate their mouths from their lungs with a chainsaw, but again that's the parents "letting them learn" or somesuch new age ste. Parents - don't be so fking selfish. Not everyone wants to experience your stbag kids as much as you do. Crying/screaming/squealing isn't cute. It's easily as annoying as someone playing an ice cream van chime at full blast ten minutes after you've put your little cherubs to bed. (A good prank, by the way. A speaker out of the patio door with a youtube vid of an ice cream van siren/chime at 8pm, and it should cause a little bit of disruption/argument in houses with kids...)
That, I agree with. And the exact same for dogs. Somehow a dog whining at 100db is 'acceptable' to the owner and everyone else should just accept it. markh1973 said:
Ari said:
Impasse said:
What's all this "5-12 are the best years" guff? Far from it. That's when they turn from being a cute cuddly thing, entirely dependent on adults, into a precocious know-it-all brat with a stinking attitude. Once through this they're like young adults and can be conversed with again. Seriously, during the 5-12 years think about having them adopted or lock them in the attic.
Do you promise... I don't have kids and have never wanted them so my opinion isn't worth a hill of beans , from my observations of friends and their kids there is a vast difference between the kids whose parents actually parent and those who are trying to be their offsprings best friend.
Some friends I barely see now as they seem unable or unwilling to parent whilst other friends kids are a joy to be around.
Some friends I barely see now as they seem unable or unwilling to parent whilst other friends kids are a joy to be around.
I agree with the OP but I agree with some others too. My other half and I chose not to have kids. I was put off when my nephew came along. He was exactly as the OP describes in every way. I couldn't bear to be in the same room as him and I never babysat him. I feel bad saying this, but I had no love for him. He was this way until he reached about 11 and went to high school and then he changed. Well, he is now 26 with a kid of his own (who is showing all the traits) and I truly do love my nephew who has turned out a fine young man. My great nephew is wild yeah but he is the cutest wee tyke and I have a bit more patience now so I do love him a lot. If I'd had my own kids then I am sure I would have disciplined them a bit more. As my great dad always said 'You might not like kids in general but you always love your own'. I feel guilty now. However, we have a cat who has all the tantrums etc of what the OP describes!!!
Acehood said:
TwistingMyMelon said:
Blimey the people you hang about with dont parent their kids too well, yeah you get the traits you mention, but not all the time 24-7!!! You also fail to mention the good points and all the FUN and affection!!!
OP you sound like a miserable 15 year old with a charisma vacuum
She understands but will obviously choose the child over me if things continue to be difficult.OP you sound like a miserable 15 year old with a charisma vacuum
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