Are all children annoying?

[fausTVR]

I find the best advice is always 'keep away from children', but oddly it's only found written on plastic bags and such like.

I'm with Philip Larkin on this one, it is the parents' fault.

My sister and I had an almost fanatically strict upbringing, very much from the old 'seen and not heard' school of parenting. It was too far the other way, but at least we turned out hard working and self reliant people, if somewhat repressed and introspective in my case. This not withstanding, I'd rather be me than some obnoxious, grasping blow-hard.

Edited by fausTVR on Sunday 20th July 15:11

[iva cosworth]

I'm annoyed the OP used the abbreviation SO,took me 5 minutes to get it.

Why not put partner,wife,girlfriend,anything else ?

Significant Other if anyone else is still confused.

[The Vambo]

Yeah but they are funny, unintentional swearing, repeating awkward things that adults say and snot that almost touches the floor crack me up.

There was a thread somewhere about things that kids say, so so funny.

[mike-r]

iva cosworth said:

I'm annoyed the OP used the abbreviation SO,took me 5 minutes to get it.

Why not put partner,wife,girlfriend,anything else ?

Significant Other if anyone else is still confused.

I thought he'd gone for Superior Officer, but significant other makes more sense. Kinda.

[Shaolin]

So the OP is in a parental role and comes on here to complain about the lack of parenting and its results on a child he is in a position to parent, hmmmm.....

[Rich_W]

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(ITS A JOKE! SO DON'T EVEN START!)

[Kentish]

I get angry with stupid people who make comments or pull the face when one of ours are going into meltdown.

A child is not a machine, it won't always respond to direct instructions.

We hate the tantrum too and try to derail it but a 2 year old cant communicate as an adult can and this can be frustrating for them too.

Sometimes it makes the situation worse by trying to silence them.

[VinceFox]

I'm not a big fan of children so i tend not to go to places or socialise with people who've got theirs with them at the time.

Sounds like the OP is in an entirely wrong relationship.

[Joey Ramone]

Some sympathy for the OP. A lot of children are loathsome. One dear friend's child is such a brat I simply won't have him in my house. And my next door neighbour's kids think that shrieking is an acceptable form of conversation for 9 hours, even after they have been told to be quiet by their parents. But then again other friends of mine have such delightful kids that I acknowledge the injustice of making blanket assertions. However, I still don't see the appeal enough to want them. I spend time in the company of a near neighbour's 9 year old boy (she's a friend of my wife and recently separated so we go round to say hello and see that she's ok) and me and the kid always have a laugh as I'm conscious that his dad doesn't appear to give two sts about him. But fk me, the amount of attention he craves/requires is absolutely staggering. And he simply cannot sit or stand still. So within about an hour I've simply had enough and want to leave. The thought of having two of him in my house for 18 years would give me an embolism.

As for the mess, we had a friend and her toddler round one day. I basically ended up with a strawberry jam tide-mark two feet up all the walls of the house. He can fk off if he thinks he's coming round again.

[Terminator X]

Tyre Smoke said:

OP, you are clearly trolling, but I'll bite....

My ten year old is extremely polite, cheeky and quick witted. He is highly intelligent and can mix easily in adult company. He thoroughly enjoys going to football with me home and away and can give as good as he gets with the banter, without being obnoxious. He can eat with a knife and fork or if called for a Big Mac without covering himself or anyone else in food/drink.

He has an Xbox and uses it only with permission and is currently reading Bravo Two Zero for his own amusement.

I would like to say all this is down to his mother and I as good parents, but it's not entirely. We instilled in him at an early age socially acceptable behaviour and manners. The rest has been largely down to him. Of course I am immensely proud of him as any parent should be.

I suggest you look at parents and their behaviour before you point the finger at their offspring.

This is what I mostly see too day to day; the exception seems to be the ones in the Daily Wail which I never read of course.

TX.

[9mm]

Kentish said:

I get angry with stupid people who make comments or pull the face when one of ours are going into meltdown.

A child is not a machine, it won't always respond to direct instructions.

We hate the tantrum too and try to derail it but a 2 year old cant communicate as an adult can and this can be frustrating for them too.

Sometimes it makes the situation worse by trying to silence them.

All that most people expect is that you remove the child throwing the tantrum from the environment. This only involves public spaces such as restaurants or supermarkets but many parents seem unwilling to take this course of action. Instead, everyone else has to listen to the racket. Take the child outside, walk it round the block, take it for a drive or take any other action which means that the tantrum is between you and the child not imposed on everyone else. Is that too much to ask?

[MajorProblem]

badgers_back said:

Easy don't hang around with chavs and chavs children.

This.

However, I think now (especially in the last fifteen years) the chavs are more prominent as we go about our everyday business and certainly where I live they outnumber good parents and children ten to one. You would get a very skewed view of life if you based it on what you saw in North Lincolnshire, also they are accepted and that is another problem, there is no shame in living that way, a bit like if a twelve year old got pregnant in the 1960s, the whole family would be shamed and probably embarrassed to even step out in the street, nowadays no one really bats an eyelid if a 10year old has a kid.

When I went to Hong Kong a few years back and it was incredible, no screaming kids, all well behaved, all ages on public transport, restaurants etc all very family focused. It took a day or two to get used to it.

As said you have to elevate your level of company, I can understand this is hard as people on the dole seem to be able to match working peoples lifestyles / attend the same schools / holiday at the same resorts etc etc. it's certainly a sore point in our street.

[Gaffer]

Ex-Pat Brats are even worse, especially the ones in the GCC...oh and the GCC brats - don't even get me started, I can feel my blood pressure rising at the thought of their fat flabby faces.

There isn't a single day where I don't want to dispatch one or several.

I hate kids anyways, but having (any kind of) contact with EPB's /GCC Brats is my own personal hell...

Once they get to about 18, they start to get a bit better.

I have always avoided my friends when they get pregnant and then only chat via Skype till the children are well, not kids. My mates know and understand and for that I am grateful, plus they find it highly amusing to threaten me with bringing them round when I am being an arsey cow.

So it all works out for everyone.

Claire

[HTP99]

badgers_back said:

Easy don't hang around with chavs and chavs children.

I find the worse parents and kids are those that you would class as "middle class", these are the sort of parents who like new fangled parenting where you are friends with your kids and you let them express themselves as it brings our their personality and you must never say "no" to them.

[Sid's Dad]

Gaffer said:

Ex-Pat Brats are even worse, especially the ones in the GCC...oh and the GCC brats - don't even get me started, I can feel my blood pressure rising at the thought of their fat flabby faces.

There isn't a single day where I don't want to dispatch one or several.

I hate kids anyways, but having (any kind of) contact with EPB's /GCC Brats is my own personal hell...

Once they get to about 18, they start to get a bit better.

I have always avoided my friends when they get pregnant and then only chat via Skype till the children are well, not kids. My mates know and understand and for that I am grateful, plus they find it highly amusing to threaten me with bringing them round when I am being an arsey cow.

So it all works out for everyone.

Claire

Why don't you help us all out and explain what the juddering fk all those acronyms mean? Then we might have a clue what you're talking about....

[Gaffer]

Takes 2 seconds to google GCC - Gulf Cooperation Council

[Shaolin]

Gaffer said:

Takes 2 seconds to google GCC - Gulf Cooperation Council

Yeh, of course we should all Google what you mean. Now what the juddering fk is the Gulf Cooperation Council all about? It's almost as if you can't see things from the point of view of others and expect the world to make an effort to understand you on your terms, just like ....

[PugwasHDJ80]

Sid's Dad said:

Gaffer said:

Ex-Pat Brats are even worse, especially the ones in the GCC...oh and the GCC brats - don't even get me started, I can feel my blood pressure rising at the thought of their fat flabby faces.

There isn't a single day where I don't want to dispatch one or several.

I hate kids anyways, but having (any kind of) contact with EPB's /GCC Brats is my own personal hell...

Once they get to about 18, they start to get a bit better.

I have always avoided my friends when they get pregnant and then only chat via Skype till the children are well, not kids. My mates know and understand and for that I am grateful, plus they find it highly amusing to threaten me with bringing them round when I am being an arsey cow.

So it all works out for everyone.

Claire

Why don't you help us all out and explain what the juddering fk all those acronyms mean? Then we might have a clue what you're talking about....

indeed

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[quote] I have always avoided my friends when they get pregnant and then only chat via Skype till the children are well, not kids.

wow- so you stop being a mate because one of your friends has done something entirely normal. That's pretty self absorbed.

[Hoofy]

Shaolin said:

Yeh, of course we should all Google what you mean. Now what the juddering fk is the Gulf Cooperation Council all about? It's almost as if you can't see things from the point of view of others and expect the world to make an effort to understand you on your terms, just like ....

[VinceFox]

Gnu compiler collection?