July 26th 2014. Day 17 at the Mental Health Clinic.
Discussion
So a late, great update.
Ever since getting out of the clinic, I had loads of trouble reintegrating. Couldn't find a job and couldn't pay my rent, so earlier this year I lost my apartment where I lived with my dog.
My ID expired right around that time, which I hadn't checked or anything because that was one of the last things on my mind, and without a valid ID, I couldn't work or get a new apartment.
I still collected unemployment money and feck me if I told the local job agencies that I no longer had an address - I collected their money as long as I could.
The dog and I moved in with my girlfriend in Germany.
At the time, while looking for a proper flat of her own, she lived in a shared apartment with three people, one ultra cool dude and two girls that just so happened to be totally, thoroughly anti. It also happens they were sisters. So from day one, they were fighting my and my dog's staying there despite having agreed to it previously during a discussion - I was ready to move into a cheap hotel at a moment's notice but they were okay with it.
Only then did I move what little stuff I had in (a TV and a PS4, another source of great complaints. I used headphones when gaming so no way was anybody disturbed, but the sisters felt differently. The other guy that lived there was on our side though which furthered the infighting).
The dog was a big source of complaints despite them getting to know her before and actually seeming to like her. She is a Border Collie - Aussie Shep mix, so extremely intelligent and eager to please (cue jokes). She doesn't bark, she doesn't crap around the place and I brushed her every other day and vacuumed every day, so doggy hair was minimal.
Since they were fancy party girls, when they weren't interning hungover at local hospitals for their med studies, they used to go out and party during the night, work in the morning and sleep in the afternoon - I made sure never to be home with the dog when they were home and took her for long walks and swims in the Main river.
The other roommate loved the dog and often went for walks with us.
But all in all, we had to GTFO, so we found a flat for ourselves, barely more expensive than the roommating before. We moved there and there was constant tension because I wasn't able to get a job in Germany due to not being able to officially move there, due to not having a valid ID.
I can't get a valid ID because I don't have an address in my home country, and can't get an address without an ID.
Also can't apply for a job or get any kind of wage or benefit at all.
I end up selling my Lupo GTI track car for a ridiculous sum after advertising it for months, and have since heard that the guy who bought it had several run ins with the local 5-0 and the car is currently damaged and impounded. How bad it is, no one can tell me. Sad end for a wonderful car.
Without an address, can't have car insurance, so I kept running my Subaru on the insurance and ended up putting it in one of the many empty barns in Bavaria while my girlfriend (who we'll get to soon) figures out insurance and takes the car on as her own.
After a few months, my money ran out and that's when the s
t hit the fan. The fights became more constant, the distance between us grew and it ended.
While it may sound harsh on her, I just won't go into details of the split - all I can say is that my condition and my stress and my issues affected her immensely and she truly gave her best to support me where she could, until it was just... too much.
She loves my dog like her own and vice versa so she kindly took her on as I moved out.
Ever since I've essentially been on the streets, living off what little there is.
I am no beggar, and a clever bit of rationing can actually last you quite long if you've no rent or somesuch to pay.
I was in contact with different support groups for homeless people and today, my dossier has been turned over to a commission that'll decide if I can have a legal address and permanent overnight place. That way, I can apply for a job and find a place of my own.
I have been staying at my sister's place for a couple of weeks now ever since the temperatures drop, and can stay here until I hear from the commission.
Nights at homeless shelters are as bad as they sound. Unfortunately, a lot of the homeless people that spend the night there have serious addiction problems and are... uncomfortably loud and intrusive when you're trying to sleep, always with your valuable stuff locked up.
The only good thing that happened is that I saw my son for the first time in almost one and a half years, after a lot of debating. He turned 4 this week and the experience was quite strange. He obviously recognized but since he last saw me when he was 2 and a half, the memories aren't all there.
My ex's new boyfriend, who moved in shortly after I'd been moved out, is called "Papa" by my son, which doesn't help.
The feeling is weird.
I so longed to see my son (and still do, and hopefully will see him again soon), and after it was finally possible, I left... unhappy.
In an empty way.
But anyways, I will see if I remember to update this thread with the commission's decision once I hear it.
TL;DR
Depressed guy goes homeless
Ever since getting out of the clinic, I had loads of trouble reintegrating. Couldn't find a job and couldn't pay my rent, so earlier this year I lost my apartment where I lived with my dog.
My ID expired right around that time, which I hadn't checked or anything because that was one of the last things on my mind, and without a valid ID, I couldn't work or get a new apartment.
I still collected unemployment money and feck me if I told the local job agencies that I no longer had an address - I collected their money as long as I could.
The dog and I moved in with my girlfriend in Germany.
At the time, while looking for a proper flat of her own, she lived in a shared apartment with three people, one ultra cool dude and two girls that just so happened to be totally, thoroughly anti. It also happens they were sisters. So from day one, they were fighting my and my dog's staying there despite having agreed to it previously during a discussion - I was ready to move into a cheap hotel at a moment's notice but they were okay with it.
Only then did I move what little stuff I had in (a TV and a PS4, another source of great complaints. I used headphones when gaming so no way was anybody disturbed, but the sisters felt differently. The other guy that lived there was on our side though which furthered the infighting).
The dog was a big source of complaints despite them getting to know her before and actually seeming to like her. She is a Border Collie - Aussie Shep mix, so extremely intelligent and eager to please (cue jokes). She doesn't bark, she doesn't crap around the place and I brushed her every other day and vacuumed every day, so doggy hair was minimal.
Since they were fancy party girls, when they weren't interning hungover at local hospitals for their med studies, they used to go out and party during the night, work in the morning and sleep in the afternoon - I made sure never to be home with the dog when they were home and took her for long walks and swims in the Main river.
The other roommate loved the dog and often went for walks with us.
But all in all, we had to GTFO, so we found a flat for ourselves, barely more expensive than the roommating before. We moved there and there was constant tension because I wasn't able to get a job in Germany due to not being able to officially move there, due to not having a valid ID.
I can't get a valid ID because I don't have an address in my home country, and can't get an address without an ID.
Also can't apply for a job or get any kind of wage or benefit at all.
I end up selling my Lupo GTI track car for a ridiculous sum after advertising it for months, and have since heard that the guy who bought it had several run ins with the local 5-0 and the car is currently damaged and impounded. How bad it is, no one can tell me. Sad end for a wonderful car.
Without an address, can't have car insurance, so I kept running my Subaru on the insurance and ended up putting it in one of the many empty barns in Bavaria while my girlfriend (who we'll get to soon) figures out insurance and takes the car on as her own.
After a few months, my money ran out and that's when the s
t hit the fan. The fights became more constant, the distance between us grew and it ended.While it may sound harsh on her, I just won't go into details of the split - all I can say is that my condition and my stress and my issues affected her immensely and she truly gave her best to support me where she could, until it was just... too much.
She loves my dog like her own and vice versa so she kindly took her on as I moved out.
Ever since I've essentially been on the streets, living off what little there is.
I am no beggar, and a clever bit of rationing can actually last you quite long if you've no rent or somesuch to pay.
I was in contact with different support groups for homeless people and today, my dossier has been turned over to a commission that'll decide if I can have a legal address and permanent overnight place. That way, I can apply for a job and find a place of my own.
I have been staying at my sister's place for a couple of weeks now ever since the temperatures drop, and can stay here until I hear from the commission.
Nights at homeless shelters are as bad as they sound. Unfortunately, a lot of the homeless people that spend the night there have serious addiction problems and are... uncomfortably loud and intrusive when you're trying to sleep, always with your valuable stuff locked up.
The only good thing that happened is that I saw my son for the first time in almost one and a half years, after a lot of debating. He turned 4 this week and the experience was quite strange. He obviously recognized but since he last saw me when he was 2 and a half, the memories aren't all there.
My ex's new boyfriend, who moved in shortly after I'd been moved out, is called "Papa" by my son, which doesn't help.
The feeling is weird.
I so longed to see my son (and still do, and hopefully will see him again soon), and after it was finally possible, I left... unhappy.
In an empty way.
But anyways, I will see if I remember to update this thread with the commission's decision once I hear it.
TL;DR
Depressed guy goes homeless
Only just seen this thread. Sorry to hear of your troubles but, as has been said a number of times, please be assured there are people who are genuinely rooting for you.
MarvGTI said:
The only good thing that happened is that I saw my son for the first time in almost one and a half years, after a lot of debating. He turned 4 this week and the experience was quite strange. He obviously recognized but since he last saw me when he was 2 and a half, the memories aren't all there.
Try not to worry about this too much. Most people don't remember much before their 5th birthday in any case, so don't worry about what has been before. MarvGTI said:
I so longed to see my son (and still do, and hopefully will see him again soon), and after it was finally possible, I left... unhappy.
That's understandable in the circumstances. Things will get better. All that really matters is you care about him.Right, f*ck this st.
You need help, even though you're not asking for it and many of us on here are in a position to help - even if it's just a few quid to tide you over.
So, do you have access to paypal or access to a bank a/c? If so, PM me
If you don't, I'd be happy to do some legwork and gather any offerings from PH'ers. Either way, we (PH'ers) can definitely help
t.You need help, even though you're not asking for it and many of us on here are in a position to help - even if it's just a few quid to tide you over.
So, do you have access to paypal or access to a bank a/c? If so, PM me
If you don't, I'd be happy to do some legwork and gather any offerings from PH'ers. Either way, we (PH'ers) can definitely help
TheJimi said:
Right, f*ck this st.
You need help, even though you're not asking for it and many of us on here are in a position to help - even if it's just a few quid to tide you over.
So, do you have access to paypal or access to a bank a/c? If so, PM me
If you don't, I'd be happy to do some legwork and gather any offerings from PH'ers. Either way, we (PH'ers) can definitely help
Yep, don't be shy, Marv. Set something up. If you can't I can have money Paypal'd to me and I'll drive to Würzburg or wherever you are and bring you the cash.t.You need help, even though you're not asking for it and many of us on here are in a position to help - even if it's just a few quid to tide you over.
So, do you have access to paypal or access to a bank a/c? If so, PM me
If you don't, I'd be happy to do some legwork and gather any offerings from PH'ers. Either way, we (PH'ers) can definitely help
I think enough people here know me or at least where I can be found if I decide to do a runner with fifty three quid.
TheJimi said:
Right, f*ck this st.
You need help, even though you're not asking for it and many of us on here are in a position to help - even if it's just a few quid to tide you over.
So, do you have access to paypal or access to a bank a/c? If so, PM me
If you don't, I'd be happy to do some legwork and gather any offerings from PH'ers. Either way, we (PH'ers) can definitely help
If that dick who's dad crashed his car can get a 'Justgiving' page why cant this guy? I've got a few spare quid to help someone who genuinely needs it.t.You need help, even though you're not asking for it and many of us on here are in a position to help - even if it's just a few quid to tide you over.
So, do you have access to paypal or access to a bank a/c? If so, PM me
If you don't, I'd be happy to do some legwork and gather any offerings from PH'ers. Either way, we (PH'ers) can definitely help
Great response!
As I see it, we've got two options -
A) Wait until Marv comes back and see what he says
or
B) Go ahead and start a collection
Since I suggested it, I'm happy to do a collection via paypal, although, equally, it would perhaps make more sense for Adenauer to collect it since he's in the same country as Marv, and thus, will have more options open to him.
Oh and Marv, you've not got a choice in this; you're getting it and that's the end of it.
TheJimi has spoken
As I see it, we've got two options -
A) Wait until Marv comes back and see what he says
or
B) Go ahead and start a collection
Since I suggested it, I'm happy to do a collection via paypal, although, equally, it would perhaps make more sense for Adenauer to collect it since he's in the same country as Marv, and thus, will have more options open to him.
Oh and Marv, you've not got a choice in this; you're getting it and that's the end of it.
TheJimi has spoken
Edited by TheJimi on Thursday 12th November 15:34
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