July 26th 2014. Day 17 at the Mental Health Clinic.

July 26th 2014. Day 17 at the Mental Health Clinic.

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CinnamonFan

980 posts

196 months

Monday 21st March 2016
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What a super update! thumbup

GloverMart

11,821 posts

215 months

Monday 21st March 2016
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MarvGTI said:
Hello to all of PH,

here's the update I wanted to do yesterday, but the day went a bit differently than planned and I ended up having no access to a computer.

I really want to thank all of Pistonheads for their support and the kind words, and reading up on the thread now, it is truly astonishing.

I would also like to thank the generous people that have sent money to Russ (5PotTurbo) that he passed on to me. I already bought a pair of sneakers during the spring sale here to replace my old, worn, full-of-holes shoes that I used to wear. No more wet feet and dirty socks! Thank you very, very much!

And last but not least, I want to thank Russell for taking time out of his Saturday afternoon to meet me in the city. If anyone else from here has had the pleasure of meeting him, I am sure they would agree that he's a great guy. To do that for a stranger, you have to be.

Now the update:

For about 5 and a half weeks now, I have been a regular at the shelter in the city where I live - thus I was able to get on a waiting list for a bed of my own and with it, I got tickets to go eat at Stemm vun der Strooss, which is like a social restaurant for people with little to no means - a meal costs 50 cents.

Since the 8th of March, I've finally had my own bed. I do sleep in a room with 3 other guys, but the atmosphere is amicable for the most part. I've met a couple of cool blokes, two of whom I have become friends with, and I stay away from the addicts and their poisonous atmosphere.A social worker is helping with with all the bureaucratic nightmare fuel I have to go through to get back into the system.

I was able to register the shelter as my address, so I have again been able to look for work. I have already sent many applications, some for jobs I would very much like to do, other for jobs to keep my neck above water whist I look for something that suits me.

This morning, I picked up my new ID and used it to open a bank account - the anonimity is officially over now, I reckon.

I have been trying to see my son on as regular a basis as possible, and thankfully this has largely been happening. It's fantastic to have the little man back in my life, and our relationship has been continually improving to the point where now, we can have a productive father-son relationship based more on friendship than authority. I love him very much and would hate to be a figure of authority in his life (which I have only known as a negative so far).

The court affair is still ongoing, tomorrow (March 22nd) will be judgment day. I am practically crapping my pants from anxiety and nervousness but alas, I am somewhat optimistic.

Overall, I am looking to be in an appartment by June or July provided I can find work by May, which should be feasable. After that, babysteps back into life and putting money aside to be able to go on holiday with my son.

I will update this more as events unfold.
Thanks for the update, have been a lurker on here since your story appeared. Just wanted to emphasise the bit in bold... baby steps are the way to go because that way, you don't race ahead and miss stuff out. Set yourself a little goal each day, achieve it and move on to the following days one. Make your steps realistic otherwise you'll get down and might go the wrong way.

Good luck fella and I wish you all the best.

monthefish

20,443 posts

231 months

Tuesday 22nd March 2016
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MarvGTI said:
Hello to all of PH,

here's the update I wanted to do yesterday, but the day went a bit differently than planned and I ended up having no access to a computer.

I really want to thank all of Pistonheads for their support and the kind words, and reading up on the thread now, it is truly astonishing.

I would also like to thank the generous people that have sent money to Russ (5PotTurbo) that he passed on to me. I already bought a pair of sneakers during the spring sale here to replace my old, worn, full-of-holes shoes that I used to wear. No more wet feet and dirty socks! Thank you very, very much!

And last but not least, I want to thank Russell for taking time out of his Saturday afternoon to meet me in the city. If anyone else from here has had the pleasure of meeting him, I am sure they would agree that he's a great guy. To do that for a stranger, you have to be.

Now the update:

For about 5 and a half weeks now, I have been a regular at the shelter in the city where I live - thus I was able to get on a waiting list for a bed of my own and with it, I got tickets to go eat at Stemm vun der Strooss, which is like a social restaurant for people with little to no means - a meal costs 50 cents.

Since the 8th of March, I've finally had my own bed. I do sleep in a room with 3 other guys, but the atmosphere is amicable for the most part. I've met a couple of cool blokes, two of whom I have become friends with, and I stay away from the addicts and their poisonous atmosphere.A social worker is helping with with all the bureaucratic nightmare fuel I have to go through to get back into the system.

I was able to register the shelter as my address, so I have again been able to look for work. I have already sent many applications, some for jobs I would very much like to do, other for jobs to keep my neck above water whist I look for something that suits me.

This morning, I picked up my new ID and used it to open a bank account - the anonimity is officially over now, I reckon.

I have been trying to see my son on as regular a basis as possible, and thankfully this has largely been happening. It's fantastic to have the little man back in my life, and our relationship has been continually improving to the point where now, we can have a productive father-son relationship based more on friendship than authority. I love him very much and would hate to be a figure of authority in his life (which I have only known as a negative so far).

The court affair is still ongoing, tomorrow (March 22nd) will be judgment day. I am practically crapping my pants from anxiety and nervousness but alas, I am somewhat optimistic.

Overall, I am looking to be in an appartment by June or July provided I can find work by May, which should be feasable. After that, babysteps back into life and putting money aside to be able to go on holiday with my son.

I will update this more as events unfold.
Great update. Really glad to hear you're making progress.

I've bolded one particular bit. Success will come down to your tenacity. Keep going. Even if those applications don't succeed, make more applications. I'd employ someone with the right attitude over someone with an excellent CV, so its just a case of finding the right employer/job. It is out there for you.

Sounds cheesy, but the only time you fail is when you give up. I know it must be tough for you, but you've already come a long way - don't forget that.

5potTurbo

12,539 posts

168 months

Tuesday 22nd March 2016
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It was my pleasure to finally meet you, Marv, and it was so good to hear positive news.
Please send me a text when you can about the Court stuff today?

If I can do anything to help, I will, as I said.

Show us your new shoes, too. You needed them, mate!

Babysteps. thumbup

5potTurbo

12,539 posts

168 months

Thursday 24th March 2016
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I'd like to publicly thank the wag who very recently transferred some more money to me for Marv, with the credit narrative of "nearly new sex toys".
Cheers for that!
roflroflrofl


You know who you are!!



Marv: as soon as you know, please do tell us about the closed door court hearing this week. Thanks, mate!

Adenauer

18,580 posts

236 months

Tuesday 29th March 2016
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5potTurbo said:
I'd like to publicly thank the wag who very recently transferred some more money to me for Marv, with the credit narrative of "nearly new sex toys".
Cheers for that!
roflroflrofl
I didn't really think that one through.

I did a statement at the weekend and it showed that I had transferred some money to a bloke in Luxembourg for some nearly new sex toys. banghead

Vaud

50,515 posts

155 months

Tuesday 29th March 2016
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Adenauer said:
5potTurbo said:
I'd like to publicly thank the wag who very recently transferred some more money to me for Marv, with the credit narrative of "nearly new sex toys".
Cheers for that!
roflroflrofl
I didn't really think that one through.

I did a statement at the weekend and it showed that I had transferred some money to a bloke in Luxembourg for some nearly new sex toys. banghead
Blimey, what are the chances of that happening to 2 posters on PH?

Did you receive them? You could start a thread in SP&L if you haven't, though as it was a bank transfer you won't have much joy.

ali_kat

31,992 posts

221 months

Tuesday 29th March 2016
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Adenauer said:
5potTurbo said:
I'd like to publicly thank the wag who very recently transferred some more money to me for Marv, with the credit narrative of "nearly new sex toys".
Cheers for that!
roflroflrofl
I didn't really think that one through.

I did a statement at the weekend and it showed that I had transferred some money to a bloke in Luxembourg for some nearly new sex toys. banghead
Has your wife seen that yet? laugh

5potTurbo

12,539 posts

168 months

Tuesday 29th March 2016
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I sent him a pair of MY sweaty boxer shorts!



Marv: any news from last week's Court hearing, mate?

Adenauer

18,580 posts

236 months

Tuesday 29th March 2016
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ali_kat said:
Adenauer said:
5potTurbo said:
I'd like to publicly thank the wag who very recently transferred some more money to me for Marv, with the credit narrative of "nearly new sex toys".
Cheers for that!
roflroflrofl
I didn't really think that one through.

I did a statement at the weekend and it showed that I had transferred some money to a bloke in Luxembourg for some nearly new sex toys. banghead
Has your wife seen that yet? laugh
I thought it prudent to show her and admit I'm a moron before she found it. thumbup

ali_kat

31,992 posts

221 months

Tuesday 29th March 2016
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5potTurbo

12,539 posts

168 months

Tuesday 12th April 2016
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Brief update: Marv's progressing, slowly but surely, he told me by text message.

The Court hearing mentioned before happened behind closed doors, and Marv wasn't present . There's anpther (open court) hearing today on the same topic where Marv will be present, so I presume the Judge didn't reach a conclusion in the last hearing. I know Marv's anxious about this, so I'm thinking of him today and hope it turns out the best way.

I can't recall if Marv went into the Court case details before, so I can't say too much. Sorry.

Vaud

50,515 posts

155 months

Thursday 26th May 2016
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Any update available?

JAGS

745 posts

208 months

Thursday 26th May 2016
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MarvGTI said:
Also, vegetarians don't pass gas it seems. Can we end global warming by refusing to eat meat ?
Not true. I'm vegetarian and I can easily produce enough gas to fuel a small town. Always thought meat eaters would produce less! Looks like we're f***ed either way.



Jokes aside, keep your chin up and remain positive.

LeoZwalf

2,802 posts

230 months

Wednesday 24th August 2016
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It's three months since we heard anything in here. I don't want to be pushy and I'm sure nobody else does; this is a very personal thing for Marv and I'm sure everyone here would be OK with simply knowing that he is alright, without details if preferred.

Greets to Marv, hope you're fine and things are improving smilesmile

RC1807

12,539 posts

168 months

Wednesday 24th August 2016
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I've not heard anything from Marv for a while. I trust he's OK.

LeoZwalf

2,802 posts

230 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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Another month has passed and we've heard nothing. Fingers still crossed for Marv's wellbeing.

LeoZwalf

2,802 posts

230 months

Tuesday 22nd November 2016
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2 months more and total silence.

Does anyone here know anything? I hope he is OK.

RC1807

12,539 posts

168 months

Tuesday 22nd November 2016
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Thanks for your concern.
This popped up and I tried calling him, but no answer for the moment. I sent him a text message.
I'll let you know as/when I receive a reply.


Adenauer

18,580 posts

236 months

Wednesday 23rd November 2016
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5pot?

What's with the change of name?