Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Robertj21a said:
steelbreeze said:
Yeah, religion mainly, but seeing some of the messes that my friends end up in, I’m glad of it - you won’t believe the number I’ve been agony aunt too. Saying that, I’d love to meet the right person but just have no interest in timewasters or competing to land some player who I have to check up on all the time. I know it’s old-fashioned but mutual trust, understanding and compatibility is more important to me. And I reckon the sex within such a relationship would be better and more meaningful too. But it's just my opinion, I know that it's not for everyone. I was just suggesting that dating sites should more be open - or people should be more honest about their intentions on them whatever they might be - in order to cut down on disappointment.
Thanks for posting that, it makes a nice change from all the rubbish that's usually on here.Timmy40 said:
love it.
For my part I'm an Alpha male in terms of looks, physique and wealth, but never had any interest in shagging around. It just doesn't and didn't interest me. Quite happy being a family man, no interest in straying inspite of the ease with which it could be done. IMO men who indulge in the playing of the field often end up unhappy/lonely/confused/resentful because if you date too many women I think you completely lose sight of the fact that making a relationship work is very different to getting a shag on a date. It becomes 'child in a sweet shop syndrome'. Anyway that's my tuppence.
This is exactly the problem he will have. He's 29/30 now and must have slept with 250+ women at a very conservative estimate. (10 alone in the Christmas holidays for gods sake) For my part I'm an Alpha male in terms of looks, physique and wealth, but never had any interest in shagging around. It just doesn't and didn't interest me. Quite happy being a family man, no interest in straying inspite of the ease with which it could be done. IMO men who indulge in the playing of the field often end up unhappy/lonely/confused/resentful because if you date too many women I think you completely lose sight of the fact that making a relationship work is very different to getting a shag on a date. It becomes 'child in a sweet shop syndrome'. Anyway that's my tuppence.
It's like being able to have any car in the world and being asked to choose only one to keep..
I can't say I envy his personal life as its like a second job to him...
1974nc said:
This is exactly the problem he will have. He's 29/30 now and must have slept with 250+ women at a very conservative estimate. (10 alone in the Christmas holidays for gods sake)
It's like being able to have any car in the world and being asked to choose only one to keep..
I can't say I envy his personal life as its like a second job to him...
Sex is nice, but there's more to a relationship than that. It's like being able to have any car in the world and being asked to choose only one to keep..
I can't say I envy his personal life as its like a second job to him...
There's the little kindnesses that you do for each other, and there's the big stuff like supporting each other through illness and death of relatives. Someone to ask for advice, or just sympathise with a bad day. Someone who makes you laugh.
Sleeping around may give a feeling of intimacy, but it's not the real thing.
Not to slightly derail this thread, but depending on how the weekend goes, I could have been with 3 people called Kate over 3 days, been furiously masturbating into a sock, or anything in between.
Actually, first time in a long while Ive been nervous of a date.
Reference the bloke mentioned above sleeping with lots of different women, its always better to have lots of no strings attached fun with 1 woman rather than one-off liaisons with 10. You never really get to know someones body, kinks or interests in 1 night, and its that which makes 'great' sex. While the chase is fun, endlessly chasing 'something different' is time consuming and for me, doesnt make you that happy.
Actually, first time in a long while Ive been nervous of a date.
Reference the bloke mentioned above sleeping with lots of different women, its always better to have lots of no strings attached fun with 1 woman rather than one-off liaisons with 10. You never really get to know someones body, kinks or interests in 1 night, and its that which makes 'great' sex. While the chase is fun, endlessly chasing 'something different' is time consuming and for me, doesnt make you that happy.
Timmy40 said:
1974nc said:
He's had some stunning women but is also a equal opportunities shagger
love it. For my part I'm an Alpha male in terms of looks, physique and wealth, but never had any interest in shagging around. It just doesn't and didn't interest me. Quite happy being a family man, no interest in straying inspite of the ease with which it could be done. IMO men who indulge in the playing of the field often end up unhappy/lonely/confused/resentful because if you date too many women I think you completely lose sight of the fact that making a relationship work is very different to getting a shag on a date. It becomes 'child in a sweet shop syndrome'. Anyway that's my tuppence.
I am finding Tinder is the best way round things as long as you can think of a witty reply but annoyingly you find they are miles and miles away as you extend your range after all local possibilities are exhausted.
Great for chatting and already got some ladies phone number after less then 10 messages.
Great for chatting and already got some ladies phone number after less then 10 messages.
I like reading this thread, it's a right mix. Some good stories, some cringe worthy stories, good advice, crap advice. Little bit of everything.
I've been on various apps and sites for a little while after a long term relationship broke up.
I've got a harder job than most though as I am a dreaded ginger!! it rules out probably about 97% of women.
I've had a few dates here and there. Lots of messages but I usually get bored and just stop replying.
Had a few messages where they just send "hi" so I engage the conversation, how are you etc, ask some relevant questions and then get something along the lines of "ok thanks" in reply...no effort in answering anything or asking anything. What are these women trying to achieve? Are they mass messaging and just seeing what replies? Then pick the best.
I only have been on free apps so far but thinking about trying a paid one, see if the results are any better.
Or apply to the undateables - ginger is classed as a disability, right?
I've been on various apps and sites for a little while after a long term relationship broke up.
I've got a harder job than most though as I am a dreaded ginger!! it rules out probably about 97% of women.
I've had a few dates here and there. Lots of messages but I usually get bored and just stop replying.
Had a few messages where they just send "hi" so I engage the conversation, how are you etc, ask some relevant questions and then get something along the lines of "ok thanks" in reply...no effort in answering anything or asking anything. What are these women trying to achieve? Are they mass messaging and just seeing what replies? Then pick the best.
I only have been on free apps so far but thinking about trying a paid one, see if the results are any better.
Or apply to the undateables - ginger is classed as a disability, right?
andyr30 said:
I like reading this thread, it's a right mix. Some good stories, some cringe worthy stories, good advice, crap advice. Little bit of everything.
I've been on various apps and sites for a little while after a long term relationship broke up.
I've got a harder job than most though as I am a dreaded ginger!! it rules out probably about 97% of women.
I've had a few dates here and there. Lots of messages but I usually get bored and just stop replying.
Had a few messages where they just send "hi" so I engage the conversation, how are you etc, ask some relevant questions and then get something along the lines of "ok thanks" in reply...no effort in answering anything or asking anything. What are these women trying to achieve? Are they mass messaging and just seeing what replies? Then pick the best.
I only have been on free apps so far but thinking about trying a paid one, see if the results are any better.
Or apply to the undateables - ginger is classed as a disability, right?
Why bother trying to talk to people if they don't make an effort to talk to you?I've been on various apps and sites for a little while after a long term relationship broke up.
I've got a harder job than most though as I am a dreaded ginger!! it rules out probably about 97% of women.
I've had a few dates here and there. Lots of messages but I usually get bored and just stop replying.
Had a few messages where they just send "hi" so I engage the conversation, how are you etc, ask some relevant questions and then get something along the lines of "ok thanks" in reply...no effort in answering anything or asking anything. What are these women trying to achieve? Are they mass messaging and just seeing what replies? Then pick the best.
I only have been on free apps so far but thinking about trying a paid one, see if the results are any better.
Or apply to the undateables - ginger is classed as a disability, right?
I have been having huge daily text messages with my current Mrs for almost the last 5 years.
We met up last year for the first time after a relationship I was in ended.
My ex , I was lucky to get a "lol" from after the first month! lol - I appreciate some people are more chatty and outgoing but if you are serious about meeting people you will be outgoing and engage in a decent 2 way conversation.
Within about 5 or 10 message exchanges you can tell if they are worth talking to.
I have 3 mates who are gingers and they all have wicked GFs :-)
xjay1337 said:
andyr30 said:
I like reading this thread, it's a right mix. Some good stories, some cringe worthy stories, good advice, crap advice. Little bit of everything.
I've been on various apps and sites for a little while after a long term relationship broke up.
I've got a harder job than most though as I am a dreaded ginger!! it rules out probably about 97% of women.
I've had a few dates here and there. Lots of messages but I usually get bored and just stop replying.
Had a few messages where they just send "hi" so I engage the conversation, how are you etc, ask some relevant questions and then get something along the lines of "ok thanks" in reply...no effort in answering anything or asking anything. What are these women trying to achieve? Are they mass messaging and just seeing what replies? Then pick the best.
I only have been on free apps so far but thinking about trying a paid one, see if the results are any better.
Or apply to the undateables - ginger is classed as a disability, right?
Why bother trying to talk to people if they don't make an effort to talk to you?I've been on various apps and sites for a little while after a long term relationship broke up.
I've got a harder job than most though as I am a dreaded ginger!! it rules out probably about 97% of women.
I've had a few dates here and there. Lots of messages but I usually get bored and just stop replying.
Had a few messages where they just send "hi" so I engage the conversation, how are you etc, ask some relevant questions and then get something along the lines of "ok thanks" in reply...no effort in answering anything or asking anything. What are these women trying to achieve? Are they mass messaging and just seeing what replies? Then pick the best.
I only have been on free apps so far but thinking about trying a paid one, see if the results are any better.
Or apply to the undateables - ginger is classed as a disability, right?
I have been having huge daily text messages with my current Mrs for almost the last 5 years.
We met up last year for the first time after a relationship I was in ended.
My ex , I was lucky to get a "lol" from after the first month! lol - I appreciate some people are more chatty and outgoing but if you are serious about meeting people you will be outgoing and engage in a decent 2 way conversation.
Within about 5 or 10 message exchanges you can tell if they are worth talking to.
I have 3 mates who are gingers and they all have wicked GFs :-)
They message first though so not sure what they are expecting? Bored and seeing how many replies they can get? God knows.
Lots have in their profile something like "don't just send 'hi' or 'hi, how are you'" and then that's all they send!?
http://www.mensxp.com/relationships/relationship-p...
For once, a click-bait hit the nail on the head. I can relate to it completely
For once, a click-bait hit the nail on the head. I can relate to it completely
I don't imagine this comes as much of a surprise with the growth in the use of dating apps and people using them for hooking up for casual sex.
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/rap...
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/rap...
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