Match.com (Volume 6)

[Feirny]

I'm no alpha male by any stretch and I always did well. I've got the looks (so I'm told) but nothing else, I'm not confident enough. I'm just myself, which I think helps massively.

[Carthage]

DuncanM said:

I love reading your posts Carthage

Human beings from planet Earth is what we are, why make it more complicated than that.

Thank you!

[steelbreeze]

Robertj21a said:

steelbreeze said:

Yeah, religion mainly, but seeing some of the messes that my friends end up in, I’m glad of it - you won’t believe the number I’ve been agony aunt too. Saying that, I’d love to meet the right person but just have no interest in timewasters or competing to land some player who I have to check up on all the time. I know it’s old-fashioned but mutual trust, understanding and compatibility is more important to me. And I reckon the sex within such a relationship would be better and more meaningful too. But it's just my opinion, I know that it's not for everyone. I was just suggesting that dating sites should more be open - or people should be more honest about their intentions on them whatever they might be - in order to cut down on disappointment.

Thanks for posting that, it makes a nice change from all the rubbish that's usually on here.

Ta

[anonymous-user]

Timmy40 said:

love it.

For my part I'm an Alpha male in terms of looks, physique and wealth, but never had any interest in shagging around. It just doesn't and didn't interest me. Quite happy being a family man, no interest in straying inspite of the ease with which it could be done. IMO men who indulge in the playing of the field often end up unhappy/lonely/confused/resentful because if you date too many women I think you completely lose sight of the fact that making a relationship work is very different to getting a shag on a date. It becomes 'child in a sweet shop syndrome'. Anyway that's my tuppence.

This is exactly the problem he will have. He's 29/30 now and must have slept with 250+ women at a very conservative estimate. (10 alone in the Christmas holidays for gods sake)
It's like being able to have any car in the world and being asked to choose only one to keep..
I can't say I envy his personal life as its like a second job to him...

[Carthage]

1974nc said:

This is exactly the problem he will have. He's 29/30 now and must have slept with 250+ women at a very conservative estimate. (10 alone in the Christmas holidays for gods sake)
It's like being able to have any car in the world and being asked to choose only one to keep..
I can't say I envy his personal life as its like a second job to him...

Sex is nice, but there's more to a relationship than that.

There's the little kindnesses that you do for each other, and there's the big stuff like supporting each other through illness and death of relatives. Someone to ask for advice, or just sympathise with a bad day. Someone who makes you laugh.

Sleeping around may give a feeling of intimacy, but it's not the real thing.

[anonymous-user]

At the moment he's happy living in his personal Boogie Nights style world.

I wouldn't like to say how long that's sustainable for before a sense of weird misogyny kicks in..

[Condi]

Not to slightly derail this thread, but depending on how the weekend goes, I could have been with 3 people called Kate over 3 days, been furiously masturbating into a sock, or anything in between.

Actually, first time in a long while Ive been nervous of a date.




Reference the bloke mentioned above sleeping with lots of different women, its always better to have lots of no strings attached fun with 1 woman rather than one-off liaisons with 10. You never really get to know someones body, kinks or interests in 1 night, and its that which makes 'great' sex. While the chase is fun, endlessly chasing 'something different' is time consuming and for me, doesnt make you that happy.

[Blown2CV]

Timmy40 said:

1974nc said:

He's had some stunning women but is also a equal opportunities shagger

love it.

For my part I'm an Alpha male in terms of looks, physique and wealth, but never had any interest in shagging around. It just doesn't and didn't interest me. Quite happy being a family man, no interest in straying inspite of the ease with which it could be done. IMO men who indulge in the playing of the field often end up unhappy/lonely/confused/resentful because if you date too many women I think you completely lose sight of the fact that making a relationship work is very different to getting a shag on a date. It becomes 'child in a sweet shop syndrome'. Anyway that's my tuppence.

when you say family man do you mean a family of men, because you're gay?

[Morningside]

I am finding Tinder is the best way round things as long as you can think of a witty reply but annoyingly you find they are miles and miles away as you extend your range after all local possibilities are exhausted.

Great for chatting and already got some ladies phone number after less then 10 messages.

[Ste1987]

What's the best way of responding to "Do you have much luck on here?" I always feel like I'm walking into a trap! Also why do women ask this question?

Edited by Ste1987 on Tuesday 9th February 11:39

[Don1]

Ste1987 said:

What's the best way of responding to "Do you have much luck on here?" I always feel like I'm walking into a trap! Also why do women ask this question?

Edited by Ste1987 on Tuesday 9th February 11:39

"Obviously, I'm talking to you."

[andyr30]

I like reading this thread, it's a right mix. Some good stories, some cringe worthy stories, good advice, crap advice. Little bit of everything.

I've been on various apps and sites for a little while after a long term relationship broke up.

I've got a harder job than most though as I am a dreaded ginger!! it rules out probably about 97% of women.

I've had a few dates here and there. Lots of messages but I usually get bored and just stop replying.

Had a few messages where they just send "hi" so I engage the conversation, how are you etc, ask some relevant questions and then get something along the lines of "ok thanks" in reply...no effort in answering anything or asking anything. What are these women trying to achieve? Are they mass messaging and just seeing what replies? Then pick the best.

I only have been on free apps so far but thinking about trying a paid one, see if the results are any better.

Or apply to the undateables - ginger is classed as a disability, right?

[xjay1337]

andyr30 said:

I like reading this thread, it's a right mix. Some good stories, some cringe worthy stories, good advice, crap advice. Little bit of everything.

I've been on various apps and sites for a little while after a long term relationship broke up.

I've got a harder job than most though as I am a dreaded ginger!! it rules out probably about 97% of women.

I've had a few dates here and there. Lots of messages but I usually get bored and just stop replying.

Had a few messages where they just send "hi" so I engage the conversation, how are you etc, ask some relevant questions and then get something along the lines of "ok thanks" in reply...no effort in answering anything or asking anything. What are these women trying to achieve? Are they mass messaging and just seeing what replies? Then pick the best.

I only have been on free apps so far but thinking about trying a paid one, see if the results are any better.

Or apply to the undateables - ginger is classed as a disability, right?

Why bother trying to talk to people if they don't make an effort to talk to you?
I have been having huge daily text messages with my current Mrs for almost the last 5 years.
We met up last year for the first time after a relationship I was in ended.
My ex , I was lucky to get a "lol" from after the first month! lol - I appreciate some people are more chatty and outgoing but if you are serious about meeting people you will be outgoing and engage in a decent 2 way conversation.

Within about 5 or 10 message exchanges you can tell if they are worth talking to.
I have 3 mates who are gingers and they all have wicked GFs :-)

[shakotan]

Ste1987 said:

What's the best way of responding to "Do you have much luck on here?"

"Until now, no"

[Adenauer]

andyr30 said:

I've got a harder job than most though as I am a dreaded ginger!! it rules out probably about 97% of women.

Use lots of after shave, pack in the stealing, and you'll be fine.

[Shnozz]

andyr30 said:

Or apply to the undateables - ginger is classed as a disability, right?

To most, I concur. But whereas I know of no male friends who have a penchant for ginge, I do know if several (fit) female friends who find ginger incredibly sexy.

[anothernameitist]

Ginger male cHnris Evans
Ginger femail Rebecca Brooks

Fil yer boots, I'm not

[andyr30]

xjay1337 said:

andyr30 said:

I like reading this thread, it's a right mix. Some good stories, some cringe worthy stories, good advice, crap advice. Little bit of everything.

I've been on various apps and sites for a little while after a long term relationship broke up.

I've got a harder job than most though as I am a dreaded ginger!! it rules out probably about 97% of women.

I've had a few dates here and there. Lots of messages but I usually get bored and just stop replying.

Had a few messages where they just send "hi" so I engage the conversation, how are you etc, ask some relevant questions and then get something along the lines of "ok thanks" in reply...no effort in answering anything or asking anything. What are these women trying to achieve? Are they mass messaging and just seeing what replies? Then pick the best.

I only have been on free apps so far but thinking about trying a paid one, see if the results are any better.

Or apply to the undateables - ginger is classed as a disability, right?

Why bother trying to talk to people if they don't make an effort to talk to you?
I have been having huge daily text messages with my current Mrs for almost the last 5 years.
We met up last year for the first time after a relationship I was in ended.
My ex , I was lucky to get a "lol" from after the first month! lol - I appreciate some people are more chatty and outgoing but if you are serious about meeting people you will be outgoing and engage in a decent 2 way conversation.

Within about 5 or 10 message exchanges you can tell if they are worth talking to.
I have 3 mates who are gingers and they all have wicked GFs :-)

Yeah they don't usually get a reply after the 2nd message if they aren't making an effort.

They message first though so not sure what they are expecting? Bored and seeing how many replies they can get? God knows.

Lots have in their profile something like "don't just send 'hi' or 'hi, how are you'" and then that's all they send!?

[Ste1987]

http://www.mensxp.com/relationships/relationship-p...

For once, a click-bait hit the nail on the head. I can relate to it completely

[Rh14n]

I don't imagine this comes as much of a surprise with the growth in the use of dating apps and people using them for hooking up for casual sex.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/rap...