Match.com (Volume 6)

[Pieman68]

Not been in here for a long while but just wanted to post a success story

Met on PoF, been together 5 years in May and the wedding is in July

I waded through some chaff before I met her, but since I did I can honestly say I couldn't be happier

As for the intimacy stuff mentioned above - she stuck with me through the most difficult of times post divorce. On the verge of having to bankrupt and had no money for dates/gifts etc. We have come out of the other side of this and I recently got a big promotion at work that has changed our lives considerably.

On the negative side, she recently lost her mum and has been having a hard time coming to terms with it. We have never been closer

I don't do Valentines day as a rule but we happen to have no kids this weekend so I am taking her away for the night on Saturday to the Dales

[Blown2CV]

Thumbs up mate all the best to you and your Mrs

[Condi]

anothernameitist said:

Ginger male cHnris Evans
Ginger femail Rebecca Brooks

Fil yer boots, I'm not

Feck off... this is my perfect woman...







Anyway, I too would like to report a success! Long story short, liked this girl for years. She had bf. Broke up with bf. Took her out for a drink. Going much better than either of us were expecting. Very scary having been single and 'having fun' for a couple of years. We shall see how it goes...

[Blown2CV]

Condi said:

anothernameitist said:

Ginger male cHnris Evans
Ginger femail Rebecca Brooks

Fil yer boots, I'm not

Feck off... this is my perfect woman...

hope you've had your hepatitis shots.

[Gretchen]

Hang on a minute.


So who do the Alpha Males marry?

[Don1]

Gretchen said:

Hang on a minute.


So who do the Alpha Males marry?

Alpha females. An equal, in other words. Luckily I found an equal the second time around...

[Condi]

Blown2CV said:

hope you've had your hepatitis shots.

Pfff, you're just not adventurous enough.

[blindswelledrat]

Don1 said:

Gretchen said:

Hang on a minute.


So who do the Alpha Males marry?

Alpha females. An equal, in other words. Luckily I found an equal the second time around...

No way. Alpha males marry subservient women with low self esteem. Proper alpha males are invariably bellends and normal women won't tolerate them for any length of time

[NBTBRV8]

blindswelledrat said:

Don1 said:

Gretchen said:

Hang on a minute.


So who do the Alpha Males marry?

Alpha females. An equal, in other words. Luckily I found an equal the second time around...

No way. Alpha males marry subservient women with low self esteem. Proper alpha males are invariably bellends and normal women won't tolerate them for any length of time

That is not quite true if we are going to be generalistic. Both types are attracted to the Alpha male based upon the woman's period in her life before she hits the point where she needs to decide to move to somebody who will be a more stable long term provider. I suggest that you read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. It is a very confronting book, almost misongynistic in a way, but it does explain the concept of how women react to Alpha and Beta males, and how beta males respond to those women who are attracted to Alpha males based on the social conditioning of the feminine view that beta men believe women want.

I don't say I condone or agree with Rollo's theory, but it is a pretty heavy argument.

[Condi]

From experience a lot of people with high power jobs have terrifying wives. If you spend all day at work making decisions, its nice to have a woman at home who can make decisions run the house, and run you if needed! Allows you to relax when not at work.

[Don1]

You need an equal. Someone you trust in all matters. Marriage is a partnership after all.

Doesn't matter if you are an Alpha, Beta or anything else.

[Gretchen]

All quite interesting.

I met a gorgeous guy on Friday night who has played Tinder since it's creation. Knows how to 'work' it perfectly. Using it for X amount of weeks selectively, lining up dates, then deleting and starting over being less selective. Waiting a few months and repeating.
The tales he told made my toes curl. He makes Council Baby look like Mother Theresa and me look like an innocent naive virgin. I'm reluctant to recount some of his stories here atm. He's 23, the world is such a different place in the new generation. I actually feel sorry for him in a way.
Ironic that a woman created it. She has a lot to answer for.

[Don1]

What are peoples thoughts on Bumble? Looks interesting (from an outsider's view).

[Blown2CV]

blindswelledrat said:

Don1 said:

Gretchen said:

Hang on a minute.


So who do the Alpha Males marry?

Alpha females. An equal, in other words. Luckily I found an equal the second time around...

No way. Alpha males marry subservient women with low self esteem. Proper alpha males are invariably bellends and normal women won't tolerate them for any length of time

yep this

[Jagmanv12]

This thread seems to have got a bit analytical of late.
So I wonder does anybody believe the idea/theory/suggestion that the ideal age of a man to a woman is 50% of his age plus 7 years?

Looking on the dating sites there doesn't seem to be many 27 year old women looking for or willing to accept 40 year old men or 32 to 50, etc.

Film stars with age gaps don't really count.

[Blown2CV]

Jagmanv12 said:

This thread seems to have got a bit analytical of late.
So I wonder does anybody believe the idea/theory/suggestion that the ideal age of a man to a woman is 50% of his age plus 7 years?

Looking on the dating sites there doesn't seem to be many 27 year old women looking for or willing to accept 40 year old men or 32 to 50, etc.

Film stars with age gaps don't really count.

ideal from his perspective does not equate to ideal from her perspective. All goes out the window if you've got a few quid though.

Not seen any links to hilarious dating profiles on here for a while...

[CharlesdeGaulle]

I always thought the half-plus-7 was the guide to a minimum rather than the ideal.

[Shnozz]

CharlesdeGaulle said:

I always thought the half-plus-7 was the guide to a minimum rather than the ideal.

Indeed.

Rather oddly I have recently been hit on by 3 women between 18 - 20, presumably all with daddy issues. As aesthetically pleasing as they might be, they do come across as wide-eyed children to me. How people happily maintain something more than a fling with a partner (male or female) of a different generation is beyond me. Even the fundamental question of what they talk about with each other? Yes, I am sure the physical side is great, for the elder of the two at least, but how can you find someone truly sexy if you can't communicate at the same levels. You can say certain folk might be mature, but the extent of that maturity cannot bridge a gap of decades and the benefit of life experiences over that time.

[Council Baby]

The dating far younger women thing does tend to show a huge number of them with some kind of instability or daddy issue, those types are far more likely to go for the older man, not saying there aren't others without issues who will, just that you're playing Russian Roulette with 5 barrels of crazy and 1 barrel of normal.

Current bird is very uncrazy didn't even give a fk about Valentine's Day with no card or flowers etc (she'll probably stab me in my sleep tonight now I've said that) 6 years younger so not desperate for kids or entrapment yet (maybe next week that'll kick in) and totally not hard work.

A far cry from when I was snapping up twenty something women as often as possible on tinder with the expectation of full blown mental within a fortnight.

[Tiggsy]

Shnozz said:

CharlesdeGaulle said:

I always thought the half-plus-7 was the guide to a minimum rather than the ideal.

Indeed.

Rather oddly I have recently been hit on by 3 women between 18 - 20, presumably all with daddy issues. As aesthetically pleasing as they might be, they do come across as wide-eyed children to me. How people happily maintain something more than a fling with a partner (male or female) of a different generation is beyond me. Even the fundamental question of what they talk about with each other? Yes, I am sure the physical side is great, for the elder of the two at least, but how can you find someone truly sexy if you can't communicate at the same levels. You can say certain folk might be mature, but the extent of that maturity cannot bridge a gap of decades and the benefit of life experiences over that time.

I'm 42, other half is 26...works perfectly. The idea you have nothing to talk about is rubbish - we talk all the time. My last partner was foreign and it's similar to that - in that they are often playing catch up on stuff I take for granted (basically - anything remotely topical that happened before 1995 is lost on her....given she was 6!)

But so what.....our last few films have been Point Break and Stakeout...I get to be twenty something all over again! We still both enjoyed Deadpool (although she thought it was childish!)

Once you are mid-twenties you are an adult....I probably age her a few years, she makes me feel WAY younger - We probably feel like a couple who are both 31/32 at most. All my mates hate that I live (and look) like I'm 10 years younger than them....its amazing what a younger person does for you gym sessions! I'm in better shape than any other time in my life - when her friends come over with their 26 year old boyfriends (friends who have joked that she's dating an "old man"), I'm pretty confident that my other half is getting a better deal (unless you're into that scrawny "new man" thing where 11 inch arms and floppy hair do it for you!.